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re: Any advice for married man who wants sex?
Posted on 11/3/20 at 4:27 am to Mud_Till_May
Posted on 11/3/20 at 4:27 am to Mud_Till_May
Your wife doesn’t like banging on the floor?
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Posted on 11/3/20 at 4:56 am to Mud_Till_May
If only that still had backpage.
Tell her fine, but she has no right to complain about where you do get it from for now on.
Tell her fine, but she has no right to complain about where you do get it from for now on.
Posted on 11/3/20 at 5:01 am to Mud_Till_May
Went through the same thing with my first wife. Then I found out the reason, she was fricking my neighbor while I was at work.... she begged for a second chance. Nope I was out
Posted on 11/3/20 at 5:05 am to go_tigres
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Months??? Was she in a terrible accident or recently have a child? That's would be the only legitimate excuse.
7 month old
Posted on 11/3/20 at 5:13 am to Mud_Till_May
Get off TDs for a while.
Buy some roses.
Make a dinner reservation.
Get a babysitter
Profit
Buy some roses.
Make a dinner reservation.
Get a babysitter
Profit
Posted on 11/3/20 at 5:20 am to Mud_Till_May
She went from being a wife to being a mom.
Tell her you married her to be your wife, not be the kids mom. Tell her that part of marriage is intimacy and if she no longer has interest then the foundation is fundamentally changed and that is reason for separation. Ask her if she wants to separate.
If she does then you know the deal. If not, she needs to get therapy to address HER issue.
If she won’t then figure out if you want to stay with her. Think hard. There are kids involved and divorce is a serious impact on their lives.
You have options though.
Tell her you married her to be your wife, not be the kids mom. Tell her that part of marriage is intimacy and if she no longer has interest then the foundation is fundamentally changed and that is reason for separation. Ask her if she wants to separate.
If she does then you know the deal. If not, she needs to get therapy to address HER issue.
If she won’t then figure out if you want to stay with her. Think hard. There are kids involved and divorce is a serious impact on their lives.
You have options though.
This post was edited on 11/3/20 at 5:26 am
Posted on 11/3/20 at 5:22 am to Rouge
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Be very upfront and give her some advanced notice.
Tell her that you are going to have sex on Friday night. Then tell her that you hope that it is with her.
This advice comes courtesy of my friend yellowfin
After you say that, don’t say another word about it til you crawl in the bed or walk in whatever room she is in on Friday night butt arse naked with a big arse grin!
If she gives you shite, just put clothes on and leave. Come back two hours later and go straight to sleep. Don’t talk about it at all, just go to bed!
SHE will be the one that starts the conversation on Saturday morning. Don’t let go of the power again!
One more thing.. If she doesn’t bring it up Saturday. Get your affairs in order, call an attorney, and go search for the happiness we all deserve. Good luck!
This post was edited on 11/3/20 at 5:24 am
Posted on 11/3/20 at 5:32 am to SlidellCajun
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She went from being a wife to being a mom.
Absolutely, and she has only had 7 months since the birth of their child and is still adjusting.
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Tell her you married her to be your wife, not be the kids mom. Tell her that part of marriage is intimacy and if she no longer has interest then the foundation is fundamentally changed and that is reason for separation. Ask her if she wants to separate.
This is terrible advice. Don’t “tell” her anything. You can explain how you feel, but if you tell her anything, she’ll more than likely feel attacked and will tune you out, walk away, put up a wall, or flip the script back on you (depending upon her defensiveness personality). She’s probably adjusting to her new body and may lack confidence right now in her looks and how she feels.
Also, the thought of suggesting separation after bringing a child into this world (only 7 months ago) only illustrates how much of a throw away society we really are. Marriage is very difficult. It’s incredibly frustrating at times. But it can be rewarding to. Getting through this will suck. And he may not get through it. That’s up to him ... and his wife.
Communication is key. Can he have a conversation and truly listen for the sake of listening? Can he have a conversation without having her feel like she is being attacked? Can he put aside his own needs to work on the betterment of their marriage?
When married couples start to realize that marriage isn’t for or about them, that’s when things can start to improve. Changing one’s perspective is hard to do, but necessary and worth it for the sake of a marriage.
This post was edited on 11/3/20 at 5:33 am
Posted on 11/3/20 at 5:45 am to Mud_Till_May
Do you REALLY want to find the problem and solve it?
Step 1:
Find a mirror
Step 2:
Look into the mirror
Step 3:
There’s your problem
Step 4:
Get the person in the mirror to act like a normal male human
Profit
Step 1:
Find a mirror
Step 2:
Look into the mirror
Step 3:
There’s your problem
Step 4:
Get the person in the mirror to act like a normal male human
Profit
Posted on 11/3/20 at 5:58 am to Mud_Till_May
Same brother...it sucks arse - figuratively of course.
