re: Death/Funeral timeline

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1. Respect for the human body - Catholic teaching views the body as an integral part of the human person, not simply something discarded after death. This continues even after cremation.

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I can kind of see this.

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2. Belief in the resurrection - Catholics believe in the resurrection of the body. Keeping the remains in a specific place reinforces the belief that death isn’t the final end of the person.

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He created a person from nothing and is capable of anything, resurrecting a cremated body whether their ashes are in one spot or 5 is not a problem. That's ridiculous.

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3. A permanent place for remembrance - A grave, mausoleum, or approved columbarium gives family and the broader Christian community a place to pray and remember the deceased.

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Not true. That literally one of the benefits of cremation. It doesn't tie a loved on to a certain place because of death. We have a friend that will never move from her hometown because that's where her first husband was buried. Being able to have a loved one with you whever you go is a much easier way to have remembrance.

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4. Avoiding the idea that the deceased has simply “become part of nature” - The Church specifically objects to practices such as scattering ashes in the air, on the ocean, or across a favorite location because they can express a view of death that conflicts with Christian belief—for example, that the deceased has simply merged with nature.

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And for those like myself that have never once thought that their loved ones cremated ashes that were spread are now "part of nature"?

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Clearly you haven’t ever been to a big funeral put on by a black family

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It’s like a wedding or Quinceañera level of event.

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Gotta have that leg quarter with green beans and rice dressing meal, and a slice of cake. Eat good before the drinking and partying starts happening.

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Bunk Moreland

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Sorry for your loss

you know a good business would be an affordable way a family could handle this . Unfortunately, there are a lot of unaffordable ways to do it because the business is taking advantage of a family's grief and the suddenness

And also the funeral industry has put all sorts of laws on the books by lobbying government to make it unaffordable

again, sorry for your loss

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My 94 year old mother says she remembers years ago people dying and the funeral being held two to three days later.

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all of the family and extended family used to live about in town or one hour away, now Aunt Becky needs to fly in from Aberdeen

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One my best friends chose to do a ceremony for his dad like a month later when everyone could attend.

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I've noticed a trend where the person is cremated and the ceremony/rememberance is held a month or three later. I like that it gives people time to make plans to travel and be there. Also eases the stress on immediate family to prepare for a funeral.

One week seems to be normal from what I’ve seen. 3 days is way too short notice for out of town people to travel in to make it. That’s inconsiderate IMO. 5 to 7 days is fair.

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Cremations are much more common

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This.
In the event of cremation, there is usually a Memorial service or Celebration of Life, rather than a "funeral"....

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This.
In the event of cremation, there is usually a Memorial service or Celebration of Life, rather than a "funeral"....

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This is my wish. When I die my wife already knows to get me cremated ASAP, it's up to her as what to do with the ashes. Seems most of her family retains the urn and has it in their home, usually on a mantle.

My wife has lost 3 of her brothers and her parents in the last 15 years and the only ashes we spread were her mother's since she wanted them to go into Lake Pontchartrain. The rest of the ashes are with extended family mambers.

After my demise, I don't want an obituary in the paper since anyone who would even care would likely already know. I told my wife when the weather got nice-------preferably in the spring------to invite our friends over and do a big crawfish boil with cold beer and other necessary things and tell lies about what a good guy is was------------------the least they could do while eating crawfish and drinking my beer.

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What’s changed?

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Lot more cremations and those can sometimes take a little more time and coordination than just embalming them and putting them out there. Also I think folks have gradually discovered that waiting a few extra days still gets the job done while also taking some pressure off of everyone during those initial days of shell shock. It’s a lot to get all that done in 2/3 days and then stand up and greet the whole town at a wake.

Bear in mind families are also getting smaller…used to be there were 8 or 10 aunts and uncles to handle things, divide work, and support each other. Not always the case anymore.