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re: My parents are in their late 70’s and refuse to create a will
Posted on 4/28/26 at 7:39 pm to HoustonGumbeauxGuy
Posted on 4/28/26 at 7:39 pm to HoustonGumbeauxGuy
I finally went to an attorney and had a will drafted. Gave all my kids a copy and then made a final draft that we all agreed was the way to go
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Posted on 4/28/26 at 8:55 pm to HoustonGumbeauxGuy
My MIL wouldn’t do a will even after she was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer. She was convinced her husband, who was not the father of my wife or her sister, would do the “right thing” and honor her wishes. They did receive a split of a life insurance policy she had, but that was about it. Even though he had no children of his own he made his brother the beneficiary of everything he owned including much of what had been hers. The only good news that came out of it was it did convince my own parents to create a will.
Posted on 4/28/26 at 9:00 pm to HoustonGumbeauxGuy
I may be late to this but as someone who has seen this issue more times a day for almost 20 years. I hope someone will hear me out.
You do not get to decide how you meet me. You will probably not get tell me your wishes. I meet your family at your worst moment. Not you. You are hooked up to everything I can muster to keep you alive while family comes in. They don’t want to “kill dad/mom”. So you linger for days. Then one person gets it. This is despite every doctor from the ED to me saying that even if you live your quality of life will not be what would be acceptable to most of us. We use analogies and real life examples.
I tell you about losing my dad and being in your place with conflicting family. I tell you how my advanced directive reads: “ if you are reading this things are not great. And if i can not watch LSU football while hugging my wife in a meaningful way in 6m that is not me and you should let me go.”
That one person finally makes people come to terms.
Guys. Gals.
Do your advanced directives, HCP and POA’s
Put clear bumpers on there that people have to follow at 2am.
And make sure the person in charge will honor it and and not go crazy.
Also. This prevents survivors gult. Your kids will second guess themselves. Write what you want. Protect yourself and them.
You do not get to decide how you meet me. You will probably not get tell me your wishes. I meet your family at your worst moment. Not you. You are hooked up to everything I can muster to keep you alive while family comes in. They don’t want to “kill dad/mom”. So you linger for days. Then one person gets it. This is despite every doctor from the ED to me saying that even if you live your quality of life will not be what would be acceptable to most of us. We use analogies and real life examples.
I tell you about losing my dad and being in your place with conflicting family. I tell you how my advanced directive reads: “ if you are reading this things are not great. And if i can not watch LSU football while hugging my wife in a meaningful way in 6m that is not me and you should let me go.”
That one person finally makes people come to terms.
Guys. Gals.
Do your advanced directives, HCP and POA’s
Put clear bumpers on there that people have to follow at 2am.
And make sure the person in charge will honor it and and not go crazy.
Also. This prevents survivors gult. Your kids will second guess themselves. Write what you want. Protect yourself and them.
Posted on 4/28/26 at 9:03 pm to RLDSC FAN
Getting a great Will arrangement is not too expensive and well worth the money, when you consider the alternative, which is that the kids will be fighting to the death with each other over who gets what property.
The kids will be at each other's throats, they will end up in court fighting each other and will never, ever speak to each other again, and that includes all of the kids's families too.
Imagine siblings, in-laws and cousins never speaking to each other or having anything at all to do with one another for the rest of their lives.
Other than that, it's really no big deal if Pop-Pop and Mee-Maw die without any Wills or estate planning.
So, no big deal, since Pop Pop and Mee Maw will be dead anyway. Let the kids figure it out. They always told us how smart they are and how dumb Mom and Dad are.
It's a nice "frick You, Kids" from Mom and Dad - RIP
It's not that unlikely that this very scenario will play out. Some people act VERY strangely when Money is on the Table, ESPECIALLY when their spouse is in their ear telling them to go to war with their siblings over the money.
But, I'm merely speculating.
The kids will be at each other's throats, they will end up in court fighting each other and will never, ever speak to each other again, and that includes all of the kids's families too.
Imagine siblings, in-laws and cousins never speaking to each other or having anything at all to do with one another for the rest of their lives.
Other than that, it's really no big deal if Pop-Pop and Mee-Maw die without any Wills or estate planning.
So, no big deal, since Pop Pop and Mee Maw will be dead anyway. Let the kids figure it out. They always told us how smart they are and how dumb Mom and Dad are.
It's a nice "frick You, Kids" from Mom and Dad - RIP
It's not that unlikely that this very scenario will play out. Some people act VERY strangely when Money is on the Table, ESPECIALLY when their spouse is in their ear telling them to go to war with their siblings over the money.
But, I'm merely speculating.
This post was edited on 4/28/26 at 9:04 pm
Posted on 4/28/26 at 9:32 pm to OGtigerfan87
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as long as you and your siblings get along and have an understanding
Money and grief make people behave strangely, and often poorly
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