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re: Cash bar at a wedding reception...
Posted on 5/13/19 at 8:22 am to lsunurse
Posted on 5/13/19 at 8:22 am to lsunurse
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Cash bars have been mentioned many times and it is a regional thing.
I bartended a bunch of wedding receptions in college in the early 90's. I'm not sure wedings back then were as big a deal as they are now, but about 50% of the ones that served alcohol were cash bars. For many of those, the bride or groom's family would pay for the first few kegs of beer.
The open bar ones were always a shitshow.
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Posted on 5/13/19 at 8:25 am to vl100butch
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the groomsmen and bridesmaids all got tickets for free drinks at the bar...the regular guests had to pay...
The first thing that crossed my mind was maybe the bride and groom were Baptists and didn't wish to promote sinful behavior. I have been to several such weddings, but there was no alcohol at all, not even a cash bar.
But obviously this isn't the case here, since they provided free booze to the wedding party. So my opinion is that it was very tacky to have a cash bar.
This post was edited on 5/13/19 at 8:27 am
Posted on 5/13/19 at 8:26 am to Diver Diva
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So my opinion is that it was very tacky.
What would your Mommy and Daddy say?
Posted on 5/13/19 at 8:27 am to Buckeye Jeaux
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If is a large wedding, (and you've invited a dozen or so lushes and their SO's) a cash bar, with written cut-off instructions to management, is a smart move.
If a lush drives off shitfaced because of your open-bar-generosity, the limits of your insurance may not begin to cover your liability - if he plows in to someone at 70 or 80 mph.
Welcome to the world we live in.
Fortunately, in Louisiana, this is all but impossible. I know there are others states that are different.
Posted on 5/13/19 at 8:29 am to LCA131
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What would your Mommy and Daddy say?
They would say it was tacky. But we are Catholic.
Posted on 5/13/19 at 8:33 am to Ed Osteen
The bride’s family pays for the reception.
Posted on 5/13/19 at 8:35 am to lsunurse
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Most traditional nice wedding venues don't allow you to "do it yourself" in regards to alcohol. Would be too much of a huge liability to their establishment to let someone just roll up with their own alcohol and have their cousin bar tend. The venue would rather have their own staff tending bar, staff they know is trained and has the proper licenses to serve alcohol. Also...the venue knows alcohol is a huge money maker for them. No way they aren't gonna take advantage of that for the events they host.
OP said the venue was nice...likely the type of place that is very strict in regards to their food and alcohol packages.
I’m having a hard time understanding this. It must be a regional or state thing because I’ve never heard of places that would allow such a thing based on liability. If I own a building and allow your drunk 3rd cousin to make drinks and he poisons the whole crowd I am responsible. If I own a building only people with the proper licenses and insurances can serve food or drinks to guests. Most places hold their own licenses and don’t bring in third party vendors for either food or drinks, but even the places that do not, use approved 3rd party vendors and would never allow you to basically through a keg party on their property. It’s hard to believe this happens, I never heard of such a thing and on the scale of sketchy that is about as sketchy of an event that I can think of witnessing.
Posted on 5/13/19 at 8:47 am to Jp1LSU
Well it was Alabama and the wedding was Baptist...however the groom and groomsmen were all Ole Miss KAs....
Posted on 5/13/19 at 9:12 am to whoisnickdoobs
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Our reception will have free beer, wine, Tito's, and Jack Daniels. If you want top shelf you have to pay for it. Is that trashy?
I think people might be less upset if the cash upgrade wasn't even an option.
Posted on 5/13/19 at 9:24 am to dualed
You havent lived trashy till you got the cops called on you for shotgunning beers in the parking lot at your friends wedding because he has a cash bar
The bride's parents dont like when the whole wedding moves to the parking lot next to the ice chest.
So lesson to all, dont have a cash bar and invite your professional drinking friends
The bride's parents dont like when the whole wedding moves to the parking lot next to the ice chest.
