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re: O-T Dads: Who here was over 40 when you had your first child?
Posted on 2/15/23 at 1:29 pm to BunkieWrench
Posted on 2/15/23 at 1:29 pm to BunkieWrench
I was 31 when our last of the three was born. the trend is later and later but it’s definitely easier in everything but finances the younger you are.
Posted on 2/15/23 at 1:32 pm to BunkieWrench
I had my first at 30 and i can honestly say, i realized at 35 that i would have been much happier waiting till then.
But after 40, absolutely fricking hellzzzzzz no. I’m over 40 now and there is ZERO about a new born i want to deal with
But after 40, absolutely fricking hellzzzzzz no. I’m over 40 now and there is ZERO about a new born i want to deal with
Posted on 2/15/23 at 1:33 pm to BunkieWrench
I was 42
Im tired a lot
Im tired a lot
Posted on 2/15/23 at 1:33 pm to BunkieWrench
I've shared this before here, but my wife and I had twin boys at 42. That probably extended my work life, but it's been a blast. Being more secure financially, we have been able to do things with them at a young age we couldn't with our other kids. We also have a 26 year old son, 16 year old daughter and the twins are 6. So in about 4 years I guess we will give it another go!
Posted on 2/15/23 at 1:34 pm to BunkieWrench
Shoot I’ll be 46 when the youngest goes to college.
Posted on 2/15/23 at 1:34 pm to BunkieWrench
Raises hand.
Pros: I was much more mature than my younger self and had a better understanding of how to care for someone other than myself. I was more responsible. I’d already burnt my candle at both ends, so I didn’t feel a need to live a very independent, selfish life. I was more financially stable.
Cons: Wanting a second kid gets complicated after 40, mostly for women. Always being the oldest parent in the kids’ friend groups can be a little weird.
Pros: I was much more mature than my younger self and had a better understanding of how to care for someone other than myself. I was more responsible. I’d already burnt my candle at both ends, so I didn’t feel a need to live a very independent, selfish life. I was more financially stable.
Cons: Wanting a second kid gets complicated after 40, mostly for women. Always being the oldest parent in the kids’ friend groups can be a little weird.
Posted on 2/15/23 at 1:35 pm to LootieandtheBlowfish
About the same. I'll be 47 when the youngest graduates from HS in 2 years
Posted on 2/15/23 at 1:36 pm to BunkieWrench
Unsolicited advice from not a father here, because the question seems to be getting at what age is appropriate for kids. I think the golden rule here is get your own house in order before you start expanding it. What that means to everyone is different - some have that figured out at 25, some 40, some maybe never. But it would seem that the best thing to do for the kid is to have ones shite together from their first day.
Posted on 2/15/23 at 1:37 pm to LootieandtheBlowfish
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Shoot I’ll be 46 when the youngest goes to college.
Hey, nothing wrong with that either. Congrats on that. I will be 60, but I am good with that choice we made as well.
However, I told my second wife, are you sure you want kids? We can parent my two daughters and have lots of cash flow. She was having none of that...and knew she wouldn't.
Posted on 2/15/23 at 1:39 pm to BunkieWrench
First at 37 (now 5) Second at 41 (Now 1). It's a bit tougher from an energy perspective than when I was younger, especially with the insane level of intensity our older boy has to function at. But, it is much, much better, especially the second from a appreciation perspective. You understand life much better and learn to love and really appreciate the joy these years bring. I know I would have been too lost in other pursuits when younger.
On the first child thing, try not to over worry about all the crap you don't know what's going on. They are really resilient overall and they will sleep again, poop again, eat again, etc. ENJOY!!! There's nothing like it.
On the first child thing, try not to over worry about all the crap you don't know what's going on. They are really resilient overall and they will sleep again, poop again, eat again, etc. ENJOY!!! There's nothing like it.
Posted on 2/15/23 at 1:40 pm to Celery
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Cons: Wanting a second kid gets complicated after 40, mostly for women. Always being the oldest parent in the kids’ friend groups can be a little weird.
My youngest daughter told my wife during my second oldest daughter's wedding that it's not fair, My wife asked what's not fair. She said you and dad will be more gray and older when I get married, and that's not fair. She was 9 or 10.
Posted on 2/15/23 at 1:41 pm to LSUminati
Sometimes having a kid flips the "get your shite together" switch.
Another saying is "If you wait until your lives are perfect to have kids, you never will"
Another saying is "If you wait until your lives are perfect to have kids, you never will"
Posted on 2/15/23 at 2:06 pm to BunkieWrench
Easier for you than the mom over 40... plenty folks around here are doing it, but be aware 40+ looks old as frick when you show up for tee ball practice with Braylynn, and the other dads are 30.
Posted on 2/15/23 at 2:07 pm to BunkieWrench
That sounds exhausting good luck. Mine are 7 and 10 and I just turned 40.
Posted on 2/15/23 at 2:16 pm to RockyMtnTigerWDE
I was 46 when I had my daughter.
This…
…and this couldn’t be more true.
Wouldn’t trade her for anything in the world.
This…
quote:
everything's a trade-off: I don't have the energy I did in my 20s and 30s but I'm a LOT more patient now than I was then
…and this couldn’t be more true.
quote:
The experiences of my child far outweigh anything else.
Wouldn’t trade her for anything in the world.
Posted on 2/15/23 at 2:32 pm to BunkieWrench
I was 40 when my son was born. He'll be 12 in May and is in 6th grade.
Wish I had done it sooner. Was too scared to do so (and probably too scarred by my own childhood to overcome it).
Wish I had done it sooner. Was too scared to do so (and probably too scarred by my own childhood to overcome it).
Posted on 2/15/23 at 2:54 pm to BunkieWrench
34 for my first kid; 36 for 2nd. I definitely do not have the energy at 41 for another kid. I kind of view it as a time of life thing. I had tons of energy and enthusiasm for my kids to get thru the new born phase in my mid-30s. If someone has the enthusiasm of new parents, age be darned.
I am not the oldest dad in my kids’ friend group. We live in a pretty affluent area and I’m probably slightly older than average age for the men.
I am not the oldest dad in my kids’ friend group. We live in a pretty affluent area and I’m probably slightly older than average age for the men.
This post was edited on 2/15/23 at 2:56 pm
Posted on 2/15/23 at 2:57 pm to RockyMtnTigerWDE
Never had a child, but my wife had a couple.
Posted on 2/15/23 at 3:01 pm to BunkieWrench
38 for the first, 46 for the second. It keeps you young.
Posted on 2/15/23 at 3:06 pm to XenScott
Had my last one at 45, and it’s been really cool. My oldest two were 15 and 17 at the time, and we weren’t planning on starting over. That last one, was a shocker, but she’s probably been the most fun, and I’m probably just a much calmer dad, too…
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