re: My parents are in their late 70’s and refuse to create a will

Some states will tie you up in probate for 5 yrs if you don't have a will.

Could tell them that if they don't decide what happens with their stuff the state will do it for them.

Most people don't like the idea of the government having control over their stuff.

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Once money or valuables are up in the air, people get greedy and irrational.

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Listen to this man. I would never have believed things would have unfolded like they did when my mother died. In the truest sense she had very little upon her passing. But the oldest and youngest siblings turned it into a death match.

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what a'hole kid would say 'meh frick it' when settling their parent's estate?

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plenty

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I don't necessarily agree. If his dad wants him to start taking things now, then I don't see a problem with it.

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If his dad is telling him to grab certain things that is different. I didn't read it as that. The OP had numerous siblings and he said he was in a similar situation so this post comes across as "I'm taking what i want now so someone else doesn't get it when he dies." Certainly didn't read as a "I'm helping clean the house out as a favor to make things easier when he passes" when you are going just to grab a valuable over and under shotgun.

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And what a'hole kid would say 'meh frick it' when settling their parent's estate? 

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You answered your own question dumbass:

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Except they won't have a choice because creditors come calling.

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Why deal with an estate if the estate is nothing but debt?

It's not your estate if there's no will, let the state sort it out.

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I need to talk to my dad about this. My parents are divorced and he is remarried. What happens if no will? 100% to his current wife or 50% her and 50% to his kids? Also, what happens after his current wife passes away? Everything then goes to her kids (who she had from a previous marriage)? In Louisiana

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I am in exact scenario and would be curious as to an answer as well.

Talk to him about estate planning, find a great estate attorney and give it to him.
If he is dumb enough to remarry it’s going to get complicated (you and your siblings are going to get fricked).
His new wife will steer him to an attorney if you don’t.

Research “usufruct” and understand your possible financial obligations upon his death.
Dads Third wife was a grifter who thought she golden until the second will was read.

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Am I wrong to say as long as you and your siblings get along and have an understanding you should be able to work it out amongst yourselves afterwards?

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One would think but people go crazy in these situations and their significant others inserting themselves into the situation don't help.

My parents did not have a will. Died 5 years apart. 5 children, all living.
All 5 kids always got along (good parenting).
When my dad called us together prior to his passing, he said he wanted hospice & I was in charge of his money (I was already doing all his bills and organized everything after my mom passed.)

After his passing, the kids met, I told them there would be total transparency. I went to the family attorney and he did both successions.
Everything was divided equally, we also have a “cemetery fund’ that we created for upkeep.
Never had a disagreement over the money.
We each got the item's we wanted out of the house.
Had an estate sale for the contents of the house.
We sold the family house to a nephew at a discount, because it was important to keep it in the family.

It can be done easily but everyone needs to be selfless and avoid bullshite petty differences.

Now if you have a brother or sister that passed away that had kids, it can get more complicated.