re: A record-high share of 40-year-olds in the U.S. have never been married

Probably has something to do with the fact that a lot of guys don’t want to lower their standards for women they know they aren’t attracted to. Any guy can lower his standards and get with a below-average looking woman, it’s not that hard. But to get a woman that’s insanely hot and be truly attracted to is hard to do since other guys will be hitting on her

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Blaming divorce laws is probably short sighted.

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To add onto this, what fricks a lot of men in divorce is custody laws.

Not to say that splitting up marital community property doesn't frick men too, but the alimony boogeyman you often see mentioned isn't nearly as much of a scary thing in the state of Louisiana as child support/custody arrangements are.

Interim alimony is only approved (maximum 1 total year) during the divorce proceedings in Louisiana, and permanent alimony is only awarded in situations where the other personal physically can't work. Disability, being retirement age with no work history, etc. It's also based off of their documented expenses - not your income. So unless you were married decades long with a non-working spouse and they were blowing through assloads of your money that they can prove as expenses, permanent alimony isn't a huge risk.

It's child support that fricks you because it is based off of your income, and you have to hope the woman isn't being awarded more than 50% custody.

So.. I 100% understand why many men are opting not to marry, but they better be opting not to procreate too because that's the real frickery.

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If I’m going to be with a grocery clerk from Rouse’s, she better look good and not have kids because I’m clearly not marrying her for the money. Not a lot of career growth potential there without hitting school or OnlyFans.

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I'd marry her if there wasn't any crazy and there would be faithfulness.


Problem in 2023 is that clerk can go out and bang any dude she wants mostly and blow up a marriage.


Just look at the Florida baseball coach and the woman he shacked up with.

She blew up her marriage and family to bang the coach. Is she really all that? I doubt it.

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If I’m going to be with a grocery clerk from Rouse’s, she better look good and not have kids because I’m clearly not marrying her for the money. Not a lot of career growth potential there without hitting school or OnlyFans.

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one of my friends and coworkers in college is one of the smartest guys i've ever met. valedictorian, UIL state champ in mathematics and Calculator, 4.0, got his masters, and moved up quickly and was making 6 figures in government work by the time he was 24 (worthwhiledly in my opinion.)

bought a house outright due to saving everything from college. he's a 4-6 in the looks department. not a troll by any means but not a great/terrible catch. he married an IRL 6.5-7/OT 5 (she looks a lot like the Pearl girl in the thread that said women need to know their roles yesterday) who had no college and worked at target.

he's incredibly high achieving and just wanted a simple wife.

Not surprised that no one wants to marry a millennial.

I have been married 26 years and honestly it has been the best thing to happen to me.

I have a 16 year old son who is smart, athletic and good looking and so far he has had no trouble with the ladies.

But I did tell him about the “Men who go their own way” movement, and gave him the example of two of my co-workers who are about to retire in their mid-fifties with a few million in the bank and a paid off house.

I also provided my example and his two uncles who will all be married for life and honestly being married and raising a family has been by far the best thing in life for me and if I could go back to age 20 and live my life over again I would without changing it.

My point is men need to realize staying single is a choice. It may be the best choice for some and not others but all men need to understand the choice is out there.

That still met my criteria for a win because she was attractive and likely had no kids.



High achievers are always in demand.

If you are a low achiever, it isn’t a deal breaker provided you have qualities that make up for it in some way.


The problem comes when you have the “if you can’t take me at my worst, you don’t deserve me at my best!” types.

If you hear a comment like that, they tend to be high drama, don’t have a lot of skills to support themselves, yet think they are deserving of a millionaire to take care of them.

That may as well have “Divorce with child support” tattooed all over them.

Tread lightly and enter at your own risk .

Like Della Reece told Martin in the movie
"There's a thin line between love and hate."

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Some people would like to raise a family

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Majority are raising other peoples kids

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As of 2021, 25% of 40-year-olds in the United States had never been married. This was a significant increase from 20% in 2010,

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It seems young people are getting smarter.

At least in this aspect.