re: Is it trashy to live with your SO before marriage?

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To the OP.. Do you buy a car without test driving it?

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I'm not the OP nor do I care if people live together before marriage but this is a terrible example. Works for some but clearly is not necessary.

Oh and ftr, I research like crazy before I even sit in the car, much less drive it.

I agree.

So is there any reason this is trashy besides religious ones?

Or maybe parental objections, but that just stems from religious reasons anyway.

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Pectus

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So why is it trashy in your view?

If you're living together before marriage, you're defeating the purpose of marriage. The whole point of marriage is to combine households, pool resources, and front poop out babies into a stable, conducive environment.

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you're defeating the purpose of marriage

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how so? how are you taking away from marriage at all?

if marriage was an app, living together would just be marriage lite

Yes it's trashy.

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if marriage was an app, living together would just be marriage lite

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Basically, you're being married without being married. The only difference between living together when you're not married and being married is that there's a piece of paper saying saying "she gets half your stuff if you split up". Heck, in many states, you are considered in a "common law marriage" if you live together for 5 or more years.

Imagine you like beer, and there's a bar next door that lets you drink all you want of your chosen brew for free. Would you buy six packs of that beer? Would you pay for the expense of a kegerator and purchase kegs of that beer to drink at home? You could, but what's the point? You're already getting what you want, so why go through the trouble and expense?

Not as trashy as asking the OT if it's trashy.

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No, it makes sense moneywise

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This ^^