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re: Spanking a kid--where do you stand?
Posted on 4/29/19 at 1:25 am to fr33manator
Posted on 4/29/19 at 1:25 am to fr33manator
Positive reinforcement/stimulus added. Negative reinforcement/ stimulus removed. I also tend to agree with scholars, being that discipline is circumstantial.
Posted on 4/29/19 at 1:33 am to HoustonChick86
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But sending him off to pick a belt to whip him with will never happen in my household.
My dad made me do this. I knew the pain was coming. He never lost control though. I deserved it every time.
Posted on 4/29/19 at 5:28 am to lsufan9193969700
Spanking is a two edged sword. If used with restraint and a lighter hand, it can be a helpful disciplinary tool. But if you spank at the drop of a hat, or if the hand becomes too heavy (or the belt), it can become a weapon of abuse.
Posted on 4/29/19 at 6:32 am to lsufan9193969700
My oldest saw a sports psychologist. His competitiveness was a 10 while his maturity is a 5, we had a few outburst after games and this guy has been tremendous help, it’s a non issue less than a year later.
His professional opinion is both spanking and being sent to timeout have the same effect. His advice was in non aggressive behavioral issues do not spank, but if child is being aggressive towards parents or siblings spank. Match fire with fire basically.
Edit - before becoming licensed sports psychologist this guy was a semi pro hockey player.
His professional opinion is both spanking and being sent to timeout have the same effect. His advice was in non aggressive behavioral issues do not spank, but if child is being aggressive towards parents or siblings spank. Match fire with fire basically.
Edit - before becoming licensed sports psychologist this guy was a semi pro hockey player.
This post was edited on 4/29/19 at 7:57 am
Posted on 4/29/19 at 6:37 am to GreatLakesTiger24
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Spanking is trashy
how about a bitch slap across your face?
Posted on 4/29/19 at 6:43 am to lsufan9193969700
I was never spanked. I respected my parents and turned out ok.
Posted on 4/29/19 at 6:52 am to lsufan9193969700
I look at this way...the belt worked on me. So it can work on my child too. Never beat a child though. There's a fine line...are you whipping for discipline or are you beating for getting rid of your anger....if it's the latter...stop what you are doing, that's child abuse.
I can say I got my fair share of beatings (mostly my mom who had a bad temper) and my fair share of whippings (from my dad who was cooler headed).
Also, always explain to the child what they did wrong. You may think it's petty or unimportant, but that's the MOST important thing you can do.
I can say I got my fair share of beatings (mostly my mom who had a bad temper) and my fair share of whippings (from my dad who was cooler headed).
Also, always explain to the child what they did wrong. You may think it's petty or unimportant, but that's the MOST important thing you can do.
Posted on 4/29/19 at 7:10 am to cable
quote:try me, pussy
how about a bitch slap across your face?
Posted on 4/29/19 at 7:18 am to lsufan9193969700
Depends on the child. I have one nephew you could just say a couple of terse words to and he was almost instantly morose. He knew what he had done and it was bad.
The other one though...
The most important thing is knowing the child well enough to know if spanking is warranted or will even work.
To instantly rule it out in any scenario though, that's a poor (potential) parent.
The other one though...
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The most important thing is knowing the child well enough to know if spanking is warranted or will even work.
To instantly rule it out in any scenario though, that's a poor (potential) parent.
Posted on 4/29/19 at 7:18 am to GreatLakesTiger24
I'm against it and will not and have not done it. I'm not someone who will tell others not to do it though.
Drawing the line between spanking and child abuse is hard though I'm not sure where to put that line.
Drawing the line between spanking and child abuse is hard though I'm not sure where to put that line.
This post was edited on 4/29/19 at 7:20 am
Posted on 4/29/19 at 7:47 am to lsufan9193969700
I generally dont spank, but will whip that arse for certain infractions.
Posted on 4/29/19 at 7:53 am to lsufan9193969700
I have spanked my daughter once. Now all it takes is "the look" and she straightens her self out.
ETA: I also think it depends on the child. We have friends with twins (boy and girl). The girl seems like the kind that would take an arse whipping with a whip and just turn around and smile. She's a handful.
ETA: I also think it depends on the child. We have friends with twins (boy and girl). The girl seems like the kind that would take an arse whipping with a whip and just turn around and smile. She's a handful.
This post was edited on 4/29/19 at 7:55 am
Posted on 4/29/19 at 7:53 am to Big EZ Tiger
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Each child is different. It's about finding a balance for each child. And the best research as to what works and what doesn't work for children is done by their parents.
