re: Any advice for married man who wants sex?

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Notice how OP has completely ignored the best advice in this thread? StringedInstruments told him exactly what he needs to do.

This is a shitty troll.

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I don't think it is a troll post. I think that many times we are so caught up in our own wants, needs and desires --- and the way we go about obtaining those that we fail to truly listen at first while still in the moment. Taking time to change one's perspective actually takes time.

There is some good advice contained within. Even if he wasn't serious with his initial post, there are people who have posted and/or just read this forum that are going through the same thing.

Many people don't want and/or can't process a different perspective initially. I used to be one of those people. And in some regard, I still am.

None of us are perfect. His spouse isn't. We're all a work in progress. There will be times when things are going really great. And there will be times when things absolutely suck. If it is worth trying for, then it is worth fighting for, even when emotions might dictate otherwise.

Know where your money is and keep up with your finances. If it ain't in the bedroom it ain't gonna work.

Some women just don’t enjoy sex. As much as most men enjoy sex it’s difficult for men to understand. Just the way things are.

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Some women just don’t enjoy sex. As much as most men enjoy sex it’s difficult for men to understand. Just the way things are.

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Woman here. That’s not true. All women I’ve ever met enjoy sex, they just would rather do something else rather than have “meh” sex. It’s like being hungry enough to eat at Golden Corral (men) vs. saving your appetite for something delicious. In other words, make yourself desirable. Quit the whining.

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domesticengineer

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She is EXHAUSTED. Take some initiative, take on more responsibility when it comes to the baby & PLAN a night out for the both of you... set up a sitter & a dinner that she can actually sit down and enjoy. If she can sleep the night before the date-even better! She’ll have energy to hang out.

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Typical advice from a woman.

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All women I’ve ever met enjoy sex

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Every woman I've had sex with said they hated sex.

Women are just hard to figure out.

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No, I just whine that she never gives it to me and then she gets mad. Its a never ending cycle.

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I don't know what to tell you now, but you've mismanaged this from the beginning. I have never asked twice in a row. The first time my wife said no I was as understanding as can be, and the next time was after she finally asked for it.

Your wife knows it's always available and begging. My wife knows she has to do her share if she's going to keep getting some.

One last truism: If a woman wants it three times per week, and her husband wants it every night (these are in their 20's ) how often will they actually do it?

When you get that answer right you'll understand.

Need pics of the both of you to give an accurate diagnosis.

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Did you talk to your wife? That’s fricking ridiculous and unacceptablethat you even have this issue. I don’t understand women who don’t love sex. Life is way too short for a sexless marriage.

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If anything you read about women is even remotely true, it's because most don't experience orgasms through intercourse. So in that sense, I could see it just being a chore you are tired of doing.