Not months...but once a month doesn’t do the trick either.
Not months...but once a month doesn’t do the trick either.
This post was edited on 11/3/20 at 6:03 am
Posted on 11/3/20 at 6:00 am to Mud_Till_May
Read No More Mr Nice Guy.
Seriously. It's an easy read. But the cliffs are:
Get your act together, as stop whining. Tell her what's up. Women respect ambition, ability, decisiveness, and action. Right now, it sounds like you are none of the above.
Seriously. It's an easy read. But the cliffs are:
Get your act together, as stop whining. Tell her what's up. Women respect ambition, ability, decisiveness, and action. Right now, it sounds like you are none of the above.
Posted on 11/3/20 at 6:19 am to Mud_Till_May
I am a 41 year old male. I have been divorced for about 12 years.
I have not read past the first page nor do I intend to. But this is the truth, at least in my experience, and likely the most sincere answer you will get.
People go through phases. Seriously.
There have been times in my life where I was interested in the most degenerate shite (still legal) you can imagine. At other times the act of kissing another person absolutely disgusted me....and it wasn't anything to do with the other person.
Things ebb and flow. If you enjoy your S.O.'s company just hang in there. At the end that is infinitely more satiating than busting one off.
I have not read past the first page nor do I intend to. But this is the truth, at least in my experience, and likely the most sincere answer you will get.
People go through phases. Seriously.
There have been times in my life where I was interested in the most degenerate shite (still legal) you can imagine. At other times the act of kissing another person absolutely disgusted me....and it wasn't anything to do with the other person.
Things ebb and flow. If you enjoy your S.O.'s company just hang in there. At the end that is infinitely more satiating than busting one off.
Posted on 11/3/20 at 6:26 am to Mud_Till_May
Dude, when was the last time you told your wife that you love her?
Made 41 years yesterday. Every day, we kiss the first thing in the morning and when we go to bed we kiss good night. And yes, I tell her I love her.
Marriage is a work in progress always. You need to stop and just have a talk with your wife. You don't need to come here, ask this question at home.
Made 41 years yesterday. Every day, we kiss the first thing in the morning and when we go to bed we kiss good night. And yes, I tell her I love her.
Marriage is a work in progress always. You need to stop and just have a talk with your wife. You don't need to come here, ask this question at home.
Posted on 11/3/20 at 6:27 am to Mud_Till_May
Someone told me it is not cheating until you get caught?
Then he got a divorce for some reason.
I just don’t understand what happened?
Then he got a divorce for some reason.
I just don’t understand what happened?
Posted on 11/3/20 at 6:28 am to Mud_Till_May
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Damn its been months.
Sorry to say but I’m pretty sure that while it’s been months since you’ve had sex, the same almost certainly isn’t true for her.
Posted on 11/3/20 at 6:39 am to Chucktown_Badger
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New GF and I have been together about 6 months, and she is all about it. Average 2-3 times per weekend, and it's fun, kinky sex. Shower, countertop, sofa, outside, lingerie, toys, you. name it. Exactly what I was looking for.
Bookmarked to come back to in 9 1/2 weeks.
Posted on 11/3/20 at 6:40 am to Mud_Till_May
Does this reflect a change from your pre-kid sex life?
Hormones play a huge part
A lot of Women don’t prioritize sex like men do. You gotta introduce sexual thoughts back into her mentality without making her feel bad. I’d suggest daily things like increasing the amount of texts you send her during the day (supportive and romantic). Set up a “date night” even if she’s not ready for a sitter to watch the kid, set up a good dinner and her favorite drink
Also, there’s nothing sexier to a new mom than being a great dad....let her see that side of you
Hormones play a huge part
A lot of Women don’t prioritize sex like men do. You gotta introduce sexual thoughts back into her mentality without making her feel bad. I’d suggest daily things like increasing the amount of texts you send her during the day (supportive and romantic). Set up a “date night” even if she’s not ready for a sitter to watch the kid, set up a good dinner and her favorite drink
Also, there’s nothing sexier to a new mom than being a great dad....let her see that side of you
This post was edited on 11/3/20 at 6:41 am
Posted on 11/3/20 at 6:41 am to Mud_Till_May
Asian Massagy
Posted on 11/3/20 at 6:52 am to BowDownToLSU
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Then I found out the reason, she was fricking my neighbor while I was at work....
This post was edited on 11/3/20 at 6:53 am
Posted on 11/3/20 at 6:52 am to Mud_Till_May
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No, I just whine that she never gives it to me and then she gets mad. Its a never ending cycle.
Serious question...why are you with her?
She needs help. Whats going in in you life is NOT even close to normal.
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