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re: Why do people never leave the area that they grew up in?
Posted on 3/6/19 at 9:56 am to GeauxxxTigers23
Posted on 3/6/19 at 9:56 am to GeauxxxTigers23
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There’s nothing wrong with staying where you grew up.
Agreed.
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And moving somewhere else doesn’t make you “grow as a person.”
Disagree.
Not to say that moving somewhere else is the ONLY way to grow as a person. There are obviously many ways to grow. But moving away is absolutely a growing experience for almost any person.
This post was edited on 3/6/19 at 10:38 am
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Posted on 3/6/19 at 9:57 am to OKTGR580
Why look down on people for making what amounts to a personal choice? For lots of people they may be better off staying local vs making job moves to different cities. If you own a small business or work in a trade that serves a local clientele that is especially true.
I have moved our family far from extended family and its great to be moving back closer to family.
I have moved our family far from extended family and its great to be moving back closer to family.
Posted on 3/6/19 at 9:57 am to OKTGR580
I like being around family/friends, and the area I grew up is still a pretty nice place to live.
I've tried living other places, and the grass isn't always greener.
I've tried living other places, and the grass isn't always greener.
Posted on 3/6/19 at 10:03 am to OKTGR580
Tbh, I just don't like anywhere else as much as South LA. My quality of life is based on what I grew up being happy with, which is food, fun, family, and outdoors. I also like how even the big cities seem like a small town
Eta: There's also a lot I hate about Louisiana, but 80% of it stems from politics
Eta: There's also a lot I hate about Louisiana, but 80% of it stems from politics
This post was edited on 3/6/19 at 10:08 am
Posted on 3/6/19 at 10:04 am to OKTGR580
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Is that another way of saying scared?
Familiar misery
Posted on 3/6/19 at 10:04 am to OKTGR580
People place different values on different aspects of their life. For many people, the draw of family, and the draw of having your children have a similar upbringing to the one you had, is pretty important.
We moved away and came back, and I think that gave us a different, healthy appreciation for home.
Give you an example. We were at the parades on Sunday in downtown NOLA, with some of my family and our friends. Wife (no pics) gets a frantic phone from her father... her brother in law (her sister's husband) had just had a massive heart attack and was being rushed to hospital. We left our kids at the parade with my family, and was at the hospital in 20 minutes. We were the first ones of her family there and stayed for 4 hours, during which we weren't sure if he was going to make it. He's going to be ok, thankfully. But my wife being able to be there for her sister is worth much, much, much more than the 20-30K in additional salary we would make working in Texas.
Other people aren't as close to family and are fine seeing them a couple of times a year. My child's grandparents come to all the dance competitions, softball games, school plays and awards ceremonies, etc.
I understand why people who aren't close to family want to go explore the world and make more money. I don't get why other people don't understand those that live a great life and place value on family and hometown.
We moved away and came back, and I think that gave us a different, healthy appreciation for home.
Give you an example. We were at the parades on Sunday in downtown NOLA, with some of my family and our friends. Wife (no pics) gets a frantic phone from her father... her brother in law (her sister's husband) had just had a massive heart attack and was being rushed to hospital. We left our kids at the parade with my family, and was at the hospital in 20 minutes. We were the first ones of her family there and stayed for 4 hours, during which we weren't sure if he was going to make it. He's going to be ok, thankfully. But my wife being able to be there for her sister is worth much, much, much more than the 20-30K in additional salary we would make working in Texas.
Other people aren't as close to family and are fine seeing them a couple of times a year. My child's grandparents come to all the dance competitions, softball games, school plays and awards ceremonies, etc.
I understand why people who aren't close to family want to go explore the world and make more money. I don't get why other people don't understand those that live a great life and place value on family and hometown.
Posted on 3/6/19 at 10:06 am to OKTGR580
Because people like the surroundings they grew up in
Posted on 3/6/19 at 10:06 am to OKTGR580
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Houston metro are pretty damn cool compared to things we used to go to in La.
You value "things". By that metric, of course Houston is a better place to live.
Other people value "relationships" or "family", etc. So all those "things" don't matter to them.
Posted on 3/6/19 at 10:09 am to OKTGR580
quote:I just spent almost two months in different parts of Houston. Other than a few select places, the food sucks, and everything is 45 minutes away. I don't want to have to get on the interstate to go to the gas station
Most of the areas we go to around the Houston metro are pretty damn cool compared to things we used to go to in La
Posted on 3/6/19 at 10:11 am to OKTGR580
townies gonna...do nothing, that's why they're townies
Posted on 3/6/19 at 10:12 am to OKTGR580
EVERYBODY KNOW HOME IS WHERE YOU MAKE IT
Posted on 3/6/19 at 10:14 am to OKTGR580
I agree moving away is a good experience, but i wouldn't say it's necessary. You get more freedom to do whatever you want to do, b/c you dont have to hang out with your family or old friends all the time. You meet new/different people, which is great and exciting. But if you are content at home (and don't sacrifice a much better job opportunity elsewhere) then you can have special experiences there as well. Some people value family more than others, some value independence.
