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Posted on 6/7/26 at 6:16 pm to
Posted by Bayou
Boudin, LA
Member since Feb 2005
43317 posts
Posted on 6/7/26 at 6:16 pm to
Why on earth did you pump so much time, energy, and cash into something not in writing? That's on you, dude.
Posted by TigerFanatic99
South Bend, Indiana
Member since Jan 2007
36365 posts
Posted on 6/7/26 at 6:18 pm to
Poison the pond and then infest it with an herbicide resistant algae, and mass spread weed seed across the property.
Posted by Lou Loomis
A pond. Ponds good for you.
Member since Mar 2025
2099 posts
Posted on 6/7/26 at 6:53 pm to
Sorry to hear that. People go crazy when there is money involved. It certainly reveals one’s true character. And usually it reveals that most people have none.
Posted by W2NOMO
Member since Jul 2025
3076 posts
Posted on 6/7/26 at 7:03 pm to
quote:

Why on earth did you pump so much time, energy, and cash into something not in writing? That's on you, dude.
yup. it is on me. And I’m owning it. I’ll never trust or talk to her again.
Posted by Bard
Definitely NOT an admin
Member since Oct 2008
59930 posts
Posted on 6/7/26 at 7:51 pm to
This is why it's so important to have a will and to let all the beneficiaries know who is getting what ahead of time.

I've known people who were scared or just felt it to be too morbid/strange to talk about with their parents, kids, etc. It's worth getting through if you can avoid shite like this.

Sorry you're having the troubles.
Posted by wookalar1013
up ta camp
Member since Jun 2017
2501 posts
Posted on 6/7/26 at 7:56 pm to
Good advice.
When my girlfriend’s dad died he left everything to her - stepmother got nothing. It wasn’t a million bucks but not far off. Stepmother went after her hard, multiple lawsuits. Stepmother wound up getting killed by a tornado in the middle of all this. It’s not funny but it kind of is
Posted by PowerTool
The dark side of the road
Member since Dec 2009
23328 posts
Posted on 6/7/26 at 8:01 pm to
Sucks man.

My mom made sure I got the small acreage of old Cajun sugarcane property while she still could before any of my siblings could say anything about it.
Posted by danilo
Member since Nov 2008
26168 posts
Posted on 6/7/26 at 8:07 pm to
Nobody can screw you over as much as family can
This post was edited on 6/7/26 at 9:10 pm
Posted by jeffsdad
Member since Mar 2007
25224 posts
Posted on 6/7/26 at 8:21 pm to
So she "owns" the two acres.

You own the pond with a lot of acreage included that surrounds the property. the work you did was mainly on the acres you own now.

Correct?
Posted by Sofaking2
Member since Apr 2023
21932 posts
Posted on 6/7/26 at 8:37 pm to
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my advice is to kill them. Family who would betray their own deserve the worst fate imaginable. Sorry for the bullshite you’ve had to endure

LOL, that’s one way to go for sure. My preference is don’t spend time dwelling on the lives of bad people. I have bad people in my family. I basically let them go. Once he gets this all worked out just focus on his quality of life.
Posted by jeffsdad
Member since Mar 2007
25224 posts
Posted on 6/7/26 at 8:40 pm to
If this is correct….. I’d put in a tall fence on the border of the property blocking her view. It really wouldn’t need to be very long, just long enough to block her view from house. And you could use resalvaged boards, ie, a poor looking fence.

Also, put up some survey stakes near the entrance.make in known your putting in a storage unit complex. If she asks say the construction people explained where the best places was to put them and that against her property line.
Posted by Disco Ball
Denham Springs
Member since May 2025
1770 posts
Posted on 6/7/26 at 8:41 pm to
quote:

So she "owns" the two acres.

You own the pond with a lot of acreage included that surrounds the property. the work you did was mainly on the acres you own now.

Correct?


He doesn't know
Legally he can't inherit anything without his father's estate going through probate or going through "a succession" as we call it here in LA.
Inheritence laws in Louisiana protect him a bit more than inheritence laws in other states but his father passed 12 years ago and it appears he and his siblings, if any, never attempted to finalize their father's estate which is bizarre considering there's a 2nd wife and her family that will be trying to run interference and hide his assets.
Posted by jeffsdad
Member since Mar 2007
25224 posts
Posted on 6/7/26 at 8:49 pm to
So he doesn’t know if he even owns the surrounding land?
Posted by dallastigers
Member since Dec 2003
10900 posts
Posted on 6/7/26 at 8:56 pm to
quote:

It was my Great Grandfthers

Who gave it to my Grandfather.

Who gave it to my dad. (Who is passed in 2014)

Now in the ownership of stepmother, who now has put it in her will it goes to her daughters..

