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Posted on 2/9/22 at 7:40 am to dallastiger55
I went from working from home and being able to do 90% of the house crap and being able to do every activity with my kids to traveling 3-5 days a week. I’ve only been doing it for a month but so far so good. For reference, I have 5 kids ranging from 21 to 18 months. My current wife and I have 3 littles and she FaceTimes me most nights (provided I’m not at a dinner meeting) and I talk to them on the way to school and coming home from aftercare.
It makes my time at home with them more valuable.
It makes my time at home with them more valuable.
Posted on 2/9/22 at 7:40 am to dallastiger55
I didn’t like being away from my kids, and sadly, for most of 2019 I was.
Even though some might say “it was only a year in the grand scheme of things” I feel like my kids thought it was like 5 years.
I missed way more baseball and soccer games than most dead beat dads that year.
With kids, there is not “quality time”….only time. They knew I wasn’t going to be at their games — dad just wasn’t there.
Even though some might say “it was only a year in the grand scheme of things” I feel like my kids thought it was like 5 years.
I missed way more baseball and soccer games than most dead beat dads that year.
With kids, there is not “quality time”….only time. They knew I wasn’t going to be at their games — dad just wasn’t there.
This post was edited on 2/9/22 at 7:41 am
Posted on 2/9/22 at 7:41 am to Floyd Dawg
quote:Good for you. I’m sure your son will love having you home more.
I'm walking away at the end of next week. Missed too many things at home and I'm not comfortable with it anymore
Posted on 2/9/22 at 7:49 am to tigergirl10
For me personally there is no job or salary that is worth excess time away from my family.
Posted on 2/9/22 at 8:30 am to dallastiger55
I traveled about 70% when my older kids were young. I would be gone about 2-3 weeks at a time because it was international and I had a loop I hit. Plus I had a NYC office I was in a few days a month.
25k isn't enough to travel for. I did what I did because the money allowed my wife to stay home full time. I missed a lot of events but had control of my schedule enough to be home for the big ones. He'll, one time I made a round trip from India for a weekend hockey tourney. 42 hours ofntlflyingnto and from India for 3 days of watching my sons play hockey. The RT ticket was a little over $15k because the nice thing was flying first class on international flights.
Like others said you don't get a kids childhood back.
25k isn't enough to travel for. I did what I did because the money allowed my wife to stay home full time. I missed a lot of events but had control of my schedule enough to be home for the big ones. He'll, one time I made a round trip from India for a weekend hockey tourney. 42 hours ofntlflyingnto and from India for 3 days of watching my sons play hockey. The RT ticket was a little over $15k because the nice thing was flying first class on international flights.
Like others said you don't get a kids childhood back.
Posted on 2/9/22 at 8:32 am to dallastiger55
every situation is different, that is little travel in the grand scheme of things.
A lot is going to depend on your wife. Is she easy going, high energy and nurturing? If so, it'll probably work well. If she is on edge, lazy, always tired and generally grouchy, it probably won't.
I see these issues all the time in military families, figure your wife out, then make a decision.
A lot is going to depend on your wife. Is she easy going, high energy and nurturing? If so, it'll probably work well. If she is on edge, lazy, always tired and generally grouchy, it probably won't.
I see these issues all the time in military families, figure your wife out, then make a decision.
Posted on 2/9/22 at 8:33 am to dallastiger55
I traveled approximately 25-45% for the first 4-5 years in my job. The nature of my travel was pretty unpredictable (getting calls in the middle of the night to leave ASAP for unknown durations kind of thing). It led to a lot of stress even when I was home because everyone (wife and 4 kids) knew I could leave any minute so it’s like I wasn’t even really there… couldn’t make plans, wife couldn’t count on help a few days out picking up kids, etc.
About 3 years ago I said enough and quit my job to not have to do it anymore. I have 0 regrets. The money’s a little less but like someone else said, I’ll never get the time with my kids back. No amount of $ is worth missing that.
About 3 years ago I said enough and quit my job to not have to do it anymore. I have 0 regrets. The money’s a little less but like someone else said, I’ll never get the time with my kids back. No amount of $ is worth missing that.
This post was edited on 2/9/22 at 8:35 am
Posted on 2/9/22 at 8:34 am to facher08
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I don't have kids but if 11-12 days out of 14 are home, that doesn't sound bad at all. Maybe I'm ignorant.
I do have a kid but like you I think maybe I'm just ignorant on the topic because I had your same thought. It sounds like one week OP is fully at home every day, then the next would be home 4-5 days of the week right? I mean..that doesn't really seem like a big deal? Especially with a $25K raise.
Posted on 2/9/22 at 8:37 am to dallastiger55
I quit my job. I worked on the road a lot and decided to hang it up by the kid’s 2nd birthday. I was missing childhood and it took the pandemic to force me to evaluate my priorities.
Posted on 2/9/22 at 8:38 am to dallastiger55
Kids will know that you’re not around as much and the burden you’ll be putting in your wife as the Lone parent in the house while you’re gone ..
That may put a lot more strain in your marriage
That may put a lot more strain in your marriage
Posted on 2/9/22 at 8:40 am to dallastiger55
Posted on 2/9/22 at 8:58 am to GasMan
quote:
For me personally there is no job or salary that is worth excess time away from my family.
This is how I feel, but I also understand I am a little jaded about it because of how I grew up. Dad worked 2-3 jobs to make ends meet, so he was rarely home. When he was home, he would often have a quick temper due to the stress and lack of sleep.
I missed out on so many opportunities to play playground ball. And when I did have a neighbor dad offering to bring me there and back, I noticed when my dad was not there for my games.
Posted on 2/9/22 at 9:01 am to BhamBlazeDog
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But I can tell you that now I understand why my dad had to do it, and even in my teenage years, I was beyond appreciative of what he did.
Just curious, how much did your mother's attitude affect your attitude, do you think?
Posted on 2/9/22 at 9:25 am to dallastiger55
Tough call but if you keep steadily losing money the wife will probably leave you and take the kids
Posted on 2/9/22 at 9:42 am to dallastiger55
I was working a job where I traveled nationally but mostly regionally. I would be gone for a week at a time with about a week or two at home.
During the first pregnancy all I could think about was not being there for my kid and the moments that I would miss.
I found another job and have not had any regrets.
During the first pregnancy all I could think about was not being there for my kid and the moments that I would miss.
I found another job and have not had any regrets.
Posted on 2/9/22 at 9:46 am to squid_hunt
I was the firstborn, naturally much closer to my dad, so my mother never really influenced my attitude that much. I guess I just grew up and realized he was doing it for all of us.
Posted on 2/9/22 at 9:49 am to dallastiger55
2-3 nights every other week is no big deal.
Do it
Do it
Posted on 2/9/22 at 9:49 am to facher08
quote:
I don't have kids but if 11-12 days out of 14 are home, that doesn't sound bad at all. Maybe I'm ignorant.
I must be ignorant too then, b/c i work in travel sales, dont have kids but 2 or 3 overnights every other week doesnt sound bad at all.. then again, ive spent over two years of my lifetime sleeping in Marriott hotel rooms.. seems to me like you could make every single event every weekend, and around 65% of stuff during the week.. Plus you could provide a better living for your family, win-win.
Posted on 2/9/22 at 9:53 am to BhamBlazeDog
I tried it for a while when I was in my 30's and the kids were young, after a year I hated it. Gave up significant pay to be home again. Even when the kids were bickering it was music to my ears.
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