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Acquaintance is Pissed Cause I Said No To Borrowing
Posted on 5/6/20 at 9:32 am
Posted on 5/6/20 at 9:32 am
A couple that I consider friendly acquaintances was complaining on FB that their mower was broken and they couldn't get it fixed for 3 weeks. I figured I'd do a good deed and offered to let them borrow mine so they could get their grass cut. I even drive it over there. They returned it 4 days later.
This was 3.5 weeks ago.
Last week they asked via FB if they could borrow again. I just ignored and acted like I didn't see it.
2 nights ago, they texted me to see if they could borrow again. Now 3.5 weeks later. I don't think their attempting to get their mower fixed, so I came out and said that I was happy to help the first time, but it is an inconvenience, so no.
Yesterday on FB they posted that they found a friend who was able to fix their mower in 2 hrs since all the shops were going to be 3 weeks out. I just thought to myself, good, now they'll stop asking me every week.
Well I received a long, drawn out FB PM last night at about 3am about how they thought we were good friends and they can't believe I told them no. "It's just a lawnmower" and his wife was so upset that we told them no and are wondering what they did.
I'm basically going to consider this a good lesson to never offer to help anyone but really good friends. Did I do anything wrong here? Would you be mad?
This was 3.5 weeks ago.
Last week they asked via FB if they could borrow again. I just ignored and acted like I didn't see it.
2 nights ago, they texted me to see if they could borrow again. Now 3.5 weeks later. I don't think their attempting to get their mower fixed, so I came out and said that I was happy to help the first time, but it is an inconvenience, so no.
Yesterday on FB they posted that they found a friend who was able to fix their mower in 2 hrs since all the shops were going to be 3 weeks out. I just thought to myself, good, now they'll stop asking me every week.
Well I received a long, drawn out FB PM last night at about 3am about how they thought we were good friends and they can't believe I told them no. "It's just a lawnmower" and his wife was so upset that we told them no and are wondering what they did.
I'm basically going to consider this a good lesson to never offer to help anyone but really good friends. Did I do anything wrong here? Would you be mad?
Posted on 5/6/20 at 9:34 am to SirSaintly
Tell them to stop being Karens and let you borrow their grill. Then invite 8 people and exclude them due to 10 person limit.
Posted on 5/6/20 at 9:34 am to SirSaintly
I'm full of old sayings. Here's one:
No good deed goes unpunished.
No good deed goes unpunished.
This post was edited on 5/6/20 at 9:35 am
Posted on 5/6/20 at 9:34 am to SirSaintly
quote:
I'm basically going to consider this a good lesson to never offer to help anyone but really good friends. Did I do anything wrong here? Would you be mad?
No you should go help them again. They may not be trying to fix their mower because they cannot. Doing a good dead is it own reward.
Posted on 5/6/20 at 9:35 am to SirSaintly
quote:
Acquaintance
Burn the bridge
Posted on 5/6/20 at 9:35 am to SirSaintly
Or you could have said sure but you have to come and pick it up and bring it back to me.
Posted on 5/6/20 at 9:36 am to SirSaintly
The hours they spent high-fiving each other on word choices while composing their little diatribe could have been spent finding a local service to cut their lawn until they could have repairs done.
I say good riddance as long as you were polite with your refusal.
I say good riddance as long as you were polite with your refusal.
Posted on 5/6/20 at 9:37 am to SirSaintly
This is truly trashy
Are her fake tits nice?
Are her fake tits nice?
This post was edited on 5/6/20 at 9:38 am
Posted on 5/6/20 at 9:37 am to SirSaintly
tell them its your mower, and if he wants to control a lawnmower then go fix his own and lend it out as he sees fit..
btw what kind of idiot posts all of this on facebook?
btw what kind of idiot posts all of this on facebook?
This post was edited on 5/6/20 at 9:38 am
Posted on 5/6/20 at 9:37 am to SirSaintly
quote:
Well I received a long, drawn out FB PM last night at about 3am about how they thought we were good friends and they can't believe I told them no. "It's just a lawnmower" and his wife was so upset that we told them no and are wondering what they did.
It's not what you said, it's how you said it. I'm friends with them and based upon what they have told me and what you have written, I think you could have been a little gentler and understanding.
Posted on 5/6/20 at 9:37 am to SirSaintly
Tell them yours broke the day you got it back from them, and you didn't want to make them feel bad.
Posted on 5/6/20 at 9:39 am to Will Cover
quote:
I'm friends with them and based upon what they have told me and what you have written, I think you could have been a little gentler and understanding.
This post was edited on 5/6/20 at 10:27 am
Posted on 5/6/20 at 9:39 am to SirSaintly
Are we talking a push mower? I have never had to have anyone fix one for me. I just watched YouTube videos. If broken so bad it needs to go to repair shop then I would just buy a used one from FB Marketplace or something.
Posted on 5/6/20 at 9:40 am to SirSaintly
They tell you this all the time when you're growing up and everyone pretty much ignores it, but you should REALLY be careful about who you pick as friends.
Posted on 5/6/20 at 9:41 am to SirSaintly
quote:
I'm basically going to consider this a good lesson to never offer to help anyone but really good friends. Did I do anything wrong here? Would you be mad?
Hard to comment becuase this would never happen to me.
I dont loan things out to people. The last time i did, I never saw the item again.
Posted on 5/6/20 at 9:42 am to jflsufan
quote:This is what I would do. Give them a time and date that they can pick it up, and a date that you expected it back. Not much of an inconvenience there.
Or you could have said sure but you have to come and pick it up and bring it back to me.
Posted on 5/6/20 at 9:43 am to Will Cover
quote:
It's not what you said, it's how you said it. I'm friends with them and based upon what they have told me and what you have written, I think you could have been a little gentler and understanding.
How did he say it?
Posted on 5/6/20 at 9:48 am to Will Cover
quote:
It's not what you said, it's how you said it. I'm friends with them and based upon what they have told me and what you have written, I think you could have been a little gentler and understanding.
I love it when OT posters come in as the victim and act like the world is on their shoulders and then....BOOM!....the other side of the story rears its ugly head and OP turns out to be the dick that’s looking for sympathy.
This post was edited on 5/6/20 at 9:49 am
Posted on 5/6/20 at 9:48 am to SirSaintly
Personally, I would have said sure, but I need it back later this afternoon.
Then asked the status on the mower needing repairs and what they had done to get it taken care of. Followed up with, "I trust you won't need to borrow my mower again, so I am ok with you using one last time."
Message sent but still being helpful.
One day you will be the one that might need some help.
Then asked the status on the mower needing repairs and what they had done to get it taken care of. Followed up with, "I trust you won't need to borrow my mower again, so I am ok with you using one last time."
Message sent but still being helpful.
One day you will be the one that might need some help.
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