re: Tell Me About your Dad

In envy all you guys whose dad is your hero.

Mine left home when I was five. Left my mom with 5 kids to raise as a single mother. Was a drunk and a drug addict. Always chose himself over his family. Was the best example I ever had of how not to be a father. Now he’s just as bad of a grandfather as a father.

Haven’t spoke. To him in years. Best thing I did was remove him from my life entirely.

Unfortunately he will probably live forever. Good riddance.

My dad died 8 years ago and I still miss him dearly. I definitely didn't appreciate him enough while he was still here. He grew up poor and on a farm. They never threw anything away and never hired anyone to do anything, so he grew up very handy and could fix, repair and maintain just about anything. He always wanted me to help him with these chores when I was a kid and I thought of it more as a punishment and hated every minute of it. I deeply wish I had relished those moments more and had learned much more than I did from him. I know enough to make me dangerous, but not how to properly fix or maintain anything.

Love you Pop!!

I know more about your mom.

My "dad" was a man I would never want to emulate or be like. He is no longer living and I have no feelings other than anger that consumed me for years about him. I am trying to forgive him but it is hard.

My dad died in July of last year. We had a rocky relationship at times. He was a mean controlling drunk when I was growing up, but quit drinking about 10 years ago. He became a deacon in the church and got right with God. He was a good grandfather but not so much as a dad, & I had issues with that. I was glad he was close to my kids & treated them with love, but I never saw that side of him.

He told me about 3 months prior to his death he was ready to go “Home”, but wanted to see my boys graduate first. They graduate this year. Careful what you ask for, I guess.

My kids really miss him, & I’m sad for that, but I’m good. Appreciate the thread.

Oh and my sister is a conniving, backstabbing, greedy bitch who my dad treated like a princess. My brother is a dope head pos, who my dad bailed out more times than I can remember & then there’s me, the best kid he had, who he treated the worse. Never did understand the man.

When my older sister turned 16 she got a brand new car. My younger brother got a decked out Ranger supercab 4x4. Me, I had to sell my atv to get a 74 Ford Courier. This was early 90s. I appreciate it now and it made me work harder, but I didn’t want to sell my atv & I didn’t want that piece of shite. I moved out jr year of hs.

Those of you who had/have awesome dads and a great relationship, I envy you. Be grateful & don’t take it for granted.

Sorry for the long post. I feel better.

My dad came to this country at 33 or 34 years of age. He was a weekend alcoholic but never missed work on Monday. Stopped drinking cold turkey when I was 11. Killed a man in his home country (Nicaragua) while the civil war was going on because the guy killed his brother literally right in front of him. He has been stabbed and shot before. Still has a bullet fragment hanging out in his abdomen somewhere. Showed me how to be man and his legacy will live on with my sons. Thank God he is still alive and kicking and I can see him basically whenever I want. I love my dad and I am sorry for your loss. Dad's are the foundation of the world. Period.

I love my dad and I know deep down my dad loves me (and his family & my family) but he's a very selfish person on top of being a narcissistic a-hole. We rarely speak and I don't really think about him very often (he lives out of state) but when I do, I get more angry more than anything else. I do feel sad for my children that they don't have the chance to get to know their grandfather who, at one point in my life, was a wonderful father to me. I know he would be a great grandfather.

I'm sure one day he will regret his actions and I will regret mine, but it's hard to speak to him these days. When we do speak, I don't really know what to say.

Any advice?

My dad beat the shite out of my mom until they divorced when I was 8, he went to prison and we didn't talk for the last 25 years of his life. He died around 2018.

second greatest man to ever live . type of guy.. if you had his phone number and you were broke down 30 miles away... You could call him at 2 am and he would be there in 45 min to help..and with coffee

Man worked 3 jobs a day out of HS. A/C newbie - doing all the grunt work in attics of pan handle then go to at a burger joint to work a shift then a cleaning job after that. Get home a 2 am and start again a 630. Did that for a couple years until he made enough in the AC job to drop the cleaning one It's just what he had to do as a HS grad to feed )house his family ( had a kid while in HS} Mom Dad my oldest brother lived in n a camping trailer during that time till they could get an apartment. He was never laid off
because he was (Is) as reliable as the sun coming up in the east.
parents were divorced but he and mom are heading on 60 yrs and still gives 100%.

My kids and my nieces and nephews will never know that level of work and toil... Thanks to his' ( and my mom's)

Fortunate to be able to talk to him nearly every day

He gets mad when people don’t speak english