re: Turning to the OT for some helpful advice as a 15 year poster

yeah - until your mother or father decide to take advantage of you and almost wreck your marriage. after my father passed, she guilted my wife and I into believing that she could no longer afford the apartment she was in, and we allowed her to move in with us. the agreement was, she would help us with contributions towards expenses, we did not ask for specific amounts or specific bills to be covered. 4 months after she moved in, she had contributed nothing towards expenses, food or otherwise - she instead bought frivolous things, would go drive an hour back to a place she would go eat and spend money eating out. during this time my wife lost her job, and we were barely surviving - basically it was bill juggling - pay the house and utilities, and pay a couple bills here, skip others and we got in dire financial situation - it wasn't until just before she moved out that she would chip in here and there for groceries.

long story short -

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I do remember reading where it says honor your mother and father

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the parent should have that honor, if they deserve it.

I'm no expert, but check in to in home hospice care. It can actually go on for a very long time.

This right here. Listen to this guy, he happens to know more than the throw

shite at the wall suggestions some are making. Been through it with both

parents.

This. If she has liwuid assets they will use that towards the bill. After that is exhausted, they will take whatever monthly income she has and Medicare should pick up the rest. You don't need an attorney, just a reputable nursing home. They cN back five years on cash and investments but houses and other physical assets are usually off limits do to heirship ans community property issues.