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re: Married, first kid problems
Posted on 10/8/23 at 11:11 am to ODoyleRulez
Posted on 10/8/23 at 11:11 am to ODoyleRulez
One piece of advice I got very early on was to never let the kid into your bed. Once that happens, you're on the couch and the marriage spirals downward.
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Posted on 10/8/23 at 11:17 am to ODoyleRulez
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Kid is great. She just doesn’t want much to do with me.
Is she doing most of the work with the infant? Maybe you need to do more
Parenting is exhausting and it takes both pulling their weight.
Posted on 10/8/23 at 11:24 am to ODoyleRulez
It smells like bitch in here. Dissappear for 18 years, go live your life and do what you want. The kid will be there when tou get back and all the hard work will be done. Your welcome.
Posted on 10/8/23 at 11:33 am to ODoyleRulez
When a woman has a baby, her maternal instinct kicks in and her main drive is to keep the baby alive. Show her that you are her ally in this, not the competition. For the next few weeks, act as if that (doing what’s best for the baby) is your sole focus. If your wife is doing things like, say, wanting to sleep with the baby, you have to approach it as how that is not best for the baby. Approach any disagreements from the perspective of what is best for the baby. The reality is that having the parents be a strong couple IS what is best for the baby, but FIRST you have to convince your wife that you care about the baby as much as she does.
This post was edited on 10/8/23 at 11:34 am
Posted on 10/8/23 at 11:42 am to ODoyleRulez
Based on my own personal experience, it will definitely get better from here. The 7-week mark, for me, is when I felt like I may actually die from exhaustion.
Right after that point, each time, the kids began sleeping for reasonable chunks of time at night. I could rely on about 6 hours at that point.
Her entire world (and body) has been rocked, and it takes some time to feel normal again. Keep the place running and give her some much needed REST. It's hard to describe the toll on your body after growing a human for 9 months, birthing it, and then feeding it.
Your wife needs a bubble bath, a snack, and a long nap (sans baby).
Right after that point, each time, the kids began sleeping for reasonable chunks of time at night. I could rely on about 6 hours at that point.
Her entire world (and body) has been rocked, and it takes some time to feel normal again. Keep the place running and give her some much needed REST. It's hard to describe the toll on your body after growing a human for 9 months, birthing it, and then feeding it.
Your wife needs a bubble bath, a snack, and a long nap (sans baby).
Posted on 10/8/23 at 12:18 pm to ODoyleRulez
She might not feel confident with her body still
Posted on 10/8/23 at 12:40 pm to ODoyleRulez
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No ideas what I was getting into with this man.
Did you leave out a comma after “this”, or are you married to a man?
Posted on 10/8/23 at 1:55 pm to 14caratgoldjones
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Marriage is a roller coaster of ups and downs.
Preach.There's a reason why men usually never outlive the wife.
Posted on 10/8/23 at 2:01 pm to Billy Blanks
You will come out the fog in about 6 months.
After 3 months the clouds begin to part a bit with a sleep schedule hopefully established etc.
This can be a very difficult period for the wife.
Look out for postpartum as well if the wife is really struggling. Make sure she is getting enough help and able to get outside and have some time to herself if at all possible.
This is the part few people talk about when having kids. It’s an extremely challenging period for awhile but you just gotta grind it out.
After 3 months the clouds begin to part a bit with a sleep schedule hopefully established etc.
This can be a very difficult period for the wife.
Look out for postpartum as well if the wife is really struggling. Make sure she is getting enough help and able to get outside and have some time to herself if at all possible.
This is the part few people talk about when having kids. It’s an extremely challenging period for awhile but you just gotta grind it out.
Posted on 10/8/23 at 2:26 pm to ODoyleRulez
I hate to be the one to tell you, but your wife now needs more…uh….manliness for her womanliness. Jody finna get drafted.
Posted on 10/8/23 at 2:46 pm to ODoyleRulez
Are you fricking serious?
Just out of curiosity, what specifically would you like your wife to do for you over keeping your ultra young offspring alive?
I want specific details on this.
I am going to wait for your divorce thread in 18 months.
Just out of curiosity, what specifically would you like your wife to do for you over keeping your ultra young offspring alive?
I want specific details on this.
I am going to wait for your divorce thread in 18 months.
Posted on 10/8/23 at 2:51 pm to ODoyleRulez
Invite Jody over for a cup of tea.
Posted on 10/8/23 at 2:55 pm to ODoyleRulez
Posted on 10/8/23 at 2:55 pm to ODoyleRulez
Women change after child birth. They just do. Deal with it and things will improve. You will have to adjust to the new normal.
Posted on 10/8/23 at 3:05 pm to ODoyleRulez
Stopping being about me. She just had a kid and she is tired. It is lot of work. Be there for her instead of worrying about yourself
Posted on 10/8/23 at 3:07 pm to ODoyleRulez
It’s going to get better. Just takes time. But I’m gonna tell you now. She won’t be a back to her pre baby self for about a year.
Posted on 10/8/23 at 3:09 pm to ODoyleRulez
Give her an ultimatum. Tell her she has one week to relinquish that pussy, or you're leaving her and the little brat.
Posted on 10/8/23 at 4:40 pm to pelicanpride
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As a woman in a happy marriage who has had 3 children, I’m going to give you some advice, and you can take it or leave it. Please don’t go talk to her about your needs right now. I’m not saying that your needs aren’t important, but she has been pulling so much weight. Don’t give her more. Carry some of that weight for her.
100% this! She’s unsure of everything right now. She feels like she’s not doing enough, like she’s too fat, is the baby getting enough milk, she’s exhausted. She’s worried about things around the house too.
Do the laundry, the dishes, ask if she wants you to run her a bath while you take care of the baby. Fold and put up the clothes. As tired as you are, she’s 10 x more. Any expectations about sex just feel like one more thing on that long list of stuff she needs to do.
Oh…hold your baby. Change diapers. Wash bottles. Leave as much as you can abover taking care of her and the baby. Give it 3-4 more months and generally, as sleep improves, so will everything else.
Posted on 10/8/23 at 4:49 pm to LaLadyinTx
In other words, tell the man to be the mom. That's rich.
Mom has duties, baby duties is the main thing. Let the man work, pay bills, do yard work, help as he can. Mom suck it up and pleasure your man as is needed. End of story. Jeebus.
Mom has duties, baby duties is the main thing. Let the man work, pay bills, do yard work, help as he can. Mom suck it up and pleasure your man as is needed. End of story. Jeebus.
This post was edited on 10/8/23 at 4:51 pm
Posted on 10/8/23 at 5:04 pm to Taurus
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n other words, tell the man to be the mom. That's rich. Mom has duties, baby duties is the main thing. Let the man work, pay bills, do yard work, help as he can. Mom suck it up and pleasure your man as is needed. End of story. Jeebus.
It’s not like that forever. You sound like an a-hole and a man that won’t be married for long.
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