re: About 5 months in, still unsure about relationship

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This sounds like the kind of thing you are going to frick up. You're going to break up with what sounds like a great girl that actually cares about you because you don't feel this mythical passion. Here's whats going to happen: You're going to break up with her. She will be devastated but because she actually sounds like a good catch, she will find someone new and eventually make that dude a great wife. You will date some sluts, find passion with a total nutjob that will eventually make you miserable... And then pine for the girl that was actually a good person and good girlfriend for the rest of your life. Good luck.

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Sounds right, flip side is if he stays, he will ruin this girl and frick her life up by not being good to her.

End it and pine for her once you realize what you don't now.

You seem like a selfish a-hole. Spare this girl your selfish assholiness and get out now. Next time, don't whine online for validation from strangers for your a-hole behavior.

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I don't want to frick up a good thing with a good woman, but I also don't want to be in something only for the comfort and security that a good woman gives. This might just boil down to me not knowing what the frick I want right now.

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No shite!

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I'm 31

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You've got time to dick around and make money before you get married and have kids, but I'd say that if that is the route you want to go by the time you hit 35 it's getting to be nut cutting time.

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Both. She's just not that great in bed and I don't really have the drive to give it to her. We don't really have sex very often as a result.

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And she’s a red head? This is unfathomable.

Haven’t read whole thread but does she have a good job?

Sounds like me and my (now) wife. I wasn’t completely sold until maybe close to a year of dating. Been together over seven years now and married four. Happier than ever and son just turned 1.

You definitely don’t need to compare yourself to your divorced friend.

If you find a moderately hot girl that loves you and is not bat shite crazy, you need to hold on to her.

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Well, I'm not going to ruin anyone, and I'm not going to be "bad" to anyone. I know that life is WAY too short to be in any kind of deal like that. I'm a caring person that gets off on doing nice things for others. If I'm in it, I'm at least going to try.

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If she expresses the desire to get more serious like move in together or brings up marriage..basically up the ante then you would be a bit of a shite to lead her on if you didnt feel the same. But for now it sounds like yall are dating..exclusively maybe but just dating..so chill and just see where things go

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Enough code words Let’s just be open and honest. I think we all know you’re talking about sticking her finger in your butt while she jacks you off.

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spit some coffee out on that one.

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Haven’t read whole thread but does she have a good job?

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Yes, she just started a new job that I'd consider "good."

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Sounds like me and my (now) wife. I wasn’t completely sold until maybe close to a year of dating. Been together over seven years now and married four. Happier than ever and son just turned 1.

You definitely don’t need to compare yourself to your divorced friend.

If you find a moderately hot girl that loves you and is not bat shite crazy, you need to hold on to her.

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Solid

Sounds like you are settling. Don’t settle - it sucks and people might be upset with you for a while, but this is YOUR life and you only get one chance to be happy.

As long as you are healthy and fit for your age hold out hope that you’ll find the true ONE. I did that and alienated friends and family multiple times. They compared me to other guys who threw away good women and wound up alone and unhappy to the point where I doubted myself. This happened regularly to me from age 27 to like age 36.

But then I finally found the one and everyone admired me for sticking to my guns and ending up with an amazing girl who blows everyone’s minds - and most importantly she blows my mind. So happy and grateful I trusted myself and didn’t settle.

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This sounds like the kind of thing you are going to frick up. You're going to break up with what sounds like a great girl that actually cares about you because you don't feel this mythical passion. Here's whats going to happen: You're going to break up with her. She will be devastated but because she actually sounds like a good catch, she will find someone new and eventually make that dude a great wife. You will date some sluts, find passion with a total nutjob that will eventually make you miserable... And then pine for the girl that was actually a good person and good girlfriend for the rest of your life. Good luck.

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This x 1000. If you are
A). Not gay
B). Attracted to her and also get along as friends
C). Can see her as a good mother to your children
Then she’s a keeper.

YES women are a dime a dozen; but, finding one you can live with is much rarer. Don’t frick this up.