re: Woman makes a video not understanding why her husband fell out of love

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I see where you are coming from. I agree you can’t take a bad relationship and just expect sex to replace mutual respect and basic kindness. But I think for most sex is like shaking an emotional etch-a-sketch. When you feel connected, loved and appreciated then life if more manageable and you project onto your spouse an enormous sense of gratitude.

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Another factor I think of is what kind of sex are you having? So often I see couples asking some form of the question, "how many times a week should we have sex?" typically in pursuit of some sort of compromise between a mismatched libido couple. I'm a BIG believer in the thought that it's not just that you have sex or the number of times in which you have sex, it's the kind and temperature of the sex you have.

There's a HUGE difference between having passionate, connecting sex with your spouse and going through the motions type sex. You can absolutely tell the difference and I'd argue that going through the motions sex can be just as damaging and off putting as no sex at all. particularly to the higher drive spouse.

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All I’ve ever cared about was that she was attracted to me and wanted me.

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I think soooooo many women miss this right here. They can think that men only think about sex and want it all the time. Not true in my experience. Men, by and large, don't just want to masturbate into your vagina ladies. They, believe it or not, want you to want them. It does wonders for a husbands confidence when they feel attractive to their spouse and desired. This idea that culture has developed that women desire to be desired and men are just mindless ejaculators is just so off base it's not even funny.

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Women can put on a few pounds without looking like a butch dike. It’s like she’s trying to be as unattractive as possible. If she looked somewhat feminine and cooked and cleaned and gave an occasional BJ they’d probably still be married.

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She really did do just about everything to make herself unattractive, i'll agree. Really not a fair thing to do to your spouse.

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the time. Not true in my experience. Men, by and large, don't just want to masturbate into your vagina ladies.

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only aboot 97% of the time

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only aboot 97% of the time

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50% of the time, it works everytime.

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There's a HUGE difference between having passionate, connecting sex with your spouse and going through the motions type sex. You can absolutely tell the difference and I'd argue that going through the motions sex can be just as damaging and off putting as no sex at all. particularly to the higher drive spouse.

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100%

I am not talking quickies. Those have to happen sometimes when you are married with kids.

I am talking, putting 0 effort and expecting your spouse to accept the smell of 2 day unwashed sex, while you lay there and do absolutely nothing but try to get it over with as soon as possible.

Women all around the united states are wondering why their partner is distant or doesn't care. Maybe its because you expect that to be enough then bitch at him when he takes the kids to practice, cooks dinner, helps clean around the house, pays the bills, and you bitch that he isn't doing enough after you had to do laundry for an hour or two.

Ungrateful spoiled women are starting to hit hard realities.

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Yall need to chill with the blackpill ****, birth rates are low enough as is

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The way to fix the blackpill stuff isn’t to chill about it, it’s to have honest conversations about what’s driving it so we can fix the issues on both sides.

Sending your son off to a potentially toxic modern marriage isn’t exactly doing him or anyone else a favor. We need to fix modern marriages.

People are committing suicide over this stuff and children are being raised in really unhealthy ways because we are too afraid culturally to address any of the problems.

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I am not talking quickies. Those have to happen sometimes when you are married with kids.

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I'd argue that quickies can even be sexy too. Your wife pulls you into the laundry room and whispers in your ear, "I need you inside me right now!" Sexy as all get out. The entire point is to make your partner feel desired and the "I need you right now" nature of a quickie can be just that.


I agree 100% that the "alright, well if you need it, go ahead" followed by laying there with no talking, noise or movement at all is entirely unappealing. I'd rather have no sex than unenthusiastic, straight faced sex.

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There's a bobby petrino meme somewhere in all of this

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yep, doesn't matter...

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I can’t decide if it was the obesity or purple hair that did it.

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Female with arm sleeve tattoos. She’s a poster for bad decisions.