re: Mental Load. Anybody else tired of women playing the victim?

“Mental load” is womanese for “I am too lazy and/or incompetent to function as an adult.”

I once heard it said that a man’s life greatly improves when he realizes his wife is the oldest teenager in the house.

Ive got multiple family members divorced. And the women filed for divorce.

So some things that come to mind:
1. Just paying the bills is "bear Minimum"
2. Also, if she is a stay at home mother, the man must contribute to her IRA because if she gets divorced further down the timeline, she will have nothing.
3. Your not spending time with her family and work all the time its a problem. Big Problem.
4. They married the Man. The Man Didnt change. None of them, But they all went to counseling. All the Women Changed, they just slowly pulled the mask off.
5. I have another family Member, that will most likely be divorced in the next 5 years.
6. I am not married. I would have been. But, I give some of these guys metals for putting up with my family members. But some of the did do some really horrible things, and I can say, I am not shocked.

Also, They had plenty of great dudes that loved them, but they all trashed them for someone else. So they married these dirt bags. Cocaine Addiction, Alcholoic, Man Beater, Etc.

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We can make a trip for groceries. But we’re not carrying the mental load of what everyone will eat.

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Ok wtf is this? Sounds to me like you put the pussy on a pedestal and now she’s got you believing all kind of nonsense.

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Mental load

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Well there's your problem. You aren't supposed to dump your loads in their mind ...

DARVO. JADE.

Learn what those two mean and you will never interact with a woman the same way again. or, if you are lucky, you will literally worship the ground she walks on.

You’re here whining about women on a message board but sure, women are the ones who play victim.

Half of yall need to get divorced and become gay with the way you bitch about women.

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“Mental load” is

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is easier.

I had to get on my wife's arse the other day. She made a comment to me that I don't do as much house work as her. She completely forgot that I spent 3-4 hours per week in the heat mowing, weed eating, maintaining her flower beds, etc. We live in a 1000 SF house so it doesn't exactly take long to clean it thoroughly. I mop/vacuum 2x per week and it takes me about 30 minutes total. She apologized which was the most shocking part. I got a good one.

If your woman cries about mental load, you haven't given her a load to think about.

Seriously though. The type of woman you're describing is what we call, "neurotic." IMO, it means she's going to create problems in her mind no matter what you do (or don't do.) Women are programmed to worry. For lack of a better example, women are prey. They are always on high alert.

The whole mental load thing is just a stress response to not having enough things in her life worth worrying about. So now she's creating conflict as a means of giving her anxiety something to focus on. It's why some women are constantly nagging. Their chimp brain is expressing itself in behaviors that "worked." They're not in control.

Getting back to my original comment. In nature, the males in her life would frick her to stop her nagging. Might seem very basic, but believe it or not, it works.

I once saw a video where a woman asked herself if “mental load” wasn’t a euphemism for “control”. She said something like “I know my husband can pack up the car and fit everything in the back seat, but it won’t be how I would have done it” and then rattled off 3 or 4 other things she knows he’s capable of but would be different than her preferred way.

It’s an interesting question that couples and families today need to wrangle.