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Narcissist Top Traits
Posted on 10/13/26 at 9:02 am
Posted on 10/13/26 at 9:02 am
Narcissism isn't always obvious superiority. Some people with narcissistic traits appear insecure, anxious, suspicious, or perpetually on edge.
I am dealing with one now. Anyone have any experience or stories?
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Top 10 traits of narcissism
1. Lack of accountability — Has difficulty admitting mistakes, accepts responsibility only reluctantly, or blames others for problems they caused.
2. Extreme defensiveness — Takes ordinary feedback or disagreement as a personal attack and reacts with anger, excuses, or counterattacks.
3. Sense of entitlement — Believes they deserve special treatment or that rules and expectations should apply differently to them.
4. Lack of empathy — Struggles to recognize or take seriously how their behavior affects other people, especially when their own interests are involved.
5. Need to be right — Treats disagreements as contests to win rather than opportunities to understand another person's perspective.
6. Blaming and shifting responsibility — Turns the issue back on the other person. For example, "I wouldn't have gotten angry if you hadn't provoked me."
7. Difficulty apologizing sincerely — Offers conditional apologies, minimizes the offense, or insists the other person apologize first.
8. Sensitivity to criticism or perceived disrespect — Reacts disproportionately to correction, rejection, embarrassment, or perceived slights.
9. Need for control — Tries to dictate how disagreements are discussed, when they are resolved, or what the other person is allowed to feel or say.
10. Exploitation or manipulation — Uses guilt, intimidation, pressure, or selective versions of events to get their way, sometimes with little regard for the consequences to others.
I am dealing with one now. Anyone have any experience or stories?
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Top 10 traits of narcissism
1. Lack of accountability — Has difficulty admitting mistakes, accepts responsibility only reluctantly, or blames others for problems they caused.
2. Extreme defensiveness — Takes ordinary feedback or disagreement as a personal attack and reacts with anger, excuses, or counterattacks.
3. Sense of entitlement — Believes they deserve special treatment or that rules and expectations should apply differently to them.
4. Lack of empathy — Struggles to recognize or take seriously how their behavior affects other people, especially when their own interests are involved.
5. Need to be right — Treats disagreements as contests to win rather than opportunities to understand another person's perspective.
6. Blaming and shifting responsibility — Turns the issue back on the other person. For example, "I wouldn't have gotten angry if you hadn't provoked me."
7. Difficulty apologizing sincerely — Offers conditional apologies, minimizes the offense, or insists the other person apologize first.
8. Sensitivity to criticism or perceived disrespect — Reacts disproportionately to correction, rejection, embarrassment, or perceived slights.
9. Need for control — Tries to dictate how disagreements are discussed, when they are resolved, or what the other person is allowed to feel or say.
10. Exploitation or manipulation — Uses guilt, intimidation, pressure, or selective versions of events to get their way, sometimes with little regard for the consequences to others.
This post was edited on 10/13/26 at 9:06 am
Posted on 10/13/26 at 9:04 am to ItzMe1972
Thank you for this information. I’ve requested a sticky
Posted on 10/13/26 at 9:05 am to ItzMe1972
Yeah Lane Kiffin.
Posted on 10/13/26 at 9:06 am to ItzMe1972
I see this all the time.
Is there a cure? Or is the condition permanent?
If it is permanent, what are management strategies for dealing with one?
Is there a cure? Or is the condition permanent?
If it is permanent, what are management strategies for dealing with one?
Posted on 10/13/26 at 9:12 am to Mingo Was His NameO
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Thank you for this information. I’ve requested a sticky
Posted on 10/13/26 at 9:14 am to ItzMe1972
My wife’s ex. He’s hit every one of those criterion.
ETA: he’s also an alcoholic, fraud, thief, and a liar.
ETA: he’s also an alcoholic, fraud, thief, and a liar.
This post was edited on 10/13/26 at 9:16 am
Posted on 10/13/26 at 9:14 am to Mahootney
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Is there a cure?
Being consistently called out by people that matter.
Getting their arse kicked.
quote:
, what are management strategies for dealing with one?
consistently calling them out
consistently kicking their arse
Posted on 10/13/26 at 9:16 am to ItzMe1972
quote:
I am dealing with one now. Anyone have any experience or stories?
We talking basic garden variety or full blown NPD?
Both are drawn to me like a moth to a flame.
Posted on 10/13/26 at 9:17 am to Mahootney
quote:
Is there a cure?
Jesus
Posted on 10/13/26 at 9:21 am to Mahootney
quote:It is fatal in my organizational chart.
I see this all the time.
Is there a cure? Or is the condition permanent?
They absolutely do not play well with others.
Been around one long-term* and it is not fixable if they are truly full-on narcissists.
