re: Would your fiancé not taking your last name be a deal breaker?

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There is only a few reasons why she shouldn’t take your last name
1. She is known by her last name in her profession (Doctor, published author, etc)
2. She’s famous
3. Her family has a business or something they built on the family name

Otherwise it’s suspect

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Jack White of the White Stripes took his wife's last name. They hit the big time and become famous.............then they divorced. Not sure if Meg White's sex tape with another dude came out before or after the divorce. Either way, that dude's story is the epitome of the word "cuck".

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Not everyone bases their marriage on antiquated customs. The days of an easy name change are over. The red tape and hoops you have to jump through at government agencies to change a name is unbelievable.

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Nope, it's the same.

If you don't think keeping her name is a big deal, you're wrong. You'll learn eventually.

I think the "not changing for professional reasons" is over done to the point where it's a cop out. Like where is the line? Faith Hill changing to Faith McGraw - ok, I get it it. But local Dr not wanting to change? An attorney or someone who has a few things published? Come the frick on.

My wife had a successful career and changed her name, email, and all the other things people in this thread bitch about with no problem. She went from a common name to one easily misspelled and mispronounced. No problems. No complaints.

I see a lot of women really overestimating just how successful they are under their last name or just how widely known they are. I think it's a cop out for most. And congrats to them when their kids have a different last name and people start assuming they have multiple baby daddies.

Get the fricking name change.

I don't think it would be a deal breaker. I'd probably be butthurt about it for a bit at first, but whatever.

Now if she did it a couple days before the wedding after we'd already discussed it (because this is something you take care of well before the wedding) that would be a major red flag.

I'm ok with it. If woman takes man's last name, a man can take woman's last name. Neither makes sense to me. Why does marriage come with new identity for the wife but not the husband? Come as you are.

The last minute part of your post raises questions (possibly) in the trust/communication space.

Depends how rich/famous she is .

My wife, neither. “You’re taking my name , baby.”

The issue sounds like it would be having that discussion a few days before a wedding.

My wife kept her last name, a Cajun name, because she’s the last one in her extended family that had that name. It means something to her. Our kids have my last name. It has not been an issue at all in our marriage.

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I went with my wife in 2012 and it took about 3 hours total including driving to get her name changed. We did it all before lunch. You have no clue what you're talking about.

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My wife is doing it now, and processing all the applications with SS office, DMV, bank, etc. is supposed to take 2-3 months.