Also, on one income we could not afford one of those huge modern homes, but we also did not suffer the huge mortgage and the kids had a mom at home, even when they started school.

Now they are asking us all to pay for moms to stay home with children. This is an outrage. Tell your children that you had to be paid to stay with them. See how that goes over.

We're a two income family (both professionals) with a 2nd grader. Wifey (no pics) sat out for a few years from birth until Pre-K started. We've been considering home schooling and stay-at-home Mom, but since our state flipped Red and we are in a VERY Red area and our school system hasn't gone stupid or woke yet, we've held off.

We are about a 65%/35% (me/her) household income. We don't have family nearby so we're trying to keep kiddo in school for social interaction as well as keeping kiddo involved in other activities (clubs/sports).

oh like your life is so hard

In today's age it seems like two incomes is almost necessary for most middle class families. I think we could survive on one income, but it would get really tight unless I really start to kick arse with my career. And we're relatively pretty decently off. It's a pretty big shame because having that time with the kids when they're young is irreplaceable.

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It’s not as if by working you don’t have primary involvement with your kids. A childcare provider simply augments you as a parent.

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Dude, you have no idea what those people are saying or teaching to your kids. Zero.

First of all, those teachers don’t make shite. So they have zero motivation to give your kid the kind of treatment you think you’re paying for.

Most importantly, babies need lots of love, patience, and 1 on 1 attention. Nobody but a parent is going to be able to provide that in ample supply to give your child the best childhood possible. That is a fact.

And my analogy is not absurd, it’s quite apt. Sex is the most intimate and loving thing you can do with your partner, and being a stay at home parent is the most intimate and living thing you can do for your younguns.

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Wife staying home until all the kids are in school. It's worked for us. We've noticed some couples resent one another for the one staying home. It makes zero sense. We both pull our weight, just in different ways. She's an awesome wife and mother.

Wife is a CRNA and I own a few rental properties from before we were married, she didn’t want to stay home and genuinely loves her job, so I quit mine. When our daughter starts school, I’ll go back to teaching and coaching.

I'm a full time mom. Worked as a public auditor until my second. Couldn't hold down the 65 hour weeks with two kids.

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Seem to be very exceptional nowadays. Roll call - which OT'ers have a full-time parent at home for their child/children? It seems almost non-existent in our sphere, but its the only thing our kids know (since they were born). Weird that its weird.

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My MIL(only 63) who babysits our two children unexpectedly died yesterday. She made it possible for us to keep our children out of daycare.

So now I will have to step up and work twice as much so that my wife can stay at home most of the time(with a small per-diem position).

It makes no sense to place in daycare when costs vs benefits are weighed if I can help it.