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re: My MIL opened up a credit card in my wife’s name
Posted on 5/21/21 at 10:20 am to Newrow
Posted on 5/21/21 at 10:20 am to Newrow
If you knew it was gambling from the get go, and you still thought you could work it out, you’re enabling her. Cut her off, transfer the debt to her name, maybe MAYBE pay for rehab, and follow tour wife’s lead as it’s her credit score that was fricked and it was her mom that did it.
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Posted on 5/21/21 at 10:21 am to Newrow
Posted on 5/21/21 at 10:21 am to Newrow
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It’s gambling.
She needs help ASAP, then
Buying shite is one thing, but gambling is a whole other animal
Posted on 5/21/21 at 10:21 am to Newrow
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How much money we talkin bout?
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It’s in the upper teen thousands.
Jesus. Guy. I know I'm no OT Baller. But that's a lot of money that she basically stole from yall.
I'd hate to have to sever a relationship with my mother-in-law, but that's a lot of money. I would go to the police, honestly. Absolutely zero chance I would help to pay off her lies and terrible spending habits.
Posted on 5/21/21 at 10:22 am to Newrow
I would also get the credit card entity involved. They have some responsibility/negligence.
Get the debt transferred if possible. File a formal complaint on the CC company or bank whomever. Needs to be in writing.
Get your Mil help if it was for gambling or substance abuse. I wouldn't get the law involved if she bout to sell the house and can cover the debt with profits
Get the debt transferred if possible. File a formal complaint on the CC company or bank whomever. Needs to be in writing.
Get your Mil help if it was for gambling or substance abuse. I wouldn't get the law involved if she bout to sell the house and can cover the debt with profits
Posted on 5/21/21 at 10:22 am to Newrow
When you can't trust someone not to do this, you cannot trust them with anything, particularly your children.
A kid might do this and recover. A grandmother has likely done this many times and gotten away with it. This is not something she just "did" at this stage in her life. This is who she is.
Be in denial about it if you wish, but I'm telling you the God's honest truth.
A kid might do this and recover. A grandmother has likely done this many times and gotten away with it. This is not something she just "did" at this stage in her life. This is who she is.
Be in denial about it if you wish, but I'm telling you the God's honest truth.
Posted on 5/21/21 at 10:22 am to Newrow
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It’s gambling
And you are wanting to clean up the mess she caused to try and save the wife and MIL relationship?
Come on man. This is a very, very simple decision. You make her pay the money back to save you and your wife's borrowing power in the future and cut off any relationship with her until she has proven she can be a responsible adult.
This post was edited on 5/21/21 at 10:23 am
Posted on 5/21/21 at 10:23 am to Newrow
What in the hell was she buying to rack up that much and why does your MIL have money issues?
Posted on 5/21/21 at 10:23 am to Newrow
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She has a great job as a nurse anesthetist.
so if you go to police, does she lose her job?
this is such an awesome conundrum.
Posted on 5/21/21 at 10:23 am to GreenRockTiger
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Buying shite is one thing, but gambling is a whole other animal
Not really. It’s simply an attempt to stimulate the brain with pleasure hormones.
She does need help though.
Posted on 5/21/21 at 10:23 am to Tyga Woods
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You must now sleep with your mother in law.
Only logical solution
Posted on 5/21/21 at 10:25 am to The Truth 34
$18,000 is some expensive occasional daycare
Posted on 5/21/21 at 10:25 am to Chad504boy
She absolutely would lose her job. 10+k of identity theft is big felony.
Posted on 5/21/21 at 10:26 am to Oilfieldbiology
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OP is being naive and sentimental.
Nah. OP is thinking about the free daycare service his MIL provides and how his life will be impacted by this major change.
Posted on 5/21/21 at 10:26 am to Roll Tide Ravens
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Since it was your wife's identity that was stolen, I think you have to follow your wife's lead on what she wants to do.
Yep
Lol at all the single people saying to call the cops. Not an option
Posted on 5/21/21 at 10:26 am to Chad504boy
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so if you go to police, does she lose her job?
I’m so sorry. I don’t know how this happened. I didn’t know what I was doing. Oh god I’m so sorry. I never meant to hurt you. It won’t happen again. Just help me this one time. I’m going to sell my house and pay you back. I swear. Don’t take my grandkids from me. You know me. I can do better. Just help me a little. I can stop. I’m sorry. I love you. Don’t call the cops or anything because I’ll lose my job. Life has just been so hard since I lost my husband. You know how good of a person I am. We can work this out. I’m sorry. I love you.
I wonder if that’s the conversation he had. You think I’m close?
Posted on 5/21/21 at 10:27 am to Newrow
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This post was edited on 11/15/21 at 2:08 pm
Posted on 5/21/21 at 10:28 am to Abstract Queso Dip
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Abstract Queso Dip
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Number of Posts: 24 Registered on: 3/28/2021
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I wouldn't get the law involved if she bout to sell the house and can cover the debt with profits
Mother in law has entered the chat
Posted on 5/21/21 at 10:28 am to Oilfieldbiology
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Buying shite is one thing, but gambling is a whole other animal
Not really. It’s simply an attempt to stimulate the brain with pleasure hormones.
Well, unfortunately there are plenty of all types of addicts in my family. The thing about the ones that buy crap - a lot of time the stuff can be sold (not always)
With gambling the money is almost always lost bc if they win, they want to keep on winning and of course you can’t always win
That’s what i meant - of course all if it induces the same high
This post was edited on 5/21/21 at 10:31 am
Posted on 5/21/21 at 10:29 am to HogX
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The free baby sitting ain't worth it, baw.
Guess it wasn’t free after all.
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