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re: Any advice for married man who wants sex?
Posted on 11/3/20 at 6:57 am to Mud_Till_May
Posted on 11/3/20 at 6:57 am to Mud_Till_May
Damn months...my wife cant even go week. Ive told her if we stop having sex for months Ill take it as a sign we are just friends. If that happens we can divorce or she can be content with someone else taking care of that need. But 2 weeks is an a long time for us...a very long time.
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Posted on 11/3/20 at 7:03 am to Mud_Till_May
DO NOT under any circumstances beg! Don’t do tricks either once you do you’ve surrendered. Once she recognizes she doesn’t have that power over you her attitude will change and if you have a good marriage your situation will change if not, maybe it wasn’t meant to be.
Posted on 11/3/20 at 7:05 am to BigEdLSU
quote:and there we have it.
There's someone else
Posted on 11/3/20 at 7:05 am to Mud_Till_May
Women have different needs than men.
If you’re willing, I would recommend reading a book about love languages, going to counseling together, or start by just having a conversation about the relationship.
I recently picked up The Four Laws of Love and started reading it with my wife. Now, this is a Christian book written by a pastor, so there a lot of faith-based content. It might not be appropriate for you or your wife in your life now, but it made a significant impact to my marriage within days.
Sometimes problems aren’t as simple as fixing the symptoms. What’s the root cause of the distance between you and your wife? What need does she have that you aren’t fulfilling?
If you just want sex and aren’t willing to dive into the things you can do to show her that you love her, then you haven’t waited long enough for sex. Happy to help you once you get to that place. Marriage is sacred and I pray that yours isn’t discarded due to pride. The solution could be way simpler than you think.
For me? I started writing small love notes each day and leaving them in random places for my wife to find. It showed intention with our relationship and also was a reminder of the truth, that I love her and cherish her.
We also devoted time to go on dates each week. Alone time to connect away from the kids. It was impactful.
If you’re willing, I would recommend reading a book about love languages, going to counseling together, or start by just having a conversation about the relationship.
I recently picked up The Four Laws of Love and started reading it with my wife. Now, this is a Christian book written by a pastor, so there a lot of faith-based content. It might not be appropriate for you or your wife in your life now, but it made a significant impact to my marriage within days.
Sometimes problems aren’t as simple as fixing the symptoms. What’s the root cause of the distance between you and your wife? What need does she have that you aren’t fulfilling?
If you just want sex and aren’t willing to dive into the things you can do to show her that you love her, then you haven’t waited long enough for sex. Happy to help you once you get to that place. Marriage is sacred and I pray that yours isn’t discarded due to pride. The solution could be way simpler than you think.
For me? I started writing small love notes each day and leaving them in random places for my wife to find. It showed intention with our relationship and also was a reminder of the truth, that I love her and cherish her.
We also devoted time to go on dates each week. Alone time to connect away from the kids. It was impactful.
Posted on 11/3/20 at 7:09 am to Mud_Till_May
Stop worrying about the indulgences of this world. And you have died.
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The reading is from St. Paul's Letter to the Colossians 2:20-23; 3:1-3
Brethren, if with Christ you died to the elemental spirits of the universe, why do you live as if you still belonged to the world? Why do you submit to regulations, "Do not handle, Do not taste, Do not touch" (referring to things which all perish as they are used), according to human precepts and doctrines? These have indeed an appearance of wisdom in promoting rigor of devotion and self-abasement and severity to the body, but they are of no value in checking the indulgence of the flesh. If then you have been raised with Christ, seek the things that are above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth. For you have died, and your life is hid with Christ in God.
Posted on 11/3/20 at 7:12 am to Mud_Till_May
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Damn its been months. Im tired of this shite, is it worth it? Give me sex or give me death.
You have two options, as I see it. Cheat - plenty of women looking for some fun, it ain't hard unless you are simply incapable of being laid, which is rare if you look around WalMart.
The better option is to wine and dine her and treat her like a girlfriend. Presumably she wanted to have sex with you at some point in your relationship. Treat her like a girlfriend not a wife. I know, that sounds like something a wussy would do, but if she ain't fricking someone else and is healthy she wants to frick as bad as you....she just ain't into the situation like she was when it was new. This will take some time....the lines are drawn...and it will end a marriage. If the marriage is worth saving put the time in....I know, its a pain in the arse, but compared to the alternative???? I can't imagine being single again.....imagine pretending you are interested in another woman for anything other than sex...that sounds worse than going to a nut thumping. If the marriage is worth saving put in the work. If she is fricking someone else you have lost and may as well go get laid....
