re: Do men willingly have platonic female friends?

I think it depends on the dude. Plenty of dudes out there who have always had female friends (and aren’t trying to sleep with them). Also plenty of dudes who aren’t really the type to be friends with women.

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I think it depends on the dude. Plenty of dudes out there who have always had female friends (and aren’t trying to sleep with them).

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Sorry Mrs. Lady, but this isn’t correct. A guy can be friendly with women in a group setting. They can be friendly at work.

But it is nearly impossible for a man to want to be an actual friend where you talk on the phone or text all the time and hang out without wanting something more. I’m telling you, it’s virtually impossible.

Friendly acquaintances in a group setting - sure. Actual platonic friends? No way.

I'll amend a bit. When I moved to dallas I only had 1 real established Miami friend who had moved. It is chick that is attractive but isn't my style at all.

She has a group of 8 or so extremely attractive women who kind of "took me in". Of course I want to sleep with them all, but if I did I would kind of lose 90% of the people I like in Dallas

I have a couple really good female friends. They actually give me honest insight on how the other side thinks. It's more than possible, but some guys/girls have more issues than others with doing it.

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Sorry Mrs. Lady, but this isn’t correct.

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Just because you aren’t this guy doesn’t mean there aren’t guys out there like this.
She’s correct. It just depends on the guy. Obviously there are guys out there that just hate women and want nothing but sex from them, many have voiced that here. Some men are good being friends in social settings and some actually appreciate having a close platonic female friend.
I have two close male friends. We don’t talk/text every day but we often do things together. There is no expectation of sex but they realize the benefits of having a close female friend.

I always smh when this thread comes up every now and again, it's like the topic is a meme that has just been circulated and repeated so often that people just agree with it out of some kind of natural reaction.

If you're post-puberty age, it is actually possible to *GASP* have a female friend you dont' want to frick. Years ago I moved out of state and didn't know many people. I needed somewhere to live and searched aroudn and ended up meeting a female that I would end up living with. We became good friends, and there was nothign physical or sexaul about it, she was simply a friend. No "will they won't they" shite, no "oops dropped my towel hehe" moments, our lives were the same as any guy roommate I've ever had only a lot cleaner.

There's a spinoff question I've seen in here about preferring that over the other and I think that answer is an obvious hard no. There isn't a female on earth I'd PREFER to hang out with (except my wife I guess) over my guy friends. But to think that it is literally IMPOSSIBLE to be friends with a female without wanting to bed them is just insanely off base.

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I count this as an affirmative. I figured there had to be some men out there with female buddies

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He's only platonic with her because shes unattractive. Otherwise he'd get handsy with her.

Your roommate wasn't much to look at was she?

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without ever thinking of sex.

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I think that the contents of someone's deep dark thoughts are less important than their behavior.

Obviously, not a good idea to be friends with someone who actively/consciously wants you. But if way deep down in someone's brain, they would sleep with you in an alternate universe under different circumstances, whatever. Who cares? What is important is whether they behave that way.