- My Forums
- Tiger Rant
- LSU Recruiting
- SEC Rant
- Saints Talk
- Pelicans Talk
- More Sports Board
- Fantasy Sports
- Golf Board
- Soccer Board
- O-T Lounge
- Tech Board
- Home/Garden Board
- Outdoor Board
- Health/Fitness Board
- Movie/TV Board
- Book Board
- Music Board
- Political Talk
- Money Talk
- Fark Board
- Gaming Board
- Travel Board
- Food/Drink Board
- Ticket Exchange
- TD Help Board
Customize My Forums- View All Forums
- Show Left Links
- Topic Sort Options
- Trending Topics
- Recent Topics
- Active Topics
Started By
Message
re: Moving in before or after marriage?
Posted on 2/14/19 at 10:03 am to airlinehwypanhandler
Posted on 2/14/19 at 10:03 am to airlinehwypanhandler
Dude you have some trust issues. 
0
Posted on 2/14/19 at 10:05 am to airlinehwypanhandler
quote:
You are basically giving up any leverage you have against her. The biggest arrow quiver in the man's bag is the ability to walk away. By moving in you are giving that up.
Sex will go down. Trust me. Guys move in with women they aren't married to thinking they will get sex on the regular every night. Haha. You have to remember all women weaponize and commoditize sex and use it as leverage to get what they want. Remember how i said the biggest chip a man has is to walk away? The biggest leverage chip a woman has is her vagina. Now that she knows you gave up your biggest leverage, she basically has free reign to ration access to sex.
And with common law and feminism, if you try to sever ties and move out, you are still liable and on the hook
You have NOTHING to gain from this. NOTHING.
I laughed the entire time reading this. I'm thinking marriage, in any form, is probably not the best idea for you.
Posted on 2/14/19 at 10:07 am to 777Tiger
Common law in SC I believe is after 10 years. Not sure. We have 1 year. Doesn't work out?
Buh bye
Buh bye
Posted on 2/14/19 at 10:08 am to airlinehwypanhandler
quote:
Never before. Never.
You are basically giving up any leverage you have against her. The biggest arrow quiver in the man's bag is the ability to walk away. By moving in you are giving that up.
Sex will go down. Trust me. Guys move in with women they aren't married to thinking they will get sex on the regular every night. Haha. You have to remember all women weaponize and commoditize sex and use it as leverage to get what they want. Remember how i said the biggest chip a man has is to walk away? The biggest leverage chip a woman has is her vagina. Now that she knows you gave up your biggest leverage, she basically has free reign to ration access to sex.
And with common law and feminism, if you try to sever ties and move out, you are still liable and on the hook
You have NOTHING to gain from this. NOTHING.
*tips fedora
Posted on 2/14/19 at 10:09 am to GeauxTigerTM
quote:
Lived with a girlfriend in college for several years and got engaged and shortly after it fell apart. Sucked, but we split bills so other than having to split up a handful of things we'd bought together there were no financial ties.
You do see though that if you got married before you moved in, it would've ended in a divorce instead of just a break up.
You saved money on the front end splitting rent and utilities and you saved money at the end not having to pay a high dollar attorney to split everything up.
Posted on 2/14/19 at 10:09 am to Datfish
My gf and I moved from LSU to San Francisco after school, were we supposed to rent two places?
Posted on 2/14/19 at 10:13 am to Datfish
We did it, but we were engaged at the time.
My lease was up and I was staying in the home she owned almost every night. It didn’t make sense for me to spend $1200 a month plus utilities and not even stay at the place. Our parents didn’t talk to us for a few weeks, but with the money we were able to save we paid off both vehicles and her student loan prior to the wedding so we started off in a good financial spot.
My lease was up and I was staying in the home she owned almost every night. It didn’t make sense for me to spend $1200 a month plus utilities and not even stay at the place. Our parents didn’t talk to us for a few weeks, but with the money we were able to save we paid off both vehicles and her student loan prior to the wedding so we started off in a good financial spot.
Posted on 2/14/19 at 10:14 am to lsunurse
quote:
Separate bathrooms.....key to a happy marriage
Truth.
<----18 years
Posted on 2/14/19 at 10:19 am to TheCaterpillar
quote:
You're part of the problem. This post irrationally pisses me off
What part? The truth and values sounds irrational these I know?
You want to test drive, save money before you tie the knot?
Parents dont like it...
Do what you want...