I agree. My oldest received many more spankings than my second. Probably because I was a new parent. We have to learn also. Partly because he was more determined to have his way and was naturally into his interests.
Once we had company and were sitting outside. My youngest was riding his bicycle repeatedly through a puddle of water. I told him to quit. He did it again. I told if he did it again that I was going to spank him. He rode to the puddle then stopped and looked at me. I gave him the meanest most threatening look that I could muster. He proceeded to ride through again. I got up and gave him a spanking. Later I asked him, why in spite or my warning, the mean threatening look, he went ahead and did what I told him no to do. He said Daddy, I thought you were smiling at me. Communication!
My oldest sucked his thumb until he was two or three. I told him one day that if he quit I would buy him the toy, "Six million dollar man". He agreed, so I bought the toy. He quit sucking his thumb, but I noticed one evening that he was anxious to go to bed. After a few minutes I quietly went into his bedroom and sure enough he was sucking his thumb. I took the toy and told him I was taking for a couple weeks and if he continued sucking his thumb I was going to put it in the trash. In a few days I gave it back and he never sucked his thumb again.
Psychologists say that was the wrong approach. Maybe? Today he is an Electrical Engineer, married for twenty years to the same woman, two healthy children.
Posted on 4/29/19 at 8:08 am to lsufan9193969700
In my opinion, I strongly believe the issue is terrible parents, not spankings.
For some parents, they spank their kids for whatever reason at the drop of the dime. More often than not, the kids have no idea why. If the parents get mad, than they use the belt on their child. The kids are never really taught anything, except to maybe try not to make mommy and daddy mad. They live in fear of their parents, meanwhile becoming psychologically fricked in the head. This is BAD parenting.
On the other hand you parents who would never ever ever spank their kids. They believe in being their child's best friend. Theyre afraid to ever get stern or raise their voice with their kids, as it may make the children angry. These type of kids either usually become really soft (everyone gets a trophy generation) or they are the type you see on Dr. Phil who runs all over the parents. Where the parents are afraid of their own kids. This is BAD parenting.
It is very possible for spanking to be used in a healthy way, unfortunately, many many many parents do not use it healthily.
For some parents, they spank their kids for whatever reason at the drop of the dime. More often than not, the kids have no idea why. If the parents get mad, than they use the belt on their child. The kids are never really taught anything, except to maybe try not to make mommy and daddy mad. They live in fear of their parents, meanwhile becoming psychologically fricked in the head. This is BAD parenting.
On the other hand you parents who would never ever ever spank their kids. They believe in being their child's best friend. Theyre afraid to ever get stern or raise their voice with their kids, as it may make the children angry. These type of kids either usually become really soft (everyone gets a trophy generation) or they are the type you see on Dr. Phil who runs all over the parents. Where the parents are afraid of their own kids. This is BAD parenting.
It is very possible for spanking to be used in a healthy way, unfortunately, many many many parents do not use it healthily.
Posted on 4/29/19 at 8:09 am to lsufan9193969700
i say maybe only certain reasons. kids tend to act up a good bit sometimes, you cant be hitting them every time
Posted on 4/29/19 at 8:11 am to Masterag
quote:maybe you shouldn’t have been such a little Shitass
I was hit as a kid and it didn’t turn out well.
Posted on 4/29/19 at 8:15 am to McLemore
quote:what if you’ve raised a Child who was a good little child his entire life but he gets into middle school/high school and hanging out with his friends and just being a teenager he gets more and more disrespectful and eventually decides to tell his mother to go frick herself or when she or you asks him to do something around the house he refuses and if you try to take something away from him like his xbox or tv and he just says no and Takes it away from you? I think there comes a point in time to where for boys anyway, they need an arse whupping from their parents or at least the threat has to be there they know if they push it too far or they’ll end up getting their arse whipped by someone else in the long run and it may not be someone who’s gonna stop after a few swats on the butt.
i think if you're to the point where you think it's necessary, you've already fricked up some fundamentals of child rearing.
Posted on 4/29/19 at 8:17 am to QJenk
quote:I agree with this. Spanking has its place. It should be used as the last resort most of the time but the threat should be there
is very possible for spanking to be used in a healthy way, unfortunately, many many many parents do not use it healthily.
Posted on 4/29/19 at 8:18 am to lsufan9193969700
I always thought I'd spank my kids, but then I had kids and my perspective changed. I've spanked my oldest once when he was 4, and it turns my stomach to think about still today because I did so out of anger. Have never spanked my daughter.
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