re: Death/Funeral timeline

I've thought about this a lot... oddly.

If my spouse died, or worse a child... I don't know if I would be ready to face everyone just a few days later? And then if we are doing a funeral only days after, is that to make everyone else feel better?

For me personally, I would rather a celebration of life and time spent remembering the person - so weeks later almost feels smarter. In my theoretical death cremation is happening not a burial, so in that sense we have more time to plan accordingly.

But to the OP - I see no issue with more length between death and funeral.

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Did you know that the best salesman for a crematorium is called the "Top Urner"?

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You are absolutely killing it.

From a Funeral Industry Website list of related terms:

Cremains
Ash and other elements of the deceased that remain following cremation. Also known as “cremated remains.”

I’ll have the Waldorf Salad and could you please add a sprinkling of cremains on it?

All depends on when the person has passed. If on a Wednesday, you cant get all the funeral details secured that fast to have it that weekend usually - between burial plot (if didnt have one), securing a time and date with the funeral home, payment details, flowers, obituary, etc.

Sometimes it just falls on the next weekend which can feel like a long time after the initial news of a person passing.

This is entirely dependent on if you wish to have the funeral on a weekend so more can make it, not every funeral happens on a Sat/Sun of course

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I told my wife, when I die, try to bury me the next day or within 2 days.

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why do you care

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where they go all out and that takes time to set up. Event spaces, flowers, cars and limos, food, etc. So they usually wait a week or more to have the event.

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That was a really long paragraph to state that some groups plan everything ahead of time and others don't. This comment makes no sense because it implies other groups don't do those same things. Yes, people who have funerals 2 days after death still have spaces, flowers, cars, food, etcc.

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More people are cremated now then ever in history and it's growing every year.

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Plus you don’t end up with real estate loaded with toxic chemicals.

And it’s okay with the Catholic Church, as long as you bury the ashes in the earth. No scattering or leaving Mimi on the mantle.

People are coming around to Ashes to Ashes is the same, just sped up by the cremating.

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And it’s okay with the Catholic Church, as long as you bury the ashes in the earth. No scattering or leaving Mimi on the mantle.

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What is the scriptural reasoning behind not being able to scatter ashes? That's retarded.

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I told my wife, when I die, try to bury me the next day or within 2 days

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Only thing Ive told my wife is to put my cause of death in obituary because that’s all that people want to know.

But as I’ve gotten older, cremation plus memorial mass / ceremony seems like the best option, IMO.

It’s cheaper and you avoid that gut-wrenching moment when the casket is closed and can focus more on the good memories.

Most cemeteries have areas to store ashes, these days, too.

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What is the scriptural reasoning behind not being able to scatter ashes? That's retarded.

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ChatGPT response:

The Catholic Church generally does not permit scattering cremated ashes because Catholic teaching holds that a person’s body—even after death—should be treated with dignity and given a permanent, respectful place of rest.

There are several reasons:

1. Respect for the human body - Catholic teaching views the body as an integral part of the human person, not simply something discarded after death. This continues even after cremation.

2. Belief in the resurrection - Catholics believe in the resurrection of the body. Keeping the remains in a specific place reinforces the belief that death isn’t the final end of the person.

3. A permanent place for remembrance - A grave, mausoleum, or approved columbarium gives family and the broader Christian community a place to pray and remember the deceased.

4. Avoiding the idea that the deceased has simply “become part of nature” - The Church specifically objects to practices such as scattering ashes in the air, on the ocean, or across a favorite location because they can express a view of death that conflicts with Christian belief—for example, that the deceased has simply merged with nature.