re: Would any of you ever raise and support another man's kids?

If you truly love the woman, you will raise her kids.

This is what happened to me in my mid-20's. Never once dated or even flirted or even hung out with people who were currently married or previously married. Chicks with kids were no where on the radar for me or any of my friends. Some of my buddies were marrying their college sweetheart.

Cougar wasn't even a term back then, but I sure met an older woman who truly had her shite together, but was in a bad marriage, separated for the third time, and she had a 4 year old kid. She was trying to make that marriage work and not be the very first person in the history of her family to get a divorce. We connected on so many levels and eventually we married. Celebrating 22 years of marriage this year, actually (where did the time go?).

I could go on about how all of this worked out, but not for now. I get it that today's instagram model and her shitty one-night stand sperm donor present a very different situation. People reading this need to understand that there are an infinite number of possible situations going on here, and the most mature approach is usually the best one.

yes i would. i was basically raised by a step parent and thank god for that.

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I’ve been to New Orleans a few times so there are probably a few dudes here raising mine.

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You do realize that you cannot make a baby by ejaculating in another man’s anus?

I took care of another woman's kid from the time he was one until the time he was nine. She partied a lot and moved an hour away, so my husband got custody. She has been back for a year and a half, and she has now pretty much ripped any relationship me and her son had. I wasted 9 years of my life and if I could go back, I would walk away. I wish sometimes I didn't do it, would be much easier if I didnt have a soul.

how hot is the mom?

I have recently been on a few dates with a divorced mother of three. I have been around just one of the kids and it was fine. But I won’t be marrying her or spending a dime on the kids.

Not enough information to give a answer

Sure, we are raising my Niece; we’ve had her since her 3rd birthday. I wouldn’t change it for anything. We plan to adopt a child after having one of our own as well.

It’s not the child’s fault for being born into a bad situation, but if you have a heart you can change a child’s life for the better. No sense in punishing a child for their parents mistakes.

I was raised by my step dad. I am 100% thankful I was and not by my POS father.

In my early 20's I dated a girl with a daughter for about a year. Her daughter spent a lot of time with her parents who are O-T baller status. It seemed more like she had a little sister. Things progressed and her daughter was around more and more. I took to her and things were good for a few months. Then her ex got back in the picture. Total lil bitch mommas a boy. His mom petitioned the court for split custody even though mommas boy didn't want anything to do with his daughter. Ended up she just wanted her son to give over custody in echange for no child support. After that I started feeling pressure to take that role. It ended a couple months later. I still sent her daughter birthday and Christmas money would occasionally visit her for a couple years. One day my ex tried to hit me up for a couple grand. Her parents had basically taken over the care of their granddaughter and cut her off. I turned her down and she told me I couldn't have anything to do with her daughter. She ended up marrying some guy about a year later. Then I lost track. Fast forward 5 years I meet another single mother with an 11 year old son. Ended up breaking it off with her because in the back of my mind I always thought what had happened before. Fast forward more years and I now feel she was the one who got away, So the short answer is, it depends on th girl.