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DiamondDog
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Need a little help. Dealing with parents that have mental health issues.
My father retired about four years ago. He has always been a loner type and never had much of a social life/community. He is highly religious and spends most of his days piddling around the house and studying the Bible. He doesn’t bother anybody and stays to himself. Doesn’t really cause any issues. His minimal social life took a dive after Covid.

So yesterday it became apparent I think he is having Delusions of Grandeur. He told me something that he felt God told him that I know are objectively not happening. It has to do with him taking over a position at the Church. “God told him some things that he can’t tell me unless I become a target for the devil.” He kept asking me “You think I am crazy?” I kept saying “Nah” because I’m in a state of shock.

I spoke with my mother and she wants to play the ignore the problem and it’ll go away.

There are some key indicators here:

- Delusions of Grandeur about taking over some huge church.
- Secret knowledge that can’t be shared unless you become a target.

The main problem could be social isolation but he refuses to socialize. He doesn’t share these delusions “except because I’m his son”. So at least he isn’t out there proclaiming this to random people.

It’s wrapped up in religious garb so it’s going to be really impervious to logic. I can’t go open the fridge and say “there’s no green men in here”.

While I am a strong Christian, this is beyond anything I’ve seen. He has always been so logical and consistent that this has me vexed. I don’t know how to even refer him to counseling much less convince him to go.

If anybody has ever dealt with anything like this or a similar situation, I’d appreciate the anecdotal experiences or advice.
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re: Need a little help. Dealing with parents that have mental health issues.
TulaneLSU, are you back?


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re: Need a little help. Dealing with parents that have mental health issues.
Do you think he would talk to your local Priest/Pastor/dude in the front of the room with the book that your religion puts in charge?

Because that might be the guy to bring him back to reality.


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No advice. I can’t imagine having to try and square this circle. Best of luck and hopefully some other posters can actually weight in with experiences.


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re: Need a little help. Dealing with parents that have mental health issues.
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God told him some things that he can’t tell me unless I become a target for the devil.


Tell him you are the devil's target so he can divulge the big secret.


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re: Need a little help. Dealing with parents that have mental health issues.
How old? Mine has dementia and insisted the tv was talking to him and "they" were listening through the electrical plugs in the house. I just made sure he had no guns in the house and I took the keys to his car.


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re: Need a little help. Dealing with parents that have mental health issues.
If you feel like you can’t get him to help, maybe it would be helpful for you to to seek professional guidance on how to handle it.


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re: Need a little help. Dealing with parents that have mental health issues.
Pics of mom
Dad should piihb

Also, it sounds like since retiring he lacks purpose and is handling it in a crazy way. Y'all need to find something for him to do every day that is important and meaningful to him and those around him.


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re: Need a little help. Dealing with parents that have mental health issues.
Is he vaccinated?


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re: Need a little help. Dealing with parents that have mental health issues.
Maybe speak to someone in whatever church he is a member of or someone local and someone that is his age. Have them over. Also be a good chance to get your mom or wife to fry up a bunch of fried chicken or make a gumbo. That usually helps everything out. Watermelon this time of year is best ever.

Could be early signs of Alzheimer's or dementia. Are there any other weird signs. Is he counting all his beans out before eating them or other OCD stuff?


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re: Need a little help. Dealing with parents that have mental health issues.
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Do you think he would talk to your local Priest/Pastor/dude in the front of the room with the book that your religion puts in charge?

Because that might be the guy to bring him back to reality.


I have a friend that does Christian based counseling. I’m going to see if he would start talking to him a bit.

He is just so headstrong, this isn’t something you’re going to fix without some extensive behavioral therapy. He just has to submit to it and then getting him back actually dealing with people. I’m scared his social skills are that of a tomato at this point.

I’m not local either so I can just drop in and check daily. Just looking for any kind of help.


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re: Need a little help. Dealing with parents that have mental health issues.
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the tv was talking to him and "they" were listening through the electrical plugs in the house


Classic signs of Paranoid Schizophrenia. You want to take that person to see a mental health professional. They can help that with meds. Had a friend's spouse tell me they were hearing terrorist chatter through their TV right after 9/11. It often is under control/in the background up until a major life event / triggering event and then comes pouring out.


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Is he vaccinated?


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I just made sure he had no guns in the house and I took the keys to his car.

I had to do this with both my Grandpa (Dads side) and Grandma (Moms side). I’m not afraid to admit I got back in my truck after each time and cried like a baby. Very tough situation. Prayers and well wishes your way OP.


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DiamondDog
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re: Need a little help. Dealing with parents that have mental health issues.
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How old? Mine has dementia and insisted the tv was talking to him and "they" were listening through the electrical plugs in the house. I just made sure he had no guns in the house and I took the keys to his car.



62. A little young I would think. But again, I’ve dealt with people that thought “the Lord told them” something. It goes hand in hand with Protestant churches. You kind of just hear it and deal with it. Filter it. People mean well just misguided.

The secret knowledge part is what has taken this to another level.


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The Pirate King
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re: Need a little help. Dealing with parents that have mental health issues.
Unless he’s a danger to himself or others, butt out.

Also, truly crazy people don’t generally question if they’re crazy.

If you’re a Christian and feel he’s off course, read the Bible and find passages that explain why.


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re: Need a little help. Dealing with parents that have mental health issues.
Do you or him have any siblings? Definitely sounds like he needs a hobby as others have mentioned. Needs a friend with a boat. Even antisocial people like fishing. I fish with my buddy all the time but we really don't talk much just too busy trying to catch fish. It is nice to know someone is with you though in case you catch that monster you have someone to net big mama for you. Comforting feeling.


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re: Need a little help. Dealing with parents that have mental health issues.
Does he have a priest or pastor he likes? Is he in Bible study or a men’s group? Look into spiritual counseling. Helped me tremendously.


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PRAISE THE LORD!


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Meauxjeaux
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re: Need a little help. Dealing with parents that have mental health issues.
What sounds weird to you is kinda the norm in the bible.

quote:

While I am a strong Christian


Need to read more.


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