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re: I'm Going To Break A Girl's Heart Tonight
Posted on 11/12/14 at 3:05 pm to LuckyTiger
Posted on 11/12/14 at 3:05 pm to LuckyTiger
Why did you have an open ended engagement? I see little point of not setting a date within a few weeks of getting engaged. If anything that in of itself was a good sign that at least one of you was ready to get off the pot.
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Posted on 11/12/14 at 3:05 pm to SabiDojo
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Marriage is a big freaking deal. If you can't do it, don't do it. Props to OP for not being intimidated about the situation. Some people would say, "Well, I can't back out now." Then, they are stuck in a loveless marriage that will most likely end in divorce with children involved.
You're giving the OP way too much of the benefit of the doubt here. He's been in a relationship for 10 fricking years and hasn't gotten married, and then has the audacity to propose to her after all that time. In the very least, he should have told her no later than year 3 that he has no intentions of marrying her. The douchebag has most likely wasted her 20s, years she's never getting back. Unless that pussy has come back explaining himself further on why he didn't marry her within these 10 years, I don't think there is plausible scenario unless they've been dating since middle school.
Posted on 11/12/14 at 3:06 pm to OMLandshark
Well put
Posted on 11/12/14 at 3:06 pm to LuckyTiger
You should call her "Bae" tonight right before doing it.
Posted on 11/12/14 at 3:06 pm to Blue Velvet
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Message Posted by Blue Velvet OP don't take this terrible advice above
Like Seinfeld said the first breakup never takes. They'll be back together in a month.
Posted on 11/12/14 at 3:06 pm to Blue Velvet
I love how these people who don't even know this guy are telling him to just suck it up and marry this girl even though he obviously doesn't want to 
Is that what our lives have become? Just marrying someone because you have been together for a certain period of time?
No wonder the divorce rate is over 50% for married couples now a days.
And the guy obviously said he DID want to marry her when he proposed to her.
Yall act like the dude has been stringing her along for 10 years with no intentions of marrying her.
Is that what our lives have become? Just marrying someone because you have been together for a certain period of time?
No wonder the divorce rate is over 50% for married couples now a days.
And the guy obviously said he DID want to marry her when he proposed to her.
Yall act like the dude has been stringing her along for 10 years with no intentions of marrying her.
This post was edited on 11/12/14 at 3:08 pm
Posted on 11/12/14 at 3:07 pm to The Boat
She is 32.
Posted on 11/12/14 at 3:07 pm to LuckyTiger
At least you didn't get married 10 years ago like alot of slapdicks that get married out of high school or right out of college and end up being divorced 10 years later.
Posted on 11/12/14 at 3:07 pm to OMLandshark
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You're giving the OP way too much of the benefit of the doubt here. He's been in a relationship for 10 fricking years and hasn't gotten married, and then has the audacity to propose to her after all that time. In the very least, he should have told her no later than year 3 that he has no intentions of marrying her. The douchebag has most likely wasted her 20s, years she's never getting back. Unless that pussy has come back explaining himself further on why he didn't marry her within these 10 years, I don't think there is plausible scenario unless they've been dating since middle school.
He didn't figure it out until, what, 9 years into the relationship and after they got engaged? Would you rather they get engaged while things are great and THEN get divorced after two kids 9 years later? I think you're being too hard on the OP.
Posted on 11/12/14 at 3:08 pm to LuckyTiger
Also, prepare for about 6-8 months of regret and 'rethinking' if you did the right thing... But try to remember the psychological phenomena called; "The Rosy Retrospection" where you only seem to be able to remember the 'good times'.
I suggest you write out your thoughts RIGHT NOW (as in TODAY) and when you find yourself reminiscing about her, pull it out and read it. Don't hold back in the things you want to tell your 'future self'.
I remember feeling super guilty about it for MONTHS.
The best thing for me was finding a new piece of arse to take my mind off of her and the situation... The old adage of "Best way to get over a girl is to get under a new one" and that shite is the fricking troof.
I suggest you write out your thoughts RIGHT NOW (as in TODAY) and when you find yourself reminiscing about her, pull it out and read it. Don't hold back in the things you want to tell your 'future self'.
I remember feeling super guilty about it for MONTHS.
The best thing for me was finding a new piece of arse to take my mind off of her and the situation... The old adage of "Best way to get over a girl is to get under a new one" and that shite is the fricking troof.
Posted on 11/12/14 at 3:08 pm to LuckyTiger
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She is 32.
She'll be fine. How old are you?
Posted on 11/12/14 at 3:09 pm to OMLandshark
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In the very least, he should have told her no later than year 3 that he has no intentions of marrying her.
She also could have realized he was jacking her along and got out of dodge years ago. Both sound like ding dongs to me.
Posted on 11/12/14 at 3:12 pm to LuckyTiger
Pics to help determine words of advice
Posted on 11/12/14 at 3:12 pm to bbap
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you act like you know all 10 of those years were post college. I didnt see where he said that at all. Hell they could have been dating since HS.
I don't think even high school excuses this bullshite. 10 years would still make them at least 25 and out of college a few years. It's really only Jr High that could possibly be passable, and I've known literally one couple in my entire life that has done this, so I'm saying odds are he's a scumbag and a pussy.
Posted on 11/12/14 at 3:13 pm to Walt OReilly
Walt may be my favorite poster.
Also, Darth and Wafer must have been in a relationship at some point that didn't end well.
ff3manator gives his usual cold hard cut the BS opinion. Appreciate.
777, CptBengal, and Sabojdio? are giants of wisdom.
I'm still working my way through the responses.
Also, Darth and Wafer must have been in a relationship at some point that didn't end well.
ff3manator gives his usual cold hard cut the BS opinion. Appreciate.
777, CptBengal, and Sabojdio? are giants of wisdom.
I'm still working my way through the responses.
Posted on 11/12/14 at 3:13 pm to LuckyTiger
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She is 32.
Hope she likes dogs.
Posted on 11/12/14 at 3:13 pm to LuckyTiger
32 is young.
You are doing the right thing. If y'all have been dating since she was twenty two, well, a lot of people change tremendously from 20, 21 to their early 30's.
And you are 100% sure you don't want this girl in your life anymore? Completely out of your life? Because after tonight you will be looked at as if you are Satan.
You are doing the right thing. If y'all have been dating since she was twenty two, well, a lot of people change tremendously from 20, 21 to their early 30's.
And you are 100% sure you don't want this girl in your life anymore? Completely out of your life? Because after tonight you will be looked at as if you are Satan.
Posted on 11/12/14 at 3:14 pm to OMLandshark
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The douchebag has most likely wasted her 20s, years she's never getting back.
Why do people keep saying shite like this? Is your life wasted if you aren't married? Is it any worse than getting married and then divorced 10 years later, with joint financial commitments and possibly children?
I'm sure there have been doubts for awhile, but it's hard to pull the trigger after you have been together more than a few years. I applaud the OP.
Posted on 11/12/14 at 3:15 pm to LuckyTiger
6 year relationship and . did this advice- your name will be drug in the mud with mutual friends
This post was edited on 11/12/14 at 6:56 pm
Posted on 11/12/14 at 3:15 pm to Blue Velvet
quote:I don't believe I gave any advice.
Message Posted by Blue Velvet OP don't take this terrible advice above
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