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re: What have some of you done to help get over the pain of losing someone?
Posted on 2/18/19 at 9:24 pm to toosleaux
Posted on 2/18/19 at 9:24 pm to toosleaux
I lost my dad on 8-24-16 after a long fight with Alzheimer’s and Dementia. 87 days later, my mom, who had never complained a day in her life after raising 9 of us kids, gave up in the hospital and went to see my pops. Not a single day goes by that I don’t think of them. I was 38 when they both passed. I was bitter for a long time. I got back into church. It’s a great start man. Give it a shot. It’s helped me tremendously. God bless you.
This post was edited on 2/18/19 at 9:25 pm
Posted on 2/18/19 at 9:24 pm to TH03
Really? When I’m experiencing grief over the loss of my parents who lived a full life and I look over at my friend who lost her 4 year old to a brain tumor - a funeral I attended with my 2 healthy children - you think it doesn’t change my perspective and the weight of my grief? Maybe not in a “Me, Me, Me!” world, but I don’t live there.
Posted on 2/18/19 at 9:25 pm to toosleaux
It doesn’t get any easier...it just gets different.
Surround yourself with friends. Pour yourself into a hobby. Do something your uncle and you would have enjoyed.
Try to stay out of the hole
Surround yourself with friends. Pour yourself into a hobby. Do something your uncle and you would have enjoyed.
Try to stay out of the hole
Posted on 2/18/19 at 9:30 pm to toosleaux
Did he have any hobbies that you could take up?
After I lost my grandmother I started tending to her flowerbeds & roses.
After I lost my grandmother I started tending to her flowerbeds & roses.
Posted on 2/18/19 at 9:31 pm to toosleaux
Do him proud. Do YOURSELF proud.
Posted on 2/18/19 at 9:42 pm to toosleaux
I personally don't believe you can ever Completely get over losing someone you love. I think we just learn to cope with the loss differently as time goes on. In fact, I think Willie Nelson said it best in his song Something You Get Through. "It's not something you get over, it's something you get through ".
Posted on 2/18/19 at 9:50 pm to toosleaux
Alcohol is a depressant. It’ll make you feel better while you’re drinkihg, but the next day the pain is drastically worse. So you drink again to make THAT go away. And thus, the spiral starts.
To help: prayer. Say one. Talk out loud to God. Even if you don’t buy what you’re doing.. just try it.
Also, talk to people. Actual humans. Friends, family, church, just talk about your feelings. Nothing will be accomplished, but the power of the spoken word helps immensely.
To help: prayer. Say one. Talk out loud to God. Even if you don’t buy what you’re doing.. just try it.
Also, talk to people. Actual humans. Friends, family, church, just talk about your feelings. Nothing will be accomplished, but the power of the spoken word helps immensely.
Posted on 2/18/19 at 9:55 pm to toosleaux
You may be growing attached to your grief. We do that when we can’t bring ourselves to say goodbye. You have to give yourself permission to let him go and let yourself move on. Sounds like a Hallmark card but it’s true.
Posted on 2/18/19 at 10:01 pm to toosleaux
Dude. I lost my mother coming up on 7 years. It sucks today just as it did then..
Shes the best person I've ever known. I mean that sincerely. Period.
I also know she wouldnt want me to hang my head for years. She'd want me to be a great dad to the grandkids she didn't know. We talk about her like she's here, just a phone call away. That way you don't forget them. I've adopted some of her phrases and now I have the kids saying them
We watch her favorite Christmas movie every year. Eat the foods she liked.
Be the man she wanted to see me become but dementia ruined it.
Sadness is a condition of the living, not the passed. I fell she's pretty jam up where she's at and that I'll see her again. She visits me in my dreams from time to time to check in and ask about my dad and sister she worries about them still I feel.
Buck up man. You're breathing and you Uncle sure as shite would t want you being downtrodden on a website.
Go do some of his favorite shite. Have some laughs. Death is just a short breaj until you see em again. They're just at the end of your road trip.
Sleep well
Shes the best person I've ever known. I mean that sincerely. Period.
