re: I'm Going To Break A Girl's Heart Tonight

I really hope you're cool with her fricking every one of your friends.

And she's going to do every nasty thing she never did with you with all of them.

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I am not gay.

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But are you willing to learn?

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Don't hem and haw. Don't call to see how she's doing. Just end it. If she's the dramatic type, don't fall for the bs; tell her call a friend.

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Excellent advice. Never works well... you're going to want to console her to save YOUR feelings and you'll just make it worse.

Like NoHo says, tell her to cry to a girlfriend, not you. I guarantee you she's going to want/need to talk about it.

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32 is young.

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The danger is she'll have to settle for some frick like me, who had to get brained with an iron skillet before marrying at age 39. As for kids, forget about it: the only reason we had any was because my wife stopped taking bc without telling me … a move for which I am forever grateful, considering we are the blessed parents of an incredibly beautiful 17-year-old daughter.

Let's be honest here: the odds of finding a normal early 30's guy who wants to get married and have a family are pretty slim.

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There is no cheating involved.

I am not gay.

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That post made me laugh out loud for real.

And seriously, the #1 best reason not to get married is because you aren't ready to (be it because of the woman, the step of marriage, whatever). I faced this with my gf of five+ years from college, and the only reason we aren't married today is because I wasn't ready for that step yet (wanted to marry her eventually, just not at that time).

Ten years on into your 30s is a little different, but despite what people have said in this thread (me included), not doing it because you aren't ready and don't want it to happen is as good a reason as any.

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I thought about the holidays. I decided its best not to wait any longer plus I thought it would be better to have her family around for her.

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Yeah, bruh, get it over with tonight. Don't wait until after Black Friday when she buys your gifts.

Those that have been critical of the OP, what would you propose he do - go forth and marry her?

That would be an outcome sure to make two (2) people miserable and end in divorce. If they had a child or two, you only expand the negative impact of a poor decision. Call the OP what you want, but it is the right decision for him.

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I love how these people who don't even know this guy are telling him to just suck it up and marry this girl even though he obviously doesn't want to

Is that what our lives have become? Just marrying someone because you have been together for a certain period of time?

No wonder the divorce rate is over 50% for married couples now a days.

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You think those old school married people stayed together because they were "happy"? They stuck it out. But not these days... mommy's wittle baby boys gots to be happy... mommy's wittle prince deserves the perfect girl.

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I hope I don't regret it, I really don't think I will. I really hope she is happier in the long run. My sincere wish is for her to find another guy that will love her better than I.

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You don't regret making her waste her 20s and now be in panic mode on marrying a guy as quickly as possible, maybe someone who may be a little below par for her and maybe even abusive with a string of failed relationships? You're a douche.

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RIP in peace

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Swiiiing and a miss.