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imasculate her back. That’ll learn her.

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Women already find it creepy enough when random men compliment their bodily appearance, but doing it in such a descriptive way is serial killer vibes. Next time just say you like her sweater.

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This really should be common knowledge.

If she really is obviously and uncommonly pretty, she’s hearing that 20 times a day from horny and creepy dudes. Best case is your “compliment” is just background noise. Likely you’ll simply get a reaction like the OP did.

Compliment things she has done instead, like a nicely-chosen piece of clothing, or how she does her hair. Bonus points for combos like how jewelry matches/accents something else.

Stay away from body parts. And obviously, FFS, don’t just be like “someone should pay you for being purdy hur hur”. Might as well follow up with handing her a coupon for three free months of onlyfans hosting.

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Rule #1 i was taught was never point a firearm at something you don't intend to shoot.

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I thought it was “treat every gun like it’s loaded, all other rules follow from this”

Case in point, if the gun being loaded was at the forefront of his mind, he wouldn’t have left it lying around for his untrained, emotionally-disregulated wife to potentially pick up….or worse, his kid.

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Perhaps I over share and it can come back to bite me.

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Depending on what you’ve shared, it could be time to go if you think it might limit your opportunities there.

If it’s not that, I don’t think your coworkers should be a factor in your decision (unless they’re asshats who make you miserable). And I stress the word “coworkers” because as others have said, that’s all they are. These relationships are contingent on your employment status and theirs and once either changes, the relationship is probably over.

Focus on the work and who it serves. If that still appeals to you and you’re compensated fairly, stay.

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All of sudden we will have tons of meaningful games in November as lots of teams on the bubble fight to get into the CFP.

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Yeah, at the expense of a top 15 matchup in November that was meaningful and now is not as those two teams are going to be a lock and are thinking abut pulling starters at halftime.

Call me crazy, but I prefer that the best teams have meaningful games. Not mediocre teams who are fighting to stay ranked.

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This board is wild. He is throwing for less than 2 TDs and 200 yards a game. That has to be some kind of bare minimum in the NFL for a starting QB.

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I don’t think anyone is saying he’s the OPOY, but comeback player of the year? If he keeps winning, why not?

I wouldn’t exactly call it a “feel-good story” but he’s effectively resurrected a career that many thought was long dead.

So…a man can heckle a player at an NBA game, but if he heckles a player in a WNBA game…he probably commits domestic abuse?

And at the same time, they want us to take them seriously as a sports league. Got it.

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True. But I’m wondering, what evidence there is that she was raped? I see she’s accused him of rape. And he’s saying it was consensual.

How can either be proven?

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After she called the police, they took her to the hospital and she spent seven hours there, so I’ll leave the “prove it” part up to them.

My point was that we shouldn’t be mixing the concepts of sex and rape together, which is what the guy I was responding to was struggling with. Yes, she should have expected him to want to have sex with her. She shouldn’t expect to be raped. If she’s not interested she should be free to walk out the door. Seems basic but again, some posters struggle with this concept.

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All I'm saying is why would she think he wasn't going to try?

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I’m sure she imagined that he would try to have sex with her. It’s even possible that a part of her might have even considered it.

Getting raped isn’t even in the same universe here dude.

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merely questioned

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Which is it, drama queen? You said you argued with him in the OP.

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Relax and take your obesity meds fatty

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No need for insults. Why are all you drama queens so sensitive?

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You think new law associates at big firms or investment bankers are leaving at 5 p.m.?

At some of these firms, they're lucky to leave at 10 p.m.

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The OP didn’t mention what field he was in.

And even so, it’s up to the A) firm to hire people who understand this and are willing to work like this and B) Old fart veterans like the OP to reinforce that as the workplace standard.

If neither of these are happening, then the OP is complaining about a standard that isn’t real.