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re: Spanking a kid--where do you stand?
Posted on 4/28/19 at 10:10 pm to lsufan9193969700
Posted on 4/28/19 at 10:10 pm to lsufan9193969700
quote:Not the clinical definition of a “party”.
An argument happened today at a party.
tl/dr: You and your peer circle suck.
Posted on 4/28/19 at 10:17 pm to soccerfüt
quote:lol
Not the clinical definition of a “party”.
quote:
tl/dr: You and your peer circle suck.
It was a great time. The argument was merely a slightly agitated woman firmly telling her boyfriend that spanking was dumb. He said it wasn't. The argument took no more than 5 minutes, but it made me wonder how many people agreed with her.
Posted on 4/28/19 at 10:17 pm to Spankum
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think it really depends on the child as well as the disposition of the parents. In this thread, I can only comment in general and in general, I don't see a trend one way or another.
I was hit as a kid and it didn’t turn out well. I have very little relationship with my dad because of it. It just taints your relationship, IMO. Imagine you had a friend who hits you when you mess up, you wouldn’t be friends with them long and you’d grow to resent them. Problem with the parent is there’s no way to opt out of being hit. It breeds fear, insecurity, and low self worth.
Your parent is supposed to teach you, not hit you. Hitting is lazy, and there are ways to discipline that are just as effective without hitting.
Posted on 4/28/19 at 10:20 pm to Masterag
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I was hit as a kid and it didn’t turn out well. I have very little relationship with my dad because of it.
You said, "hit." Do you mean spanked? Or did your father ball up his fist and punch you? Did he slap you? What do you mean by "hit"?
Posted on 4/28/19 at 10:21 pm to lsufan9193969700
I’ll light a kid up.
There will be no sense of entitlement in my house.
There will be no sense of entitlement in my house.
Posted on 4/28/19 at 10:28 pm to Gus007
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Studies demonstrate that corporal punishment is not an effective way to instill discipline and actually promotes insubordination and violence.
Studies indicate we will soon be underwater.
Does the military use physical punishment to install discipline? Does the military have problems with insubordination?
The military disciplines adults, not children, who respond differently to aggression because of their developmental state. The American Academy of Pediatricians has recently confirmed that it believes spanking is both ineffective and harmful in the long-term.
LINK
Posted on 4/28/19 at 10:49 pm to Masterag
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I was hit as a kid and it didn’t turn out well. I have very little relationship with my dad because of it. It just taints your relationship, IMO.
If this is how you feel, then your dad did more than give you a quick slap or quick spanking.
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Hitting is lazy, and there are ways to discipline that are just as effective without hitting.
For some children, there are definitely other ways of discipline as effective as slapping or spanking them, but for some, spanking is as effective as anything. Again, to say it's lazy is a lie. It usually involves a parent having to actively and physically address the issue right then and there. A parent could say "Well, I'm not getting you that x-box game said I was gonna get you" or something like that and it could be viewed as much more passive and lazy in terms of showing that he or she doesn't want to see that behavior displayed again.
Posted on 4/28/19 at 11:08 pm to DmitriKaramazov
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The military disciplines adults, not children, who respond differently to aggression because of their developmental state. The American Academy of Pediatricians has recently confirmed that it believes spanking is both ineffective and harmful in the long-term.
They've had studies that have showed the opposite too.
goodparent.org psychologist study
Each child is different and I think some things will work for some children and those same things may not work for other children. It's about finding a balance for each child. And the best research as to what works and what doesn't work for children is done by their parents.
Posted on 4/28/19 at 11:22 pm to genuineLSUtiger
quote:So has not spanking.
Spanking has been shown to produce criminals.
Posted on 4/28/19 at 11:26 pm to lsufan9193969700
i was never against it before having kids, and i still say, to each his own. but it just seems neanderthal to me now. i think if you're to the point where you think it's necessary, you've already fricked up some fundamentals of child rearing.
of course, this is the board that is pro-torture and cruel-and-unusual punishment, so i expect a flood of idiotic downvotes behind your double-anonymous shroud.
of course, this is the board that is pro-torture and cruel-and-unusual punishment, so i expect a flood of idiotic downvotes behind your double-anonymous shroud.
Posted on 4/28/19 at 11:39 pm to lsufan9193969700
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What do you mean by "hit"?
Belts, paddles, switches, etc.
Posted on 4/28/19 at 11:53 pm to ForeverLSU02
quote:and why there are so many pussy young adults who don't understand actions have consequences.
this is part of what's wrong with this country today
Posted on 4/28/19 at 11:56 pm to lsufan9193969700
I'd rather get spanked than have to kneel on uncooked rice while on a hardwood floor.
Been there, done that, not fun.
Been there, done that, not fun.
Posted on 4/29/19 at 12:00 am to BlackCoffeeKid
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kneel on uncooked rice while on a hardwood floor.
Now that’s just sadistic, I’m not sure what good could ever come from that.
Posted on 4/29/19 at 12:07 am to Tunasntigers92
Eh, I probably deserved it.
Was the equivalent of going in timeout for my Grandma.
Was the equivalent of going in timeout for my Grandma.
Posted on 4/29/19 at 12:16 am to lsufan9193969700
That snap...it has an effect.
A threat is best if you never have to use it. If the dread comes from that look.
I tell you what will happen if you misbehave. If you choose to continue, you leave me no choice. I can renege on my word and you won’t respect it ever again...or I can deliver the consequence YOU chose.
Once you establish the knowledge that continued disobedience will incur the known punishment, you just have to give the look. And they get that “OH shite” look on their faces.
They realize they’ve messed up and get right and you don’t even need to spank.
This post was edited on 4/29/19 at 12:22 am
Posted on 4/29/19 at 12:17 am to Tunasntigers92
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I’m not sure what good could ever come from that.
Learning to not do that behaviour
Posted on 4/29/19 at 12:38 am to lsufan9193969700
cut that arse so they dont end up in prison
Posted on 4/29/19 at 12:52 am to fr33manator
No, there are plenty other ways to teach a child not to repeat a behavior, through things like positive/negative reinforcement. Often times the carrot is better than the switch.
This post was edited on 4/29/19 at 12:55 am
Posted on 4/29/19 at 12:57 am to Tunasntigers92
But the switch must exist nonetheless. There must be consequences
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