Posted on 2/14/19 at 10:22 am to Datfish
you need to live with a woman for at least a year or two before you even think about getting married because if you cant live together, then you sure as hell cant make a marriage work.
Posted on 2/14/19 at 10:27 am to keakar
quote:
you even think about getting married because if you cant live together, then you sure as hell cant make a marriage work.
I wonder what the women think about these comments?
Posted on 2/14/19 at 10:43 am to airlinehwypanhandler
Holy red pill, Batman!
Posted on 2/14/19 at 10:43 am to fishfighter
quote:
If it was my daughter that you would even think of moving in with her, I would kick your arse, bass. Just because you are getting the milk for free, doesn't mean you can take the cow home without buying it first.
Sign, old folks.
Pics of your heifer daughter?
Posted on 2/14/19 at 10:46 am to ApexTiger
As others have said, it probably isn't a great idea for people in their early 20's unless they're getting engaged.
Me and the SO are a little older and doing it now. Saving a ton of money instead of renting two places and spending every night together anyway. IMO we're giving a possible future marriage the best chance to succeed by getting to know each other even better. If you have two mature people with mutual respect for each other I really don't see how this is a problem.
As a side note, other than parents, people should just mind their own damn business because they probably have no idea what is going on in someone else's relationship. I'm sure some of these pearls of wisdom are coming directly from divorcees or miserable married folks. Worry about yourself. end rant.
Me and the SO are a little older and doing it now. Saving a ton of money instead of renting two places and spending every night together anyway. IMO we're giving a possible future marriage the best chance to succeed by getting to know each other even better. If you have two mature people with mutual respect for each other I really don't see how this is a problem.
As a side note, other than parents, people should just mind their own damn business because they probably have no idea what is going on in someone else's relationship. I'm sure some of these pearls of wisdom are coming directly from divorcees or miserable married folks. Worry about yourself. end rant.
Posted on 2/14/19 at 10:48 am to Datfish
I'm not getting Married so yes
Posted on 2/14/19 at 10:48 am to fishfighter
quote:
If it was my daughter that you would even think of moving in with her, I would kick your arse, bass. Just because you are getting the milk for free, doesn't mean you can take the cow home without buying it first.
Women start giving milk away for free a lot younger now. The more attractive girls without any religious reservations are likely to have upwards of 50 partners at the end of college.
Posted on 2/14/19 at 10:51 am to Datfish
Don’t get married before 30, don’t have kids before you’re married, and don’t worry about anything else.
Posted on 2/14/19 at 10:52 am to ApexTiger
My girlfriend and I are in the process of moving into my place. We live a pretty good distance from each other (~20 miles) and it was just a headache for us to bounce back and forth. Her lease came up and we are saving about $2K/month in expenses living together. We get to spend more time together, reduce stress of traveling, and save a lot. Her parents are extremely supportive and are helping with the move.
I know it will have its ups-and-downs. We are both optimistic yet reasonable in working through living in a combined space. I've already seen it make me more considerate because I want to make sure it becomes a space that feels like home for her.
I know it will have its ups-and-downs. We are both optimistic yet reasonable in working through living in a combined space. I've already seen it make me more considerate because I want to make sure it becomes a space that feels like home for her.
Posted on 2/14/19 at 10:52 am to fishfighter
quote:No you wouldn’t.
If it was my daughter that you would even think of moving in with her, I would kick your arse, bass.
Posted on 2/14/19 at 10:53 am to airlinehwypanhandler
quote:
Never before. Never.
You are basically giving up any leverage you have against her. The biggest arrow quiver in the man's bag is the ability to walk away. By moving in you are giving that up.
Sex will go down. Trust me. Guys move in with women they aren't married to thinking they will get sex on the regular every night. Haha. You have to remember all women weaponize and commoditize sex and use it as leverage to get what they want. Remember how i said the biggest chip a man has is to walk away? The biggest leverage chip a woman has is her vagina. Now that she knows you gave up your biggest leverage, she basically has free reign to ration access to sex.
And with common law and feminism, if you try to sever ties and move out, you are still liable and on the hook
You have NOTHING to gain from this. NOTHING.
You sound like the main guy character's best friend in a rom com.
"Nothing To Gain, starring Bradley Cooper and Jennifer Aniston. In theaters Memorial Day weekend 2019."
Page 5 of 6
Popular
Back to top
Follow TigerDroppings for LSU Football News