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I’m staunchly “agnostic”... my SO is not
Posted on 4/12/20 at 11:52 am
Posted on 4/12/20 at 11:52 am
We’ve been running into issues in our relationship as of late (today being Easter Sunday, etc) because she was raised Catholic and “sort of” believes in God, whereas I believe in logic/science/etc.
I don’t have an answer for how man got here, hence my agnosticism...
I have expressed that I will never challenge/diminish her “faith” and only engage her with intellectual debate, if she asks for it...
This morning, her mom and her sister came over and I cooked brunch/mimosas/etc for everyone and her mom wanted to watch “Joel Osteen’s Easter Service” a bit after we ate and I was very “put off” because
1. Joel Osteen is a fricking hypocritical miser who touts and misrepresents his “faith” to take advantage of his “flock”
2. My SO knew ahead of time that it was going to be put into the morning’s agenda and didn’t tell me until it was WAY too late for me to excuse myself and without offending her mother.
As I mentioned, I told her I wouldn’t challenge/diminish her faith or wanting to hear “the word of God”, and I asked that she not try to impress upon me anything from any type of “organized religion”... live and let live and all of that... You do you, booboo.
Other than this, she’s fricking perfect and I love her to death. And we’ve talked about marriage and kids and how we’d raise them and I said, “I won’t dismiss or work against my kids following a religious path/etc” and so now it’s a thing for our “hypothetical kids”
My argument is that I wasn’t/didn’t cause an issue in front of her mother/sister... because I knew that wouldn’t go over well. I feel that I’m able to respect her beliefs, be she isn’t/won’t respect mine.
Has anyone successfully navigated the waters of a difference in “faith/religion”?
ib4: pics, SO brag
eta: sorry for the wall of words
I don’t have an answer for how man got here, hence my agnosticism...
I have expressed that I will never challenge/diminish her “faith” and only engage her with intellectual debate, if she asks for it...
This morning, her mom and her sister came over and I cooked brunch/mimosas/etc for everyone and her mom wanted to watch “Joel Osteen’s Easter Service” a bit after we ate and I was very “put off” because
1. Joel Osteen is a fricking hypocritical miser who touts and misrepresents his “faith” to take advantage of his “flock”
2. My SO knew ahead of time that it was going to be put into the morning’s agenda and didn’t tell me until it was WAY too late for me to excuse myself and without offending her mother.
As I mentioned, I told her I wouldn’t challenge/diminish her faith or wanting to hear “the word of God”, and I asked that she not try to impress upon me anything from any type of “organized religion”... live and let live and all of that... You do you, booboo.
Other than this, she’s fricking perfect and I love her to death. And we’ve talked about marriage and kids and how we’d raise them and I said, “I won’t dismiss or work against my kids following a religious path/etc” and so now it’s a thing for our “hypothetical kids”
My argument is that I wasn’t/didn’t cause an issue in front of her mother/sister... because I knew that wouldn’t go over well. I feel that I’m able to respect her beliefs, be she isn’t/won’t respect mine.
Has anyone successfully navigated the waters of a difference in “faith/religion”?
ib4: pics, SO brag
eta: sorry for the wall of words
This post was edited on 4/12/20 at 11:53 am
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Posted on 4/12/20 at 11:54 am to yankeeundercover
The only way to make this work is for both of you to ignore this aspect of each other's life.
So yeah, good luck with that.
So yeah, good luck with that.
Posted on 4/12/20 at 11:55 am to PrivatePublic
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The only way to make this work is to send a pic of your wife and mother in law.
Posted on 4/12/20 at 11:55 am to yankeeundercover
The issue isn't her religion.
It's her unwillingness to be her own person and thereby upset mommy.
It's her unwillingness to be her own person and thereby upset mommy.
Posted on 4/12/20 at 11:56 am to yankeeundercover
neither of you clearly respect the others opinion in all of this. if yall actually want your marriage to work, both of you need to change that ASAP
Posted on 4/12/20 at 11:56 am to yankeeundercover
If she goes or plans on going to church and you don’t then she’ll eventually resent you for it. Sounds like this is destined to fail
Posted on 4/12/20 at 11:57 am to yankeeundercover
Agnostic is the dumbest of anything you can be.
It’s like oh there’s something there but I don’t believe in it.
Man up and be Atheist.
It’s like oh there’s something there but I don’t believe in it.
Man up and be Atheist.
Posted on 4/12/20 at 11:59 am to yankeeundercover
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My SO knew ahead of time that it was going to be put into the morning’s agenda and didn’t tell me until it was WAY too late for me to excuse myself and without offending her mother.
You can’t just tolerate it for an hour without turning into a little bitch? By the way you type, I guarantee that she’s listened to your self-important incessant rambling a time or two. It’s give and take, bro
Posted on 4/12/20 at 11:59 am to yankeeundercover
You sound miserable to be around.
Y’all aren’t going to work out
Y’all aren’t going to work out
Posted on 4/12/20 at 11:59 am to yankeeundercover
I would be more worried that a decent Southern girl married a Yankee.
Posted on 4/12/20 at 11:59 am to yankeeundercover
Put this into perspective—for two thousand years many millions of people (believe it or not even millions smarter than you) have adopted and put faith into Christian beliefs.
All at one time or another all have doubted their faith.
Best thing for you to do is to accept that and participate in the family events and keep your mouth shut.
Your wife will become more religious as she ages.
All at one time or another all have doubted their faith.
Best thing for you to do is to accept that and participate in the family events and keep your mouth shut.
Your wife will become more religious as she ages.
This post was edited on 4/12/20 at 12:01 pm
Posted on 4/12/20 at 12:00 pm to yankeeundercover
You sound like a bitch.
Happy Easter
Happy Easter
Posted on 4/12/20 at 12:01 pm to yankeeundercover
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whereas I believe in logic/science/etc.
Posted on 4/12/20 at 12:01 pm to yankeeundercover
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This morning, her mom and her sister came over and I cooked brunch/mimosas/etc for everyone and her mom wanted to watch “Joel Osteen’s Easter Service” a bit after we ate and I was very “put off” because
Damn that sounds like paradise.
Posted on 4/12/20 at 12:01 pm to Booyow
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You can’t just tolerate it for an hour without turning into a little bitch?
That self aggrandizing thief, or anyone like him, is not allowed on in my home.
I agree with OP.
Posted on 4/12/20 at 12:01 pm to yankeeundercover
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because she was raised Catholic and “sort of” believes in God, whereas I believe in logic/science/etc.
Posted on 4/12/20 at 12:01 pm to yankeeundercover
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whereas I believe in logic/science/etc.
*tips fedora*
Posted on 4/12/20 at 12:01 pm to yankeeundercover
Whatever higher power you’re not sure about may have sent you an angel but it will be up you to get it figured out
Posted on 4/12/20 at 12:02 pm to The Boat
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Agnostic is the dumbest of anything you can be.
Agnostic is someone saying they don't know and aren't going to say for sure if there's a God or not. Lot better then sayin that you know for sure that God exists or doesn't
Posted on 4/12/20 at 12:02 pm to yankeeundercover
People that brag about not believing in god are worse than those who brag about christian stuff imo
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