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re: When you own family deceives you.
Posted on 6/7/26 at 9:29 pm to WWII Collector
Posted on 6/7/26 at 9:29 pm to WWII Collector
Where was your dad living at the time of his death, and where is the property? In Louisiana, if dad inherited the property and did not have a will, the property does not go to stepmom.
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Posted on 6/7/26 at 9:34 pm to CovingtonTiger
Sorry if it's already been answered, is the stepsister hot?
Posted on 6/7/26 at 9:42 pm to WWII Collector
Money issues will absolutely destroy families and make them all hate each other and never again contact one another.
I guess if they all make it to Heaven, they act like nothing happened and that they were on good terms all along!!
I guess if they all make it to Heaven, they act like nothing happened and that they were on good terms all along!!
Posted on 6/7/26 at 9:46 pm to WWII Collector
Put up a solar farm or a massive storage facility on your property.
Posted on 6/7/26 at 9:47 pm to WWII Collector
TD;DR: This is an expensive teachable moment for the family but try to find other things that will matter more than money!
There are a handful of people on this board that I would believe/have empathy for. You are at the top of the list. The two sides of my family approach things from opposite directions so I've seen the smart planning vs verbal planning approaches. I hate to see it happen to someone who certainly sounds like an A1 Guy.
My mom is the middle of three siblings (M/F/F) with the other two extremely close and they do everything out of her view. Even as the oldest of my generation I am behind 4 cousins because of it. My mom and I were the last to find out that my aunt (youngest sibling) put my grandma in a nursing home so she could turn a farmhouse (which had been passed from father to oldest son for over 150 years) into a fricking VRBO. We don't expect any type of equitable dispersement when my grandmother passes.
My dad's side has always been well planned. The "money" comes from my grandmother's side of it. After serving at the very end of the Civil War my Great x3 GP settled and acquired a lot of land. He only had one child and my Great x2 GP had two kids. My Great Grandparents had two kids, my grandparents only had two kids, and my my cousin and I are both only children. If the money had stayed together (meaning land not having to be sold to pay off one side) my kids kids would never have to work again. Financial planning has been done across multiple generations... the next generation is "skipped" but holds the keys to the family money until they die.
We've been successful enough to own our house outright before our kids finished school and the family home (about 6 hours away) is already set up to go to my kids. I read about the trouble of the current generation buying homes and am thankful mine have a clear way to each have a home without ever having to deal with a mortgage.
Directly to your post, it's always the people who do not share blood that become a problem. That skipping of generations in my family? One heck of a circuit breaker to avoid such issues. It freaking sucks that people today are willing to lie about such things so the only surefire way to protect yourself now is in writing. (I had a major surgery at 35 which forced me to put on writing EVERYTHING over $100 that should go to reach kid.) And make this a teachable moment for the family.
I think you'd appreciate this. My mom's side? I have what would have been at the top... the flag and letter from Carter the family received when my grandma's dad passed. Aside from land/structures I have my Great x3 GP's honorable discharge paperwork which I would pick over the land if I had to do so.
There are a handful of people on this board that I would believe/have empathy for. You are at the top of the list. The two sides of my family approach things from opposite directions so I've seen the smart planning vs verbal planning approaches. I hate to see it happen to someone who certainly sounds like an A1 Guy.
My mom is the middle of three siblings (M/F/F) with the other two extremely close and they do everything out of her view. Even as the oldest of my generation I am behind 4 cousins because of it. My mom and I were the last to find out that my aunt (youngest sibling) put my grandma in a nursing home so she could turn a farmhouse (which had been passed from father to oldest son for over 150 years) into a fricking VRBO. We don't expect any type of equitable dispersement when my grandmother passes.
My dad's side has always been well planned. The "money" comes from my grandmother's side of it. After serving at the very end of the Civil War my Great x3 GP settled and acquired a lot of land. He only had one child and my Great x2 GP had two kids. My Great Grandparents had two kids, my grandparents only had two kids, and my my cousin and I are both only children. If the money had stayed together (meaning land not having to be sold to pay off one side) my kids kids would never have to work again. Financial planning has been done across multiple generations... the next generation is "skipped" but holds the keys to the family money until they die.
We've been successful enough to own our house outright before our kids finished school and the family home (about 6 hours away) is already set up to go to my kids. I read about the trouble of the current generation buying homes and am thankful mine have a clear way to each have a home without ever having to deal with a mortgage.
Directly to your post, it's always the people who do not share blood that become a problem. That skipping of generations in my family? One heck of a circuit breaker to avoid such issues. It freaking sucks that people today are willing to lie about such things so the only surefire way to protect yourself now is in writing. (I had a major surgery at 35 which forced me to put on writing EVERYTHING over $100 that should go to reach kid.) And make this a teachable moment for the family.