So lesson to all, dont have a cash bar and invite your professional drinking friends
Posted on 5/13/19 at 9:35 am to vl100butch
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the wedding was Baptist
I've been to two weddings in my life that were strict Baptist weddings. The first was in Mississippi. Had to rent a text and drive 1.5 hours for this damn wedding that lasted all of 20 minutes. Afterwards, everyone went to a church hall and they had a few sandwhiches, some chips, and that silly fruit punch in a big bowl.
The other one I attended had a similar little reception, but the bride and groom had invited the cool friends/family to a hotel that had a small conference room with some music and alcohol.
Posted on 5/13/19 at 9:38 am to vl100butch
I went to a rehearsal dinner one time that had a cash bar. The groom's family was a very religious mormon family and wouldn't pay for alcohol. Never a wedding though. I have been to receptions where there was no alcohol.
Posted on 5/13/19 at 9:40 am to GreatLakesTiger24
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I’ll never understand what makes people feel entitled to free alcohol at these events.
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because it's a cultural norm
Yep. Not only that, it is part of Judeo-Christian history of wedding celebrations (and believe me, a wedding IS and should be a celebration) as it ties in to Jesus' 1st miracle.
In the Gospel accounts, Jesus, his mother and his disciples were invited to and attended a wedding at Cana. The wine ran out and the wedding party was upset; this was a social disaster. Jesus ordered the servants to fill containers with water and to draw out some and take it to the chief steward (waiter). After tasting it, without knowing where it came from, the steward remarked to the bridegroom that he had departed from the custom of serving the best wine first by serving it last. So not only did Jesus turn water into wine, he turned it into the GOOD STUFF.
The gospel account of Jesus being invited to a marriage, attending, and using his divine power to save the celebrations from disaster are taken as evidence of his approval for marriage and earthly celebrations. It has also been used as an argument against Christian teetotalism.
Posted on 5/13/19 at 9:42 am to DownshiftAndFloorIt
Bride's mom didn't call the cops on us, but she was not happy a few weeks after the wedding. Wedding was dry and they put disposable cameras on every table for attendees to take pics with. So being the a-hole groomsmen we were, we took the cameras out to the truck that had the cooler of beer and took a bunch of pics of us drinking beer in the parking lot. She was mortified when she went to pick up the pics from the developer, and let our boy know. We of course give him shite about it still today, 20 years later. We never did get to see the pics though.
Posted on 5/13/19 at 9:43 am to vl100butch
If you wanna be cheap at least do beer and wine free and everything else cash..I've seen this a few times. Full cash bar is tacky and cheap as shite. People travel to your wedding and dedicate their day to your event, and you can't spring for their drink??
Posted on 5/13/19 at 9:47 am to lsunurse
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The bride and groom do not HAVE to provide you with free alcohol. All they have to do is provide you with a meal if the reception is during a usual meal time. Anything else is a bonus.
Without free alcohol how am I supposed to find the self deprecating, slutty bridesmaid known for making horrible mistakes?
Posted on 5/13/19 at 9:49 am to ThatMakesSense
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Without free alcohol how am I supposed to find the self deprecating, slutty bridesmaid known for making horrible mistakes?
Look at home. You married her.
Posted on 5/13/19 at 9:57 am to vl100butch
Open bar generally costs $20.00 to $30.00 per head depending on quality of liquor provided. So, its about 10k for a large wedding once you factor in tax and gratuity.
Posted on 5/13/19 at 10:16 am to lsunurse
quote:says who? why can't they charge for food too?
All they have to do is provide you with a meal if the reception is during a usual meal time. Anything else is a bonus.
Posted on 5/13/19 at 10:36 am to ShoeBang
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Worked out well. Everyone got hammer drunk for free and there was a tip jar. I had a secret stash of imports for me and bottle of blanton's for the wife to drink and me to take shots.
Cash bar is trashy. If you can't afford it, choose another venue or do it yourself.
I think the groom doing shots discounts your vote to call a cash bar trashy.
However your other comment regarding everyone hammered drunk and a tip jar confirms your bottom rung on the extension ladder of social standing.
I’m probably not going to far out on a limb to assume you got the order wrong and started the family prior to the wedding?
Good luck in prison.
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