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What have some of you done to help get over the pain of losing someone?
Posted on 2/18/19 at 8:44 pm
Posted on 2/18/19 at 8:44 pm
Been two months since I lost my uncle who was like a second father to me. Can only drink so much and I don’t want to spiral down that hole. It’s like the hurt is getting worse instead of getting better. Sorry for the heavy thread, just venting and looking for some advice from people who have been through it. Just wish I could talk to him one more time.
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Posted on 2/18/19 at 8:45 pm to toosleaux
Accept that it is the only guarantee in life and move on.
Posted on 2/18/19 at 8:46 pm to toosleaux
Stop drinking. Spend time with others instead of being alone.
Posted on 2/18/19 at 8:47 pm to toosleaux
My paw paw practically raised me. Losing him broke my heart. It was somewhat easier because he was in his 90s and I could see that he was sliding for a few years.
I'm just thankful for all of the time that I had with him. He got to know most of his 12 great grandkids. Not many people have a grandparent alive into their late 30s.
I'm just thankful for all of the time that I had with him. He got to know most of his 12 great grandkids. Not many people have a grandparent alive into their late 30s.
Posted on 2/18/19 at 8:47 pm to toosleaux
When I lost my grandma, I started trying to duplicate her recipes. It felt like I was somehow honoring her legacy by sharing things she loved with friends and family. It still makes me a little sad every time, but it gives me a lot of joy too.
Posted on 2/18/19 at 8:49 pm to toosleaux
You will see him again someday on another plane. Death is as much a part of life as living is. Honor him by living the best life that you can. Life is change. Losing loved ones is a part of that change. Keep the memories alive. Cultivate positive ways of dealing with it. Drinking and numbing the pain with substances only makes it harder and prolongs you coming to terms with it. 
Posted on 2/18/19 at 8:50 pm to toosleaux
What would your uncle want you to do?
Posted on 2/18/19 at 8:50 pm to toosleaux
I’m so sorry for your loss.
Maybe consider distractions, like volunteering. Lose yourself in the service of others.
Maybe consider distractions, like volunteering. Lose yourself in the service of others.
Posted on 2/18/19 at 8:50 pm to toosleaux
I wish I knew. My spouse lost her dad four years ago and her mother in 2007. She is still grieving.
Posted on 2/18/19 at 8:51 pm to toosleaux
Time man. I wish I had a silver bullet solution for you. It will get a little bit easier as the years go by. I saw a therapist after my Dad died and she said “We grieve to the extent that we loved.” Hang in there.
This post was edited on 2/18/19 at 8:55 pm
Posted on 2/18/19 at 8:51 pm to toosleaux
You have a lifetime of memories. Use those. I get a lot of chuckles remembering family members-parents-siblings etc...and it helps a lot. They are in my dreams too so these people stay with you.
Drink for fun. Not for sorrow.
Drink for fun. Not for sorrow.
Posted on 2/18/19 at 8:51 pm to Havoc
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What would your uncle want you to do?
He would slap me on the back and tell me to smile.
Posted on 2/18/19 at 8:52 pm to toosleaux
I’m so sorry for your loss.
Have you tried grief counseling?
Have you tried grief counseling?
Posted on 2/18/19 at 8:53 pm to toosleaux
Find a church and pray about it - faith in what comes next is the only thing that got me through losing my parents when I was 18 and 20. Also, try to keep things in perspective - loss is heavy, but it’s everywhere - and there are always people facing bigger tragedies and more difficult roads. Count your blessings and do it often.
Posted on 2/18/19 at 8:53 pm to toosleaux
You grieve, then you honor the memory of your loved ones by living a life of excellence the way they impacted your life.
Posted on 2/18/19 at 8:54 pm to toosleaux
The only thing that helps is time and moving forward. It will never feel good, but I guess you can get used to it not feeling good. Life is scarring. You accumulate your scars until it's your turn. The drinking and drugs don't help. They just delay you from facing it and moving past it. In the meantime you learn to enjoy and appreciate what you have left.
Posted on 2/18/19 at 8:55 pm to toosleaux
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Been two months since I lost my uncle who was like a second father to me.
Remember his words.
Cherish his advice.
Be the man he was molding you to be.
Share his stories.
Posted on 2/18/19 at 8:56 pm to toosleaux
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to help get over the pain of losing someone?
That's the thing that so many people don't get. You're not supposed to get over the pain. Wounds leave scabs. Scabs leave scars. That's the way our bodies work. That's the way it's supposed to be.
you don't forget about your scars. You look back at them, and you remember how you got those scars. You have that scar because of how much you cared about that person. you honor their memory by remembering them and acting in a fashion that they would be proud of.
This post was edited on 2/18/19 at 8:57 pm
Posted on 2/18/19 at 8:56 pm to toosleaux
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Just wish I could talk to him one more time.
This will sound weird, but you can. You knew him and he knew you. Talk to him, out loud, when you're alone. Pray with him in mind.
The poster who said to volunteer is so right. Service to others lifts you both up. Do it with him in mind.
It will please him.
Posted on 2/18/19 at 8:57 pm to saralsim
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Also, try to keep things in perspective - loss is heavy, but it’s everywhere - and there are always people facing bigger tragedies and more difficult roads.
Very true. It's easy to have a pity party and feel bad for yourself. It only distracts you from the blessings that you do have and from making the most of what you can.
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