I also know she wouldnt want me to hang my head for years. She'd want me to be a great dad to the grandkids she didn't know. We talk about her like she's here, just a phone call away. That way you don't forget them. I've adopted some of her phrases and now I have the kids saying them
We watch her favorite Christmas movie every year. Eat the foods she liked.
Be the man she wanted to see me become but dementia ruined it.
Sadness is a condition of the living, not the passed. I fell she's pretty jam up where she's at and that I'll see her again. She visits me in my dreams from time to time to check in and ask about my dad and sister she worries about them still I feel.
Buck up man. You're breathing and you Uncle sure as shite would t want you being downtrodden on a website.
Go do some of his favorite shite. Have some laughs. Death is just a short breaj until you see em again. They're just at the end of your road trip.
Sleep well
Posted on 2/18/19 at 10:35 pm to toosleaux
I lost my older brother, who I loved dearly, about twelve years ago due to a sudden heart attack. It was devastating for me. The only thing that really kept me going was that my job kept me pretty busy, and I tried to do things with friends and family as much as possible. Being alone with my thoughts during my off time was the worst part. The worst period for me was the first six months after his death. Time does heal, but it takes time for the healing to begin.
This post was edited on 2/18/19 at 10:37 pm
Posted on 2/18/19 at 11:17 pm to toosleaux
I lost my mom last April. She was the kind of person that put her wants and needs behind all of her loved ones her entire life. I was the youngest so I lived with her the longest of my siblings, which happened to be for 27 years, until I got married. My parents divorced when I was 13, so we became “friends” once I became an adult. She was always a great mother, but it was cool to live with her as an adult and be mature enough to listen and learn some important lessons I would never have paid attention to as a teenager.
I still struggle with the fact that I didn’t cry “hard enough” when it happened, or anytime since. It’s been very confusing to me because I know how much I loved her, and I think about her ever day. What I mostly still struggle with is the fact that I watched her take her last breaths in the hospital and I can’t get that out of my head. That’s not the part of her life I want to remember, but it won’t go away.
I guess I’m not really offering you any advice (sorry) but mostly just venting because I don’t like to talk about my feelings in real life. But I do find myself reflecting on the good things she did in life and how well she treated others when I have time to myself. I think eventually both your thoughts, and my own, will start to focus on all of the positive experiences we had with our loved one and that will bring us comfort. We will always miss them, but that only illustrates how much they meant to us, and that’s a great tribute to them!
I still struggle with the fact that I didn’t cry “hard enough” when it happened, or anytime since. It’s been very confusing to me because I know how much I loved her, and I think about her ever day. What I mostly still struggle with is the fact that I watched her take her last breaths in the hospital and I can’t get that out of my head. That’s not the part of her life I want to remember, but it won’t go away.
I guess I’m not really offering you any advice (sorry) but mostly just venting because I don’t like to talk about my feelings in real life. But I do find myself reflecting on the good things she did in life and how well she treated others when I have time to myself. I think eventually both your thoughts, and my own, will start to focus on all of the positive experiences we had with our loved one and that will bring us comfort. We will always miss them, but that only illustrates how much they meant to us, and that’s a great tribute to them!
Posted on 2/19/19 at 4:46 am to yccsmf
After a year, you tend to smile more when you think of that person than you cry. The sucker punch early on is when you think you’ll share something with them, and realize that you can’t just pick up the phone anymore.
Posted on 2/19/19 at 5:09 am to toosleaux
Do some volunteer work in his honor to keep you busy.
Posted on 2/19/19 at 6:51 am to toosleaux
Lost my 22 year old son 15 years ago. Tried drinking, what a waste!!! All I can say is one breath after the other and one foot in front of the other. Think about the good memories you have of your uncle. It is not easy. Bless you.
Posted on 2/19/19 at 7:03 am to toosleaux
Grief counseling, whether solo or group. Support groups (can be friends, podcasts, etc). We were not meant to walk this earth alone with our problems.
Posted on 2/19/19 at 7:07 am to toosleaux
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