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re: Getting financially screwed in divorce
Posted on 2/23/24 at 7:47 am to GreenRockTiger
Posted on 2/23/24 at 7:47 am to GreenRockTiger
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This is unlikely, women do not leave without something lined up…
bullshite - I know plenty of women that have left ‘without something lined up’
yeah, women don't need something else lined up, if they've had enough... once they are emotionally done, it's done, and was likely done for a while before being officially done done...
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Posted on 2/23/24 at 7:52 am to Limitlesstigers
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Three words: South Dakota Trust
Wow
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South Dakota is fast becoming a mini-Switzerland for the world’s rich. Analysts and local politicians estimate that $250 billion to $900 billion is now stashed in South Dakota trusts by the likes of Chinese billionaires looking to keep their fortunes out of reach of the government, Europeans looking to avoid taxes and Americans looking to shield wealth from spouses.
Posted on 2/23/24 at 7:56 am to Furlong the Red
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When a woman starts listening to her friends, your relationship is 1000% over.
This is the absolute truth.
Especially if those women are currently single and miserable, they will drag whoever they can into their misery. Does not matter how good of a husband or father you may be.
Women are easily influenced, and if they also have a friend that knows how to milk a divorce, you are done. This has been in the works well before she alerted you.
Posted on 2/23/24 at 7:56 am to crazyatthecamp
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Both of us have a pension.
Govt jobs are sweet.
Posted on 2/23/24 at 8:00 am to crazyatthecamp
Don’t enter contracts that can be unilaterally broken by people who are rewarded for doing so.
Posted on 2/23/24 at 8:01 am to chRxis
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yeah, women don't need something else lined up, if they've had enough... once they are emotionally done, it's done, and was likely done for a while before being officially done done...
This.
Way too many dudes in here believe women think like men.
Women will typically actively “try” (even if done poorly) to make the marriage work even when it’s clearly a lost cause, up until the point where they wake up one morning and are simply over it and over you. That’s why so many guys claim they “never saw it coming”. Even though it was years in the making (and should have been obvious), the end is sudden when a woman ends it.
It’s usually not another guy. It’s usually that she simply runs out of the emotional capital needed to stay in a dead marriage.
Guys on the other hand are more likely to soldier on in a sterile cold marriage indefinitely because it’s not as much of an emotional drain. I really believe this is why women file more frequently than men.
This post was edited on 2/23/24 at 8:03 am
Posted on 2/23/24 at 8:13 am to Dadren
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Women will typically actively “try” (even if done poorly) to make the marriage work even when it’s clearly a lost cause, up until the point where they wake up one morning and are simply over it and over you. That’s why so many guys claim they “never saw it coming”. Even though it was years in the making (and should have been obvious), the end is sudden when a woman ends it.
It’s usually not another guy. It’s usually that she simply runs out of the emotional capital needed to stay in a dead marriage.
Guys on the other hand are more likely to soldier on in a sterile cold marriage indefinitely because it’s not as much of an emotional drain. I really believe this is why women file more frequently than men.
very well said, and EXACTLY right
Posted on 2/23/24 at 8:15 am to BradBallard
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You made out well.
he ain't got this.... this is his wish list of things he HOPES to keep/get... reality is gonna be a bigger bitch than this future ex-wife of his
Posted on 2/23/24 at 8:16 am to Furlong the Red
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Don't ever get married in Louisiana.
Better yet, don't get married period. It's not worth it anymore, if it even was to begin with.
Sorry you have such a miserable life. Been married a number of years and got married in Louisiana. Wouldn't do anything differently.
Posted on 2/23/24 at 8:18 am to HeartAttackTiger
I have avoided marriage for a while because I don't need the government involved in my relationships. When it's time to quit just do it, no judge needed.
This post was edited on 2/23/24 at 8:23 am
Posted on 2/23/24 at 8:18 am to Furlong the Red
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She's not different. She just got tired of putting up a front for you. You're actually seeing the real her for the first time.
