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re: Made mistake of offering wife a solution to a problem
Posted on 8/22/23 at 9:00 pm to East Coast Band
Posted on 8/22/23 at 9:00 pm to East Coast Band
You were screwed either way. You aren't really a human being in those female moments, you are just a prop for her emotions. Whatever you do or don't do, is irrelevant because it's 100% about her and her cherished emotional journey.
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Posted on 8/22/23 at 9:53 pm to LSUSkip
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We've had about a 30% drop in income over the last fee months. We're both at our wit's end with no end in sight, only an outlook that it looks like it's just going to get worse. I quit smoking because of the cost, and it's a damn powder keg in this house right now.
I’m willing to bet she hasn’t sacrificed anything she likes because of the cost
Posted on 8/22/23 at 9:57 pm to East Coast Band
Just be glad your wife communicated with you. Mine decided to fall for another guy and tell me she wanted out.
Posted on 8/22/23 at 10:13 pm to East Coast Band
The only place my brain goes to (immediately) is trying to solve the problem at hand. My wife's brain goes the opposite (immediately).
Posted on 8/22/23 at 10:14 pm to jizzle6609
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I accidentally mentioned dust on the Peleton the other day.
I told my wife once during a fight that my next wife will have a sense of humor. Definitely a dick move by me, but she has gone on to sort of make my point for me by complaining about my comment to everyone we know.
Posted on 8/22/23 at 10:22 pm to East Coast Band
First thing we learned in Psychology class and that is affirmation of what someone is feeling.
Wife: You know honey, I am having some issues at work with the bosses kid getting special treatment.
Husband: I am sorry babe that you are having these issues at work. I know this must be tough for you. Is there anything I can do to make things better.
Wife: No, I just wish it wouldn’t happen
Husband: Yes, I can understand why you feel this way. It would frustrate me too.
Now that is how it should be done to avoid any additional conflict.
Wife: You know honey, I am having some issues at work with the bosses kid getting special treatment.
Husband: I am sorry babe that you are having these issues at work. I know this must be tough for you. Is there anything I can do to make things better.
Wife: No, I just wish it wouldn’t happen
Husband: Yes, I can understand why you feel this way. It would frustrate me too.
Now that is how it should be done to avoid any additional conflict.
Posted on 8/22/23 at 10:30 pm to East Coast Band
Confucious say:
The point of men complaining is to seek a solution to the problem.
The point of women complaining is the complaint itself.
The point of men complaining is to seek a solution to the problem.
The point of women complaining is the complaint itself.
Posted on 8/22/23 at 10:31 pm to East Coast Band
not offering solutions to something like a problem at work is woman 101
Posted on 8/22/23 at 10:37 pm to GreatLakesTiger24
One of the reasons the 1950's were so great in America is because all the wives were on valium.
Posted on 8/22/23 at 10:48 pm to East Coast Band
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I made the near fatal mistake of simply offering some solutions to her problem.
Welcome to the club... I tell ya... I get into trouble when I wasn't even there...
The worst thing about an argument with a woman is when the say: "I know you, so I know what you were GOING to do."
Posted on 8/22/23 at 10:54 pm to deltaland
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I’m willing to bet she hasn’t sacrificed anything she likes because of the cost
We both have.
Posted on 8/22/23 at 11:06 pm to East Coast Band
Women in general complain and get overly emotional, often about things that seem very trivial, with no known beneficial outcome to them or anyone around them. Many times it makes a seemingly benign situation much worse.
There’s an evolutionary reason but my studies haven’t pinpointed it yet.
There’s an evolutionary reason but my studies haven’t pinpointed it yet.
Posted on 8/22/23 at 11:12 pm to Tigers0891
There is no winning for you. Understand this and you'll be better for it.
Posted on 8/23/23 at 12:01 am to AcadieAnne
quote:Women are rarely that clear. If you offer empathy, they want solutions. If you offer solutions they want empathy. If you offer both, who knows what happens to you.
What's wrong with that? It lets men know what's expected up front. If I do want a solution, I'll start with "What do you think about...". Keeps everyone on the same page.
This post was edited on 8/23/23 at 12:06 am
Posted on 8/23/23 at 12:10 am to Stexas
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I too have thirsted
Billy Hoyle learned the hard way too
Posted on 8/23/23 at 5:27 am to East Coast Band
I have made this mistake many of times. I had to learn that lesson the hard way.
Now I've learned the simple but effective art of smiling and nodding. Then at the end, throw in a "I'm sorry baby, they shouldn't have done that. That was wrong. I can understand your pain and you're so valid in that. I don't want to see you upset.
Many times after that, she will start to gradually feel better. Mission accomplished. Other times, she will ask me, "so what do you think I should do". Then I can finally give solutions. But never ever ever jump immediately to giving solutions unless they specifically ask for it.
Now I've learned the simple but effective art of smiling and nodding. Then at the end, throw in a "I'm sorry baby, they shouldn't have done that. That was wrong. I can understand your pain and you're so valid in that. I don't want to see you upset.
Many times after that, she will start to gradually feel better. Mission accomplished. Other times, she will ask me, "so what do you think I should do". Then I can finally give solutions. But never ever ever jump immediately to giving solutions unless they specifically ask for it.
Posted on 8/23/23 at 5:40 am to East Coast Band
No comment…….lol
Posted on 8/23/23 at 5:41 am to East Coast Band
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Today, the wife was expressing her displeasure with some shenanigans going on at work (boss's kid getting special treatment, etc), and I made the near fatal mistake of simply offering some solutions to her problem. Further, yesterday morning she complained about being tired waking up many mornings and I also stupidly privided a suggestion for that, too. Now, she's pissed that I just didn't listen.
Posted on 8/23/23 at 5:43 am to Lsupimp
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Lsupimp
Still a broken man I see.
Posted on 8/23/23 at 5:50 am to East Coast Band
Divorce is the best thing to ever happen to me.
Life is good now.
Life is good now.
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