I think you'd appreciate this. My mom's side? I have what would have been at the top... the flag and letter from Carter the family received when my grandma's dad passed. Aside from land/structures I have my Great x3 GP's honorable discharge paperwork which I would pick over the land if I had to do so.
Posted on 6/7/26 at 10:01 pm to WWII Collector
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So a step sister can come put a house right there and enjoy a beautiful pond and clean land all around...
whose property was it that she gets a claim on it? Why would someone who is not blood get the same claiming rights as you had?
Something is not adding up here.
Posted on 6/7/26 at 11:04 pm to wookalar1013
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Stepmother wound up getting killed by a tornado in the middle of all this.
God Bless.
Posted on 6/7/26 at 11:16 pm to WWII Collector
This sucks!
I have a friend whose husband passed away. She was his second marriage and he had kids from the first. He always told her he would take care of her and the kids they had together. This man was wealthy, very well off.
He does, nothing is in writing and the kids from the first marriage got everything.
I have a friend whose husband passed away. She was his second marriage and he had kids from the first. He always told her he would take care of her and the kids they had together. This man was wealthy, very well off.
He does, nothing is in writing and the kids from the first marriage got everything.
Posted on 6/7/26 at 11:22 pm to WWII Collector
May God Bless You! I'm so sorry for you. That's all I have. Do right 
Posted on 6/7/26 at 11:41 pm to Yammie250F
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hen my dad died my brother and I had to sign over our share of the property during the succession to my mom. My mom got half and my brother and I got half. We signed our share over to her then later she made a will with my brother and I where we split everything 50/50 when she passes. We could have been asses (which the attorney said happens all the time) and made our mom pay us something for our share.
My 3 siblings and ! did the same for my father. We inherited 50% of everything he and my mom built when she died, and 15 years later, after going through numerous headaches when we sold the office complex, we decided to make things easier in the future and signed the house over to him.
But we know he will honor his promises to us. Ethics is more important to him than morals. He would never even consider doing anything unethical.
Posted on 6/7/26 at 11:48 pm to ThroughThickAndThin
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May God Bless You! I'm so sorry for you. That's all I have. Do right
Thank You... I will..
This post was edited on 6/7/26 at 11:51 pm
Posted on 6/8/26 at 1:32 am to beaverfever
quote:If the dad had given the land to his son in his will, this wouldn’t be a problem!
wouldn’t trust a woman nearly as much as a man in a situation like this.
Posted on 6/8/26 at 3:06 am to Ricardo
This is the exact scenario that caused me to get my will and trusts made. I’ve seen this happen way too many times. My shite is for my kids, not my wife’s new husband’s family. He can get a job and do what he wants did his kids. Mine will not be screwed.
Posted on 6/8/26 at 5:03 am to WWII Collector
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Thank You... I will..
You still haven’t answered an important question.
Who has paid the property taxes on the 2 acres all these years?
Posted on 6/8/26 at 6:13 am to WWII Collector
Get a drone and drop DDT all over the property
Posted on 6/8/26 at 7:35 am to Indefatigable
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You sound dumb.
All those estate sales and knows nothing of estates…
Posted on 6/8/26 at 8:15 am to WWII Collector
My wife always says “if it’s not in writing then it doesn’t exist”
Posted on 6/8/26 at 8:21 am to Sofaking2
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I’ve seen families I thought were close ruined by inheritance. I watched it happen to my mom’s brothers and sisters concerning the division of property. My wife and I have experienced similar things over the years. Sometimes you watch people irresponsible with money get rewarded for it. I just learned to laugh at it and move on. Life isn’t fair sometimes for responsible people, lol. My advice is don’t stay bitter. It’s ok to understand what happened, but don’t dwell on it.
If it’s not multi millions what are people fighting about?
People are lazy bitches. Entitled.
Posted on 6/8/26 at 8:29 am to Skip Winkman
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I’ve seen first hand recently where the unsuccessful beneficiaries got more than the successful becuase they already had thier shite together….also where step children got more family land than the actually blood family it was a mess
I'm in a similar situation. I'm the only successful one in my family. My grandparents on my my mom's side had quite a bit of money, and I was very close to them.
When they passed, I got nothing. My aunt and cousins ended up with some, my mom and sisters did as well.
When my dad passed, the only thing I inherited was the funeral expenses because my sisters "didn't have the money to help."
The same will probably happen when my mom passes, and I know anything my mom happens to have left will go to my sister and my niece "because they need it."
When I pass, everything will go to my wife's nieces and nephew. They've cared more for me than my own blood, and I know they'll be there later in life, where my own family won't.
This post was edited on 6/8/26 at 8:32 am
Posted on 6/8/26 at 8:33 am to jizzle6609
Inquiring minds want to know what the lawyer says today.
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