re: Is it being "wiser" that leads to being calmer as you get older or is it lower hormones?

In my 50s with normal testosterone and solid energy levels and rather active. I still get pissed off but recognize the potential impacts of reacting to a situation as I'd sometimes like to. I see farther downstream.

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it's a matter of becoming smart enough to realize what's important and what is not

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Yep. I am in my mid-50's and my "give a shite" meter is almost broken.

Nah, because from a physiological perspective you are generally weaker as you get older so you should be more aggressive and defensive. The older coyotes are the ones who go for exotic menu items, like your dog, for example.

The older you get the more experience you have with these situations and you've probably seen them go sideways and folks lose what they have as a result. Since you are now most likely better off than you've ever been, you're averse to losing what you have and tend to take a more careful approach to situations. Also, older people have more clout and respect in the community and are more able to use societal institutions to accomplish their goals. In other words, they can hire an attorney and the police are more likely to believe their claims.

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Is it being "wiser" that leads to being calmer as you get older or is it lower hormones?

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Calmer? I have found I have very little patience the older I get. I've had to find ways to keep myself more calm

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Sure it's a combination of both but I think it's way more attributable to lower energy/testosterone than knowledge.

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I've thought this for a while. When you're young and your hormones are raging, 95% of your brain power is targeted to landing tail. As your testosterone levels go down with age, your mind uses less brain power in the pursuit of sex, so you're able to think/reason more clearly.

I’m 53 and have higher than average T scores but still way below that of my two teenage boys. I think part of the wisdom of age is you learn what can happen if you do stupid shite so you stop doing it.

I preach this to my boys all the time. Don’t do stupid shite. Especially if the outcome is something you can’t recover from.

Also, there is comfort in knowing there isn’t much work can throw at you that you haven’t already dealt with 1,000 times.

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Things that used to get me jacked up and ready to go nuts now just get ignored largely.

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imma turn in my man card because there has been a few times when the wife is wanting to have sexy time and i'm so freaking tired that going to sleep seems like a better option

and dont get me started on friends texting and saying 'hey we're going to meet at 10pm to play a game online' and around 930 i'm like 'i'm out. i want sleep' in my younger days i would happily stay up for 24 hours straight playing a game with friends and talking trash.

pathetic i know.