One in an authority role is terrible.
*fortunately for me it ended almost 15 years ago
Posted on 10/13/26 at 9:21 am to Cheese Grits
We talking basic garden variety or full blown NPD?
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Dealing with rage after perceived disrespect. Refusing to apologize.
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Dealing with rage after perceived disrespect. Refusing to apologize.
Posted on 10/13/26 at 9:23 am to ItzMe1972
My coworkers ex. Cheated on her for their entire marriage then when she forgave him, divorced her anyway. When she finally accepted the divorce, he tried to go back and she refused. Now he says he won’t stop until she’s as miserable as he is.
Posted on 10/13/26 at 9:24 am to ItzMe1972
Strong need to be recognized as being superior. As such, does not take any criticism well.
Intentionally ignorant of how their behavior impacts others. Believes since they are superior others have to accept their behavior as being justified - no matter how bad it is.
Intentionally ignorant of how their behavior impacts others. Believes since they are superior others have to accept their behavior as being justified - no matter how bad it is.
Posted on 10/13/26 at 9:27 am to Mahootney
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Is there a cure? Or is the condition permanent?
We talking garden variety or full blown NPD?
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If it is permanent, what are management strategies for dealing with one?
Depends on age. It is the hardest mental illness to treat as even sociopaths and psychopaths see the truth, NPD's do not. They will assign blame for their issues on those around them then blame that person for the fault.
More maddening is the older they get, the more their delusions are also their truths. Older, full blown NPD can pass with a perfect score on a lie detector test. Their belief in their own truth wipes out any concept of the actual truth you or I may see.
Two possible strategies for your own health and sanity
#1 Get as far away from them as possible, think of them as TOXIC.
#2 If unable (say they are family) view them as you would a paranoid schizophrenic in that using logic only makes them double down in their defense of their beliefs. Deal with them in low impact situations and move on, to engage more will only hurt you, and it will not get through.
Posted on 10/13/26 at 9:29 am to Mahootney
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Is there a cure? Or is the condition permanent?
There is no cure. Narcissism is not a mental illness. It is a character deficiency. Yes, it is permanent.
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If it is permanent, what are management strategies for dealing with one?
In private life, the only workable strategy is to stay away from them and keep them away from you. I guess in an office or professional setting, the only option is to fire them. Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is the extreme version of this. Not too far from being a sociopath.
Posted on 10/13/26 at 9:34 am to ItzMe1972
You just perfectly described my wife.
Posted on 10/13/26 at 9:34 am to ItzMe1972
I worked with one of those for about 16 years.. 5 of those were elbow to elbow.. Everyone that she worked with she would character assassinate them.. I pleaded with the boss to move me but there was no where else to go in the department...
Every single example brings a memory back.. After we were laid off I cut off all communication with her.. One day I noticed my Facebook account was logged in to a city that she was in..(a mutual friend told me ).. Somehow she got my password.. She was friends with the nutso computer guy in the office so I think she got the PW from him... That led me to realize those hacking warnings from my Gmail and my checking account could possibly be her... Tons of crazy stories about the crap she said and did but I won't go on...
Every single example brings a memory back.. After we were laid off I cut off all communication with her.. One day I noticed my Facebook account was logged in to a city that she was in..(a mutual friend told me ).. Somehow she got my password.. She was friends with the nutso computer guy in the office so I think she got the PW from him... That led me to realize those hacking warnings from my Gmail and my checking account could possibly be her... Tons of crazy stories about the crap she said and did but I won't go on...
Posted on 10/13/26 at 9:35 am to ItzMe1972
Narcissism in varying degrees is common as dirt. You'll have to learn to deal with them in life. Don't marry, don't allow as close friend. If you find yourself working for one, start looking.
Posted on 10/13/26 at 9:35 am to ItzMe1972
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I am dealing with one now. Anyone have any experience or stories?
Yes, my father. He's also my boss. Very precarious situation I often find myself in.
Posted on 10/13/26 at 9:38 am to DownSouthJukin
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DownSouthJukin
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Is there a cure?
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Jesus
While I respect you DSJ, faith is a cure, if you have faith in the first place.
Most NPD's in my past believed in God, only as they believed they were God. Many have charismatic personalities and may appear Christian, but that is just the wolf in sheep's clothing. Dig deep and you will find most are atheist at their core.
In my youth full blown NPD's seem ripe for exorcism (being Catholic) but in my old age this was the folly of belief in youth. But for the grace of God, that was a path I was on, but it took at least 10 to 20 years of hard work, pain, and suffering to do the 180 that got me where I am now.
My saving grace were very strong mentors and a core of faith that has only grown stronger with age. Now in my dotage, I can look back and some explanation why I am still here after all these years, when all accounts say I should not.
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