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re: My wife has breast cancer; prayers and advice appreciated (Update in OP)
Posted on 5/1/23 at 8:03 am to JonTheTigerFan
Posted on 5/1/23 at 8:03 am to JonTheTigerFan
Prayers for your wife and for you and your family. Hopefully, as others have said, the news will improve.
My advice, as someone who has been and still am battling bladder cancer:
- You and especially she need to be pro-active in her treatment. Communicate regularly with the providers. Make sure you ask about the different modes of treatment, if you are not sure about something, ask questions, and never hesitate to go the removal route if that is called for. Don't wait and risk that it will spread too far for that to help.
- The treatments can be very difficult. Early on, the treatments are often way worse than the cancer itself as to how she feels. Be there to support her and take as much off of her plate as possible so that she can concentrate on the treatments and getting better.
- No matter the outcome, whether it is fully resolved or not, take the opportunity to do things together. If she is up to it, do one tank trips together, have picnics, work in the yard together, find ways to help others, and make the most out of life.
My advice, as someone who has been and still am battling bladder cancer:
- You and especially she need to be pro-active in her treatment. Communicate regularly with the providers. Make sure you ask about the different modes of treatment, if you are not sure about something, ask questions, and never hesitate to go the removal route if that is called for. Don't wait and risk that it will spread too far for that to help.
- The treatments can be very difficult. Early on, the treatments are often way worse than the cancer itself as to how she feels. Be there to support her and take as much off of her plate as possible so that she can concentrate on the treatments and getting better.
- No matter the outcome, whether it is fully resolved or not, take the opportunity to do things together. If she is up to it, do one tank trips together, have picnics, work in the yard together, find ways to help others, and make the most out of life.
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Posted on 5/1/23 at 8:04 am to JonTheTigerFan
Prayers sent for your wife and family.
Posted on 5/1/23 at 8:10 am to JonTheTigerFan
Good luck man
One of the good things is that it’s slow growing
My mom went through it 10 years ago, recently found where after treatment & 10 years it had spread
6 months of taking a chemo pill & all new spots are gone
ETA
Not sure who her Dr is but Dr. Spell is excellent
One of the good things is that it’s slow growing
My mom went through it 10 years ago, recently found where after treatment & 10 years it had spread
6 months of taking a chemo pill & all new spots are gone
ETA
Not sure who her Dr is but Dr. Spell is excellent
This post was edited on 5/1/23 at 8:23 am
Posted on 5/1/23 at 8:22 am to DaBeerz
Caught it early hopefully. Keeping you thought and prayer.
Posted on 5/1/23 at 8:24 am to JonTheTigerFan
You should read this book with her. My mother helped with it discussing her battle with cancer. Prayers!
Posted on 5/1/23 at 8:32 am to JonTheTigerFan
I don't have any advice, but I will pray for your family.
Posted on 5/1/23 at 9:07 am to JonTheTigerFan
Prayers & well wishes to you & yours...
Posted on 5/1/23 at 9:12 am to JonTheTigerFan
Been there done that. Overwhelming is the word. Get a doctor she really trusts and respects. Get a surgeon she really trust and respects. All you can do as the husband is support every decision she makes. My wife opted for dbl mastectomy regardless of how many and which breast. It was the right decision. Chemo will be manageable as they’ve come a long way. Try to get treatments on Thursday so the bad time is over by Monday. Stay active in btw chemotherapy treatments to give her a diversion of thoughts. It will ultimately come down to how strong and vain your wife is as to how debilitating this experience will be. I could write a book as to what to do and what not. Nothing trumps a good attitude at a time like this . Fortunately We are 11; years post surgery wo any setbacks. Good luck
This post was edited on 5/1/23 at 9:14 am
Posted on 5/1/23 at 9:39 am to JonTheTigerFan
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She had the genetic testing done and it came back negative
Get the report.
Find out what genes were negative. Find out what were positive, something had to be positive.
Don't just rely on the doctor ALONE, see what genes your wife has and see what they do as related to breast cancer and other cancers. It makes decisions about treatment that much better when you are fully informed.
Good luck and I hope your wife recovers completely.
Posted on 5/1/23 at 9:47 am to JonTheTigerFan
Prayers for you and glad that you caught it early. We didn't catch Mrs. Tantal's until it had already metastasized to her spine, femurs, and liver. It's now in her brain. Hopefully, they can just do a lumpectomy and be done. You don't want to go through what we've been through. She's 45 now and getting to her 46th birthday in December is 50/50. She'll never see 47.
This post was edited on 5/1/23 at 10:21 am
Posted on 5/1/23 at 9:48 am to JonTheTigerFan
prayers sent. never can be an easy experience especially with young kids
not sure who y'all's plan is for an oncologist, but derrick spell at woman's specializes in breast cancer and is very good from what I've heard. not sure what you need to do to get in with him, but I know people who have seen him for breast cancer and have said nothing but great things about him
not sure who y'all's plan is for an oncologist, but derrick spell at woman's specializes in breast cancer and is very good from what I've heard. not sure what you need to do to get in with him, but I know people who have seen him for breast cancer and have said nothing but great things about him
Posted on 5/1/23 at 10:07 am to JonTheTigerFan
Praying for your wife and peace for your family.
Posted on 5/1/23 at 10:16 am to JonTheTigerFan
Prayers for your Wife, you and the whole family
Posted on 5/1/23 at 10:29 am to JonTheTigerFan
Prayers said and I hate cancer.
Posted on 5/1/23 at 10:32 am to JonTheTigerFan
Prayers sent for your wife
Posted on 5/1/23 at 10:37 am to JonTheTigerFan
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I’m humbly asking for prayers for my wife as we have young kids
you got it. and I'll be the third to mention DR. Spell at Mary Bird Perkins. my mother in-law is a two time cancer survivor, she loves Dr. Spell. If you can't make it Houston, my motherinlaw couldn't, then Dr. Spell is what she says, she didn't even look at MD Anderson the second time around.
Posted on 5/1/23 at 11:19 am to JonTheTigerFan
Prayers for your wife. May God cure her of cancer.
Posted on 5/1/23 at 11:31 am to MyNameIsNobody
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she didn't even look at MD Anderson the second time around.
We went to MD Anderson the second time around to get a second opinion on the diagnosis and treatment plan. It was a complete waste of time.
Of course our situation was pretty simple so to speak, so everyone will have different experiences and feedback.
The place is awesome and the support staff overall was great
Posted on 5/1/23 at 11:35 am to JonTheTigerFan
Hoping it's going to be easily (as it can be) treatable and she has great success
Good luck!
Good luck!
Posted on 5/1/23 at 1:04 pm to MyNameIsNobody
Dr Spell at Mary Bird was my Mom’s doc. Kept her alive and in pretty good shape for years longer than MD’s prognosis of her pancreatic cancer. Would recommend
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