Posted on 3/6/19 at 10:16 am to OKTGR580
Going out on your own for awhile is a good way to grow as a person, I don't dispute that. That being said, I just love it when some old high school classmate plasters social media with all their new found "open mindedness" and a rant about how close minded and backwards those of us in LA are. AKA, I'm tolerant, accepting, open minded, etc. ...... as long as you agree with me.
Never understand why people can't accept that we're all just different and different things make us happy. You wanna leave, do you. Being near family and having roots more important, good for you too.
Never understand why people can't accept that we're all just different and different things make us happy. You wanna leave, do you. Being near family and having roots more important, good for you too.
Posted on 3/6/19 at 10:16 am to OKTGR580
They do not feel they have unmet needs/wants so there is no outside pull to go elsewhere. They simply get what they need and/or want from staying.
Posted on 3/6/19 at 10:18 am to OKTGR580
Why does a personal choice someone makes for themself bother you? Not everyone has the same goals or values as you.
Posted on 3/6/19 at 10:20 am to meaux5
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Never understood this either. There's a big world out there. Try and get our of your tiny little corner and experience the rest of it.
I moved from Butler, AL to Greensboro, NC after college. Butler is a very small town with not much going for it in terms of growth. It'll always be a small town in Alabama.
I love NC, but Butler will always be "home". There are lots of people I grew up with and went to school with that stayed around Butler. I don't condemn that. Why would I? They stayed close to family. Have they experienced everything I have? Probably not.
But they were able to be with their family.
My parents who are now in their 70s told me a few years ago that my moving away 20+ years ago was very, very hard on them. Quite the guilt trip, yeah.
It almost makes me sick to my stomach that my parent's haven't gotten to see their grandson grow up like they wished. They didn't get to see him every day like it would've been if I lived nearby. My family is close, and we believe family is everything. I hate that I did that to them, but I had to make my own life. It still bothers me a lot though.
We get back down to Butler about 3 or 4 times a year. My son has spent 2-3 weeks with my parents during his summer vacation every year since he was old enough. I just wish they could've seen him more often. He always looked forward to his Butler vacation.
Worst part is my brother also moved away and started his family after I did, so my parents who are HUGE on family didn't really get to watch either grandson grow up like those who live in the same town.
Makes me sad for my parents. My dad is probably the best man I have ever met, and he's one hell of a granddad.
Getting a little teary typing this..
Posted on 3/6/19 at 10:24 am to OKTGR580
If you are content with where you live, why move?
This is a first world problem and relatively new thinking. Historically and still in many places, people generally only moved when life necessitated it. There were always exceptions like nomadic tribes, though that was often dictated by scarce or seasonal resources, and always certain individuals within sedentary societies that had that "urge to roam". But it is only recent that the general idea that moving around is a good thing in terms of "growing as a person".
FTR, I do think that getting to know and understand other cultures is a good thing but I don't know that it is necessary to live elsewhere to do so (obviously, that would give you the richest experience).
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Even if where you grew up is a nice place, I think it’s good to branch out and live somewhere else for at least a year or two to grow as a person.
This is a first world problem and relatively new thinking. Historically and still in many places, people generally only moved when life necessitated it. There were always exceptions like nomadic tribes, though that was often dictated by scarce or seasonal resources, and always certain individuals within sedentary societies that had that "urge to roam". But it is only recent that the general idea that moving around is a good thing in terms of "growing as a person".
FTR, I do think that getting to know and understand other cultures is a good thing but I don't know that it is necessary to live elsewhere to do so (obviously, that would give you the richest experience).
Posted on 3/6/19 at 10:26 am to Hammertime
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I just spent almost two months in different parts of Houston. Other than a few select places, the food sucks, and everything is 45 minutes away.
Yea the food sucks in a city that is recognized as one of the best food cities in the country. 45 minutes away? Dude quit being dramatic. Some things are 45 mins but not EVERYTHING. HTX is 100x better than nola
Posted on 3/6/19 at 10:33 am to 777Tiger
quote:some people care more about family than careers. Some people have good families. Others have sucky families and can't wait to get away from them.
hat mentality has killed a lot of potentially great careers no offense intended, I've just seen that too many times
Posted on 3/6/19 at 10:34 am to OKTGR580
.....because they're smart. Stay around your own kind. Same music, food, language, race, extended family. Everyone gets along. Having family close by is very important.
This post was edited on 3/6/19 at 10:40 am
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