Turning to the OT for some helpful advice as a 15 year poster

Warning, long post: As the title says, I’m looking for some helpful advice(and expecting typical OT advice along the way lol).

I moved my mom into my house 7 years ago to care for her. I even built her a handicap accessible apartment in my old shop.

She is now where she needs 24/7 care and as a single father of 3, I can’t provide that and keep my job in order to care for my kids.

We looked into a nursing home which is roughly $8000 a month. She’s 71 and her total retirement income is around $3000 monthly. I applied for Medicaid and even though she can’t even cover half a months stay at the nursing home, they said she makes too much to qualify.

I am now in the process of putting my house on the market that’s been in my family for almost 40 years in order to try and cover her stay until/unless I can find a nurse or sitter to be here while I’m at work. Of course I’d still have to be able to pay for that and my normal bills until the house sales.

The last thing I want to do is sale the house bc I’m still going to have to pay for a new smaller place to go along with the nursing home. I tried a go fund me and didn’t raise a single dollar even though I see people on the news raising hundreds of thousands for unbelievable crimes.

It might just be my bad luck bc I’m the same person that had 3 mini strokes like 8 years ago and the Dr wouldn’t let me work for a year and the gov told me I didn’t qualify for temporary disability or unemployment.

Anyway, sorry for the long post, but as a single father of 3, my income can only stretch so far, so any suggestions are welcomed even if that suggestion just gets me another month or two of time to think and research. Thanks in advance.