re: I have no idea how people have more than 1 or 2 kids. This newborn crap is insanity.

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It'll get better. Lots of good advice in here. But there's one thing you need to be ready for:

There's this phenomenon that occurs the first night baby sleeps through. You'll wake up in the AM and tear to his bed with your hair on fire to make sure he's breathing. Swear to God, your heart will stop. Just be ready. Congrats on the babe.

We foster and have 11 newborns through out house in the last 5 years. some kids have no issues and some have all sorts of issues. you have to sleep train them and it is ok to let them cry for a little while. It will get better

Sleep training and a calm attitude is key. Make sure they learn night time is quiet time. And man up. A man only needs 5 hours of sleep.

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Have a 3 year old and 10 month old. No family support near by, so just me and my wife.

I found having a second made life as a whole more difficult, but raising the second one easier? Just new struggles. But your more prepared. More clam.

Just a few tips. Essentially if they become fussy every day consistently, they just are ready for more food at each feed. Not sure what gas drops you are using, but stick to mylicon (if he is that issue, give it as often as possible). If he is shitting through his diaper at night, go up another size for sleeping at night time. You don’t necessarily need to sleep train but keep him active as you can during the day.

You say you don’t want another. But you’ll miss it when he is 2/3. You’ll have another and then regret your decision of having another one.

Saying that, I’m getting my dick snipped. If they take off the whole thing by accident, shite happens. But I don’t want and cannot afford more than 2. Won’t do it.

ETA: For sleeping “training”, we just picked one consistent thing we did each night before we tried to get them to sleep the entire time. So each night before bed, they got baths. Right after the bath it was straight to bed. Worked quickly for both to get to sleep through the night.

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2. Game changer for us was “love to dream” swaddle until about 12 weeks then we switched to the zippidy zip

We’re 16 months in and our daughter still wakes up 3x a night screaming andonly sleeps an hour or so during the day. Yours will likely be sleeping through the night by 6 months. Don’t be a pussy.

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We tried gentle ease on my youngest and she didn’t do well on it. Tried another one too, name escapes me, but out ped recommended the parent choice brand (Walmart private label) and it worked as expected.