So far, after a number of years, mine is still the same person I married. And that's a good thing.
Posted on 2/23/24 at 8:21 am to WeeWee
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Also why did you get married without a prenup?
Prenup - are you saying every marriage, regardless of situation and age, should have one?
Posted on 2/23/24 at 8:22 am to foj1981
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I’m divorced three times. I’ve got nothing for ya
3 Times - at least you recognize you are partly responsible for relationships not working out.
Posted on 2/23/24 at 8:34 am to HeartAttackTiger
Just ignore the prenup idiots. Maybe 10% of those stating such actually have one. Probably less than that considering where most of us live. Just more internet larping.
Posted on 2/23/24 at 8:46 am to HeartAttackTiger
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Prenup - are you saying every marriage, regardless of situation and age, should have one?
When I was in law school my female family law attorney told us that the people most benefited by community property were creditors and everyone should cancel their community property regime.
Iit’s not a full prenup but my wife and I opted out of community property.
Posted on 2/23/24 at 8:47 am to crazyatthecamp
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So in these community property states she gets equity from my first house and my retirement funds in my name and a big chunk of my bigger pension.
She effectively will retire nice and rich in her mid 50s.....while my plans will be delayed at least a few years at the same age.
That's so fricking sideways. Sorry to hear that, man.
There was a thread not long ago about divorce and the man basically had to pay an ex-wife for like decades, as if she were an employee. It was ridiculous.
The courts are so slanted against men when it comes to divorce and child custody. It's fricking disgusting and needs a MASSIVE overhaul.
Posted on 2/23/24 at 9:04 am to LemmyLives
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divorce via mediator
I've not been through a divorce, but I've always read this is the way to go. Especially so if your wife is somewhat reasonable or feels somewhat responsible for the divorce.
With an arbiter in place, you and your ex set the terms of the divorce instead of the courts, allowing you to make deals with her to allay your concerns on some matters while allaying hers with others. You're worried most about your retirement savings....so you say, "look, given our age difference, giving up a significant portion of my retirement savings is going to hurt me a lot and could have me working until the day I die...I know X is important to you. What can we work out between us to make us both happy?". Hell, offer her the house and you'll pay a % of the mortgage in exchange for a 25% reduction in what she takes out of your retirement..something along those lines.
Again, having not been through a divorce, I'm not sure if you can even stomach to look at her at this point, much less sit across a table to have a reasonable conversation to split things in a way that won't damage either of you too much. But, if there's still some semblance of reasonableness, or you think she feels even a little guilty, it's worth pursuing doing this through mediation rather than court.
Posted on 2/23/24 at 9:07 am to lsusa
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I understand and agree with the point you’re making. It’s wrong for parents to use the kids to hurt each other.
WE KNOW that.
It doesn't stop the other from doing it anyway and for that express reason.
Posted on 2/23/24 at 9:12 am to crazyatthecamp
Please post a link to the pics of this bitch!
Thanks!
Thanks!
Posted on 2/23/24 at 9:14 am to CocomoLSU
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That's so fricking sideways. Sorry to hear that, man.
There was a thread not long ago about divorce and the man basically had to pay an ex-wife for like decades, as if she were an employee. It was ridiculous.
The courts are so slanted against men when it comes to divorce and child custody. It's fricking disgusting and needs a MASSIVE overhaul.
my buddy here in kansas got divorced back during covid. He intentionally backed off of assets he could have claimed just to be able to still have shared custody of his two daughters. Evil count ex put on a good face until she had him by the balls and then still went after the custody, accusing him of all sorts of shite that never happened. Dude got wrecked financially trying to fight it and still lost custody (outside of weekend visits). Thankfully the older daughter is choosing to stay with him more now. He's been fricked out of a relationship with the younger one though.
It was tough seeing him go through all of it and the hell it put him through.
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