re: Soft White Underbelly- A Divorce Attorney’s Thoughts on Love and Marriage

I really enjoyed this interview OP, thanks for posting. I also listened to the interview with the corrupt NYC cop, which was also excellent. Now I am listening to the one with former mob boss Michael Franzese. Good stuff.

I'd appreciate your friendship more than passive aggressive insults. FTR. I've always given you the benefit of the doubt.

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Maybe six months ago (give or take) he mentioned that his girlfriend in Costa Rica (I believe) contacted him about letting a female friend of hers from Venezuela and that friend's teenage son enter the U.S. and stay with Pimp. He was very proud about paying coyotes to smuggle them into the U.S. and then letting them stay at his house.

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Semi-correct. My ex introduced me to a Venezuelan woman and her son while I was in central America. She actually suggested I NOT help them. So I didn't. I in fact, STRONGLY discouraged them from coming in the strongest Trumpian "build the wall" "You will be raped and possibly killed" language. They nonetheless began the journey north. The coyotes actually did grab them (and many others) north of Mexico City. But after I received photos of them in a cell with men with guns I had a choice to make. To allow them to possibly be murdered or to wire them money. This really wasn't a choice for me. I didn't doubt it then and I don't doubt it now. They subsequently made it to the border and the woman quickly moved on to Ohio where she had friends. The young man, lives here, and has become a second son to me. I love that kid. My kids love him. He has so many friends, he is relentlessly polite and cheerful, the smile never leaves his face, he's a fixture in the lives of many of us. Quite honestly, he's been a blessing. He has had two immigration hearings and his status is to be determined. I have made no effort to intervene legally on his behalf otherwise than to ensure that he has not had to receive one penny of government money. A girl I previously dated was a lawyer and she tried to offer him some advice but it was pretty much ignored. I've left his immigration where it belongs, to the US government. Does it mean I magically support open borders or think they have a right to be here? Of course not. It just means that I will save your life rather then let you die. Even you, Mo Jeaux, even after all the ridiculous slurs you've made against me.

Now you or anybody else can twist this or parse words in any prurient or assholish way you want. But I helped my 18-year-old friend in need at the single worst moment of his life. And now I see him with his GF and performing live music with my son and I feel true joy at how well he has adjusted to a really traumatic experience, after an entire childhood spent living out of a bag and sleeping on people's floors. I am happy I helped my young friend, and I feel blessed that I met the challenge. If that offends you- I'll just have to live with that. I'd invite you to our tailgate this fall so you can meet him and I'm sure you'd acknowledge the moral complexity of the choice I made. But you'd never come because you'd then experience the cognitive dissonance I felt-when ideological belief meets actual human suffering. When you see a human face, an actual human instead of an abstract idea, shite gets real very fast. And if you ever do make a huge personal sacrifice on behalf of another person, be ready for your critics to savage your reputation and slur you with impunity. On completely unrelated threads. For no other reason but to be negative and defamatory. As has happened with me here.

TLDR: Helped a guy. Not sorry that makes people who are wound really tight mad.

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Even you, Mo Jeaux, even after all the ridiculous slurs you've made against me.

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SFP is definitely right about your narcissism. I appreciate your willingness to help others, but other than some typical OT playground name calling on occasion, I don't recall directing a lot of ridiculous slurs your way.

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I just know that sex IS and SHOULD BE at the core of the male-female dynamic. Along with the traditional Masculine/feminine dynamic. No apologies or reprimands are necessary ma'am, -we are hard wired to desire each other in a primarily sexual way. Relationship problems are easily resolved in the bedroom, as an old girlfriend used to say.

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Sex is an important part of a relationship, but there’s also quite few other key components needed for a successful marriage. You can’t fix your marriage by just banging it out unfortunately.

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"Its the small things." He's right, and he initially diagnosed the issues right: "cheating, etc. Is a symptom, not the cause" yet he didn't apply that to the granola/blowjob case.

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I thought he did it very well. He asked the woman when she thought the marriage went south and she responded when he stopped replenishing the granola and she in turn stopped giving him blowjobs. His interpretation was they both stopped doing the small things to please the other and the marriage went into a death spiral before they could catch it and if they had kept it up the marriage probably could have been saved. I thought it was a great interview.

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Two baws continuing to fixate on years-old beefs

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Nobody has beef with you

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Lsupimp

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Man, what the hell happened to you? I don't remember you ever being like this. Did you buy this account on eBay or something? This can't be the real pimp.

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Man, what the hell happened to you? I don't remember you ever being like this. Did you buy this account on eBay or something? This can't be the real pimp.

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In what respect? What SPECIFICALLY do you take issue with?