re: What do you say to someone who is dying?

My secretary died of cancer. When she was a few days away from passing, I called her husband and asked to visit. He said that she didn't want me to see because she "didn't want me to remember her 'that way'" I said "please ask her to reconsider as I would not want to not be able to talk to her" and she recanted. She got on the phone and told me "not to be shocked."

I was still shocked. She was so skinny and gaunt. I hope that I didn't looked shock, and I was very glad that she had warned me.

We had a nice, short conversation. I let her control what was said and I didn't stay long. I gave her a gentle hug before I left.

If you visit, I would let him control the conversation. Tell him he is a great guy. Tell him that you are keeping him in your prayers.

I hope it goes well for you.