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Posted on 8/5/20 at 12:00 pm to Funky Tide 8
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What do you say to someone who is dying?
Goodbye?
Posted on 8/5/20 at 12:04 pm to Funky Tide 8
Enjoyed your friendship and you love him-no homo
Posted on 8/5/20 at 12:07 pm to Funky Tide 8
I would introduce him to Christ
I would encourage him to start taking Panacur C
I would encourage him to start taking Panacur C
Posted on 8/5/20 at 12:08 pm to Funky Tide 8
I lost my best friend to Cancer three years back. The week before he died, we drove 8 hours so that I could see him. Was a difficult weekend. He was very weak and throwing up. We went for a drive together and talked about years of old memories. Never about his problems. I stood beside him on the edge of the highway and silently watched him throw up, then we got back into the truck and went right back to talking about stuff that happened years earlier.
Just before we left, we (wife, his wife, him and me) stood and held hands as I prayed with him. Was the hardest thing I had done in my life. When we finished, I turned and walked out, got into my truck with my wife and left, unable to say anything else.
I am glad we went. He died in his sleep four days later.
Hope I don't have to do it again, but I would.
Just before we left, we (wife, his wife, him and me) stood and held hands as I prayed with him. Was the hardest thing I had done in my life. When we finished, I turned and walked out, got into my truck with my wife and left, unable to say anything else.
I am glad we went. He died in his sleep four days later.
Hope I don't have to do it again, but I would.
Posted on 8/5/20 at 12:11 pm to Funky Tide 8
Just tell him you love him remember the good times with him
reminisce about something really funny
and be as affectionate as you feel
don't be afraid to cry just make sure you laugh
reminisce about something really funny
and be as affectionate as you feel
don't be afraid to cry just make sure you laugh
Posted on 8/5/20 at 12:12 pm to gadknot
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What do you say to someone who is dying? Welp! see ya later.
Once a Dickhead, always a Dickhead. I always knew you were a Dick...…..
Posted on 8/5/20 at 12:25 pm to ccomeaux
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you say ... do you have a relationship with Jesus Christ ?
and if you can't do that, introduce him to someone that can. anything else is a waste of what little time he has left
Or... maybe not making his last memory of you be that of someone zealously pushing religion on him. If he has any religious background in his past, he's damn sure already thought his way through this question.
A better use of what little time he has left is spending as much time with his friends and family as possible.
Anyway, say whatever you think is right to him. Like others have suggested, make him laugh, make him happy. That's all there is to it.
Posted on 8/5/20 at 12:25 pm to Funky Tide 8
i like what a lot of people are saying re: keeping it normal. but at some point you have to just say "look man, just in case I don't see you again, I just want you to know that XYZ." Tell him the stuff you told us in here
Posted on 8/5/20 at 12:25 pm to Funky Tide 8
Tell him you love him and pray with him, giving thanks for all the reasons you’re grateful for having had him in your life.
Posted on 8/5/20 at 12:32 pm to Funky Tide 8
Somebody has to do it...
Seriously though - tell him what he means to you and offer to do whatever you can for him and his family.
Seriously though - tell him what he means to you and offer to do whatever you can for him and his family.
Posted on 8/5/20 at 12:33 pm to shackleford318
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Don’t treat him any different than you would if he was healthy, he knows he’s doomed.
This in a big way. Ask if there is something he needs help with.
Posted on 8/5/20 at 12:35 pm to Funky Tide 8
Not gonna lie. Got a little dusty in here reading that.
Just give the dude a big bro hug.
Just give the dude a big bro hug.
Posted on 8/5/20 at 12:47 pm to Funky Tide 8
I've seen several good friends and family members in this very situation.
When visiting them I always tried to keep it light, not mention the illness unless they brought it up, and tried to put on my best face to help in making them feel comfortable.
The last thing your friend wants to hear is pity.
When visiting them I always tried to keep it light, not mention the illness unless they brought it up, and tried to put on my best face to help in making them feel comfortable.
The last thing your friend wants to hear is pity.
Posted on 8/5/20 at 12:52 pm to Funky Tide 8
I would offer to assist the person in finishing important things he/she wants to achieve. Deathbed promises are nice and honorable, but handling business before the end is even better.
Posted on 8/5/20 at 12:57 pm to Funky Tide 8
Talk about any good times ya'll have had together. When my brother was at the end, we all were in his room and spent our time reminiscing with him as he faded. Can't think of a better way to go.
Maybe tell him to let you know if there is anything he needs and maybe that you will see him on the other side.
Maybe tell him to let you know if there is anything he needs and maybe that you will see him on the other side.
Posted on 8/5/20 at 1:03 pm to Funky Tide 8
Your boss is better than most.
I have heard many stories recently of people with chronic health issues being the first to get laid off.
Where is his attitude? Is he beat down and sad or is he just trudging alone? Feel for where he stands and just be there for him. We’re all on the wild ride on Planet Earth together and sadly, sometimes we have to get off early.
I have heard many stories recently of people with chronic health issues being the first to get laid off.
Where is his attitude? Is he beat down and sad or is he just trudging alone? Feel for where he stands and just be there for him. We’re all on the wild ride on Planet Earth together and sadly, sometimes we have to get off early.
Posted on 8/5/20 at 1:07 pm to Funky Tide 8
Funky,
Say this:
Dude, I am so glad to see you.
I have been thinking about you so much.
I miss having you around.
Don't say:
I hope you feel better.
It was nice knowing you.
Say this:
Dude, I am so glad to see you.
I have been thinking about you so much.
I miss having you around.
Don't say:
I hope you feel better.
It was nice knowing you.
Posted on 8/5/20 at 1:19 pm to LSUJML
I think people get tired of being asked how they are doing.
You said he meant a lot to you at work. Tell him that. Tell him how you really enjoyed yours years working together. Maybe think of a specific story or thing that happened that y'all laughed about in the past. Reminisce about that kind of stuff. Maybe a sucky boss or coworker that's gone now that y'all could laugh about. Just think of some of this ahead of time so you will have something to say.
End with hey, man or whatever, it was really great to see you. I missed you so much! ETC. If comfortable with it, love you, I'll be praying, thinking, etc. Or could I drop by and bring you X? (favorite food, etc?)
You said he meant a lot to you at work. Tell him that. Tell him how you really enjoyed yours years working together. Maybe think of a specific story or thing that happened that y'all laughed about in the past. Reminisce about that kind of stuff. Maybe a sucky boss or coworker that's gone now that y'all could laugh about. Just think of some of this ahead of time so you will have something to say.
End with hey, man or whatever, it was really great to see you. I missed you so much! ETC. If comfortable with it, love you, I'll be praying, thinking, etc. Or could I drop by and bring you X? (favorite food, etc?)
Posted on 8/5/20 at 1:28 pm to Funky Tide 8
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My boss is bringing him up to the office for the first time in several months. He was coming up here once a month or so before covid, but hasn't visited since. It will likely be his last time coming up here.
I would just shoot the shite with him like normal and the gold old days, and then give him a solid bro hug when he leaves. I'd also tell him I hope I get to see him soon.
Something tells me if I were in his situation I'd want people to treat me as normally as possible.
But that's rough, man. Keep ya head up.
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