But no one sure told me that when I was bulldozing brush, building ponds and cleaning up these past 25 years.


As long as it’s not thru manipulation or fraud I can understand some variances and even changes with parents passing away at different times and with their actual children as stuff could have happened while living that equalizes it some.

But for a step parent to take land that has been handed down multiple generations and give to her own kid who isn’t blood related to the family and not to the actual next generation that it had been promised is just wrong. I hope you find out that she is in the wrong. What a freaking bitch.
Posted by Jim Rockford
Member since May 2011
105802 posts
Posted on 6/7/26 at 9:01 pm to
quote:

It was my Great Grandfthers

Who gave it to my Grandfather.

Who gave it to my dad. (Who is passed in 2014)

Now in the ownership of stepmother, who now has put it in her will it goes to her daughters..


If the facts are as stated it was your father's separate property and your stepmother doesn't own it unless he transferred it to her or left it to her in his will. You need a lawyer ASAP to review the succession documents and do a title search to establish exactly who owns the property.
Posted by soccerfüt
Location: A Series of Tubes
Member since May 2013
75796 posts
Posted on 6/7/26 at 9:09 pm to
quote:

Long since past family members
They are now “passed” but in the past.
Posted by Disco Ball
Denham Springs
Member since May 2025
1770 posts
Posted on 6/7/26 at 9:12 pm to
quote:

So he doesn’t know if he even owns the surrounding land?


According to the OP's original post this was land the Great Grandpa and then Grandpa and then Dad owned and he just assumed would magically pass to him without any legal proceedings and/or documents.
The succession of his father's estate will tell all but it appears he's not aware his father's estate was ever probated. If it was he would have been involved unless there was a "legal" will excluding him from his father's estate. (Unlikely)
This is actually a good thing and if no one has ever opened his father's succession he needs to be at the courthouse first thing tomorrow morning and open the succession in his name so he is in control.
This post was edited on 6/7/26 at 9:15 pm
Posted by CAD703X
Liberty Island
Member since Jul 2008
94332 posts
Posted on 6/7/26 at 9:19 pm to
quote:

Land deals you gotta put them in writing.
THIS!!!

ask me how i know. family says all kinds of things; my mom took care of her sister and spent close to 100k on her out of her own pocket and was supposed to get her house (worth about 20-40k..north side of Monroe..) but of course nothing was ever set up legally...

so now there's about 37 family members laying claim to the house and i just opted out completely. i don't give a shite what happens to it. i feel bad for my mom (who is long since deceased) but for her it wasn't about the money..just sucks we rolled with such an incorrect assumption for decades.

so the house will quite frankly, go to hell.

this is how you get abandoned property. 37 family members each with a stake no one agreeing to anything with anyone else.
Posted by Jim Rockford
Member since May 2011
105802 posts
Posted on 6/7/26 at 9:22 pm to
That reminds me of a story. There are about 80 acres near where I live that someone originally purchased in the late 1800s. No one ever did a succession on it during the succeeding generations and now there are over a hundred known heirs and probably many more unknown. One of the descendants pays the taxes to keep it from going to a sheriff's sale but no one wants to go to the expense of unsnarling the title. So there it sits.
Posted by WWII Collector
Member since Oct 2018
9236 posts
Posted on 6/7/26 at 9:22 pm to
quote:

So she "owns" the two acres.

You own the pond with a lot of acreage included that surrounds the property. the work you did was mainly on the acres you own now.

Correct?


That is correct... But please remember family promises for 20 years.

Thank You all..

Too much to say. Too many people to reply too. But I thank each of you.

All will be well.. I know it. God sees everything.. I will remoply more tomorrow.. But in closing I wish to say...

I collect WWII.. Each and everything connected with the past is important to me. Wheter it be a letter home or 5 acres where my grandfather plowed potatoes in 1931

Oh.. Btw... 1 man.. 1887 - 50 acres - 8 Kids... That's 6 Acres each...




I was able to purchase the 1/2 acre where it all began... The house all 8 kids were born in... It is the pioneer home in the above picture.




Not only did they deceive me, but the deceived by 82 Mother who has vested interest. Who even went to help the Step Mother in 2018 after heart surgery...

Family Betray runs very deep. But I understand many, many things. Even others people actions.

The Good Lord will Bless me as Long I do the best that I can for Me, my immediate family, animals and us towards a better future and goals.

I continue to help assist my other side of the family with our service industry, real estate developments and endeavors.

The OT did not disappoint... I hope that I haven't ether.

I just want to sit in my study and write screenplay for a living, while researching and collecting WWII with my dog next to me, and a good woman happy in the home.

I'll build that Museum and Produce that Movie too.

sssj

This post was edited on 6/7/26 at 9:28 pm
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