Posted on 11/3/20 at 7:15 am to Mud_Till_May
quote:She's probably self-conscious about her post-baby body right now. Go the sweet route, assure a bitch that she's beautiful.
7 month old
Posted on 11/3/20 at 7:16 am to Mud_Till_May
Months?? She's fricking someone, it's just not you.
Posted on 11/3/20 at 7:19 am to EarnYourStripes
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I recently picked up The Four Laws of Love and started reading it with my wife. Now, this is a Christian book written by a pastor, so there a lot of faith-based content. It might not be appropriate for you or your wife in your life now, but it made a significant impact to my marriage within days.
I don't understand the theological premises of these books.
ETA: In fact this ones sounds worse than many of the others based on this review on Amazon.
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I've been searching for a book to finally bring marriage out of the stone ages and into the light of modern interpretation. Concepts such as a wife obeying her husband are highly misogynistic, and it's time that a Christian leader stood up against these out-moded teachings. I have long rejected Pauline authority on the teachings of Ephesians Chapter 5. The reality is that, regardless of what was written by the patriarchal hetero-oppressors in the ancient past, marriage is a partnership and both parties have equality. Period. Comparing the marriage relationship to Christ and the Church was always a massive mistake and honestly speaking, this portion of the Bible is an attack on women and it should just be deleted. I salute Pastor Evans for finally calling out these lies for what they are.
This post was edited on 11/3/20 at 7:24 am
Posted on 11/3/20 at 7:23 am to Mud_Till_May
quote:
Any advice for married man who wants sex?
Get used to it.
Posted on 11/3/20 at 7:30 am to Mud_Till_May
You got married there’s the problem. Women want things they can’t have. She has you and no longer wants you. She’s probably with you for the things you can provide and dick is not one of them. I would start fricking random girls in y’all bed
Posted on 11/3/20 at 7:39 am to lsufootball5150
“I was making love with my wife, and she had a faraway look in her eyes, and I said, ‘Darling, is there someone else?’ and she said, ‘There must be.’”
Rodney Dangerfield
Rodney Dangerfield
Posted on 11/3/20 at 7:40 am to Mud_Till_May
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7 month old
Well maybe lead off with that next time dumbass.
So you have 2 kids, and one is a 7 month old? That would be a big reason to this issue.
Posted on 11/3/20 at 7:44 am to Mud_Till_May
Unironically, Trump has the good advice here. Grab, foreplay, quicky.
Posted on 11/3/20 at 7:52 am to Mud_Till_May
Posted on 11/3/20 at 7:53 am to OleWar
As long as we are quoting scripture on here -
1 Corinthians 7:1-6
I agree with comments such as: continue to let your wife know you love her through actions - not just words, women have hormone changes so be patient and continue to love her, continue to have open conversations but pick the right times, make yourself more attractive to her - not just physically.
1 Corinthians 7:1-6
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1 Now for my response concerning the issues you’ve asked me to address. You wrote saying, “It is proper for a man to live in celibacy.” 2 Perhaps. But because of the danger of immorality, each husband should have sexual intimacy with his wife and each wife should have sexual intimacy with her husband. 3 A husband has the responsibility of meeting the sexual needs of his wife, and likewise a wife to her husband. 4 Neither the husband nor the wife have exclusive rights to their own bodies, but those rights are to be surrendered to the other. 5 So don’t continue to refuse your spouse those rights, except perhaps by mutual agreement for a specified time so that you can both be devoted to prayer. And then you should resume your physical pleasure so that the Adversary cannot take advantage of you because of the desires of your body. 6 I’m not giving you a divine command, but my godly advice.
I agree with comments such as: continue to let your wife know you love her through actions - not just words, women have hormone changes so be patient and continue to love her, continue to have open conversations but pick the right times, make yourself more attractive to her - not just physically.
Posted on 11/3/20 at 7:55 am to tigburls
#truth
Posted on 11/3/20 at 8:03 am to BigEdLSU
quote:
There's someone else
out there for you
Posted on 11/3/20 at 8:05 am to Mud_Till_May
Had to trade my first wife in after the same shite. It'll cost you, but you can't put a price on happiness.
Posted on 11/3/20 at 8:15 am to Mud_Till_May
Here's some advice:
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