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re: Married, first kid problems
Posted on 10/8/23 at 5:30 am to ODoyleRulez
Posted on 10/8/23 at 5:30 am to ODoyleRulez
Clean the bottles. Get groceries. Cook. Go to work.
Do nothing else until month 4 and you'll come out the other side fine.
Do nothing else until month 4 and you'll come out the other side fine.
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Posted on 10/8/23 at 5:42 am to ODoyleRulez
put all the attention and effort on her and the child and you'll be getting laid in no time..........by some neighbor who finds all of that attractive!! kidding. your wife will melt if you put hers and this 7 week old kid's needs ahead of yours. women be cray......but they notice things and you'll be rewarded when you least expect it.
Posted on 10/8/23 at 6:01 am to ODoyleRulez
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7 week old healthy boy
I'd be worried for you if "week" was "year" here. Birth is a nightmare for our women. Can your feelings and make her world better. She made yours better with a son. You owe her a lot right now. You get no sympathy here. Be a man and handle your shite. There's your help. You're welcome.
Posted on 10/8/23 at 6:44 am to ODoyleRulez
7 weeks after birth dude.
Posted on 10/8/23 at 6:55 am to ODoyleRulez
It takes a few months but eventually the things she had to go through to actually grow and then birth a baby level out and go back to normal. Like the other posters said, treat her well and she will appreciate it. Also, focus on the baby a while along with her. If you’re like me, and we’ve had 3 of them, just thank God he’s healthy and try to soak it all in. Things will be back to normal before you know it.
Posted on 10/8/23 at 7:04 am to ODoyleRulez
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Boys, I’m not sure what is normal. Have a young 7 week old healthy boy. I’m seeing and feeling a ton of distance with my wife and me. I know sex was out of the question for a while, but damn. We can’t connect on anything.
If this is her first child as well, she's probably experiencing a bunch of new feelings and emotions too. One is that- she probably never imagined that she could love something as much as she loves her own baby. It's different that the way she loves you and it can be vv overwhelming for first time moms.
If you focus on taking care of her and helping with extra things around the house and with the new baby, that she may have done before, that will stock pile a lot of affection points in the bank for you.
think of it like an investment- it will pay off for you- just let it grow a little first.
She's probably exhausted too- so don't look much into it.
and for the love of all things- don't pressure her for sex rn.
Posted on 10/8/23 at 7:07 am to ODoyleRulez
Your wife just pushed something +5 pounds out of her vagina. On top of what others said, she is probably feeling self conscious as frick. Just be there, volunteer to change the shite diapers , and you’ll be fine. Make sure to throw compliments in whiner you can. Find a babysitter you can trust now if no family nearby and try to get a date night in after the 4th month.
This post was edited on 10/8/23 at 7:10 am
Posted on 10/8/23 at 7:18 am to ODoyleRulez
No reason to stay around for all that. Contact an attorney now to secure your assets and file for divorce.
Posted on 10/8/23 at 7:21 am to Scruffy
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She got what she wanted out of you (sperm and child support).
Or just the child support. Possibly the baby isn’t his spawn. Wouldn’t be a bad idea to get a paternity test.
Posted on 10/8/23 at 7:22 am to ODoyleRulez
Calm down. She is exhausted. This is normal after having a baby especially your first as both of your lives have forever changed.
Focus on being a good Dad. That will be a turn on for her.
Focus on being a good Dad. That will be a turn on for her.
Posted on 10/8/23 at 7:24 am to ODoyleRulez
Most likely she is exhausted, her hormones are out of whack and prob has post partum depression. Just help out as much as you can. She will get back to herself again. It takes time. The first 4 months are the hardest.
Posted on 10/8/23 at 7:25 am to ODoyleRulez
Try being a good parent. Your wife is exhausted. Pull your weight
Posted on 10/8/23 at 7:47 am to pelicanpride
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She just grew your child inside of her for nine months. She saw her body change in ways that she never imagined. Then she pushed your child out of her body in what was likely the most painful experience of her life. Her body still hasn’t recovered in 7 weeks, and her hormones are all over the place. She isn’t getting nearly enough sleep. (There is a reason the CIA uses sleep deprivation as a torture technique.) If she’s breastfeeding, the baby needs access to her body more or less constantly.
As a woman in a happy marriage who has had 3 children, I’m going to give you some advice, and you can take it or leave it. Please don’t go talk to her about your needs right now. I’m not saying that your needs aren’t important, but she has been pulling so much weight. Don’t give her more. Carry some of that weight for her.
This times 100
Posted on 10/8/23 at 7:52 am to ODoyleRulez
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We can’t connect on anything.
Your job is done, you impregnated her and now you are expendable.
Posted on 10/8/23 at 7:55 am to ODoyleRulez
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Kid is great. She just doesn’t want much to do with me.
She’s tired.
She’s adjusting, mentally and physically. She’s probably feeling a little overwhelmed right now. Anything that you can do to give her a break is the best thing that you can do.
It’ll get better!
Posted on 10/8/23 at 8:01 am to LemmyLives
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There are a handful of times I refused to change my daughter's diapers. When you see the mess, and where it's packed into... I could not just go there with a wipe, I'd feel like a felon. Only happened twice I think.
That's the kinda shxt makes me glad I have a boy.
Posted on 10/8/23 at 8:04 am to ODoyleRulez
Common complaint with most first time dads. She’s fully dialed in on the baby right now. Give it time, change as many diapers as you can, get up with her during the night, wait it out.
Posted on 10/8/23 at 8:13 am to ODoyleRulez
Posted on 10/8/23 at 8:14 am to ODoyleRulez
quote:what you can't do is let this visibly frustrate you, which she will sense and that will make matters worse.
No ideas what I was getting into with this man. Appreciate yalls help
As others have mentioned focus on being a good dad and husband and everything else will fall into place.
Posted on 10/8/23 at 8:20 am to ODoyleRulez
There is no hard and fast rule on anything, but at 7 weeks, her body is still completely out of wack, both physically and mentally from the hormones and birth and new baby. Give it time and enjoy the family. Congrats!
This post was edited on 10/10/23 at 12:41 pm
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