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re: What have some of you done to help get over the pain of losing someone?
Posted on 2/18/19 at 8:57 pm to toosleaux
Posted on 2/18/19 at 8:57 pm to toosleaux
Everyone who lives, dies. This is why I don't form deep attachments. You could choose to live a shallow and relatively meaningless existence like me. Or be grateful for the time you had together and keep loving other people and letting them love you and move forward knowing it will hurt for a while.
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Posted on 2/18/19 at 8:58 pm to toosleaux
Hasn't happened yet, but it's near I fear. She has been everything to me in all situations. Everyone else is just fodder.
Never met a woman as strong or as dedicated to her children.
God Bless her.
Never met a woman as strong or as dedicated to her children.
God Bless her.
Posted on 2/18/19 at 8:58 pm to olgoi khorkhoi
quote:
You could choose to live a shallow and relatively meaningless existence like me
Please send your wife's contact information to the email below. Thanks
Posted on 2/18/19 at 8:59 pm to toosleaux
you don't "get over" it but you learn how to cope. I used to be a grief counselor....and one of the best pieces of advice I could ever give is to give yourself permission to feel however you feel.....cry if you need to....scream if you need to....spend time alone if needed....surround yourself with others if needed. We all grieve differently and this is a time to tune into how you are naturally handling this.
Posted on 2/18/19 at 8:59 pm to saralsim
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Also, try to keep things in perspective - loss is heavy, but it’s everywhere - and there are always people facing bigger tragedies and more difficult roads. Count your blessings and do it often.
That doesn't make it any easier. This is a weird way to cope with things.
Posted on 2/18/19 at 9:03 pm to toosleaux
I have lost so many older relatives. My mom and dad and grandparents.We were such a close family. The pain was great but recently my granddaughter age 25 died from a drug overdose. I don't know how I'll survive this. Its been 3 weeks now and my wife and I are struggling every minute. My faith is shaken.
Posted on 2/18/19 at 9:03 pm to toosleaux
First baw, accept with your heart that it is a done deal. Next, honor his memory by passing on his knowledge and characteristics. If you don't have any younger relatives yet, you can get involved with Big Brothers or find some way to be a mentor to another kid in need.
Eat his favorite dish in his memory, Celebrate his life, help some kids, and pretty soon it will be easier to move on.
Good luck baw.
Eat his favorite dish in his memory, Celebrate his life, help some kids, and pretty soon it will be easier to move on.
Good luck baw.
Posted on 2/18/19 at 9:06 pm to Swamproot
Sorry for y’all’s loss.
That’s terrible.
That’s terrible.
Posted on 2/18/19 at 9:08 pm to Rouge
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Please send your wife's contact information to the email below. Thanks
She's not looking for some soy boy to talk about his feelings and cry on her shoulder.
Posted on 2/18/19 at 9:09 pm to TH03
One of the most compelling passages taught by my religion is read every week in services during a potion of the service the remembers all who passed away that week in congregational history. It has always helped me:
“The departed whom we now remember have entered into the peace of life eternal. They still live on earth in the acts of goodness they performed and in the hearts of those who cherish their memory. May the beauty of their life abide among us as a loving benediction.”
Good luck friend.
“The departed whom we now remember have entered into the peace of life eternal. They still live on earth in the acts of goodness they performed and in the hearts of those who cherish their memory. May the beauty of their life abide among us as a loving benediction.”
Good luck friend.
Posted on 2/18/19 at 9:10 pm to Swamproot
That's terrible man. Y'all will pull through it.
Posted on 2/18/19 at 9:10 pm to toosleaux
Just do something he liked to do or that you all liked to do together. I love going fishing in a small pond that my father and I used to fish at whenever I get back home. I never catch anything (not even sure there are anymore fish in the pond), but I enjoy it. Also visit the grave site and just talk to him. Those things help me.
Posted on 2/18/19 at 9:12 pm to toosleaux
Its hard. Best thing is to not bottle up your emotions. Talk about them and deal.
I lost my dad on Thanksgivng and my mom just was placed on hospice care. They give her two months. I found a local support group I'm starting next week. Hoping talking with people who have also suffered major loss will help.
Drinking won't make things better. I'm trying to really watch that in the coming months. It's too easy to drink away the pain, but that isn't really solving things. Good luck to you and don't forget it's ok go cry.
I lost my dad on Thanksgivng and my mom just was placed on hospice care. They give her two months. I found a local support group I'm starting next week. Hoping talking with people who have also suffered major loss will help.
Drinking won't make things better. I'm trying to really watch that in the coming months. It's too easy to drink away the pain, but that isn't really solving things. Good luck to you and don't forget it's ok go cry.
Posted on 2/18/19 at 9:12 pm to Lou the Jew from LSU
quote:That’s well-put.
“The departed whom we now remember have entered into the peace of life eternal. They still live on earth in the acts of goodness they performed and in the hearts of those who cherish their memory. May the beauty of their life abide among us as a loving benediction.”
It’s been a long time since I last read that.
Your people know a bit about getting along after losing folks.
Mazel tov!This post was edited on 2/18/19 at 9:13 pm
Posted on 2/18/19 at 9:12 pm to olgoi khorkhoi
quote:give me a little credit here. I was not going to send her information to owlie
She's not looking for some soy boy to talk about his feelings and cry on her shoulder.
Posted on 2/18/19 at 9:12 pm to toosleaux
Think of all the good times you had with him. All of our days are numbered. And remember God has never made a mistake.
Five steps of grief:
Denial ...
Anger. ...
Bargaining. ...
Depression. ...
Acceptance ....
Five steps of grief:
Denial ...
Anger. ...
Bargaining. ...
Depression. ...
Acceptance ....
Posted on 2/18/19 at 9:18 pm to toosleaux
Found someone else
This post was edited on 2/18/19 at 9:18 pm
Posted on 2/18/19 at 9:19 pm to toosleaux
As a Christian, I only look at it as a temporary separation. I lost may father and 17 year old son a few months apart in 1995. My family and faith pulled me through. It was still difficult. I shed plenty of tears. Find a friend that you trust. And just talk about how you feel. Time will dull the pain. But the Hope is what we have.
Posted on 2/18/19 at 9:20 pm to jeff5891
Dad died in November, I drove back to California from Louisiana with my wife. We stopped at every national park along the way. Something about the vast openness and having the time decompress did well by me. I still think about him everyday.
Posted on 2/18/19 at 9:21 pm to toosleaux
celebrate his life, don't mourn it
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