re: Depression is real, and scary

As a fellow teacher and a husband to a wife who deals with depression, my heart goes out to you man.

Just remember, it’s okay to be discouraged by everything going, it’s not exactly a fun time in the world. Hell, I’ve even felt a little blue lately just from being away from friends more than usual.

Just take solace in the things you do have. Two weeks married is an awesome time. Me and my wife just made a year and we’ve started to cook new recipes together every night and are having a blast.

Try more creative outlets that aren’t just straight up media (writing, music, take an online course).

Khan academy has a lot of free, really interesting courses. I’ve been working on my science certification and have had a blast.

Bought a harmonica online and work on it between 15 mins a day to 3 hours just because it wraps me up sometimes.

Worked on a short story idea I’ve been kicking around for years but finally had a chance to put it to paper. Am I going to publish it? No, but it was still gratifying to get it done.

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Also, I miss the time when men didn’t use words like “emotions

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Tell that to all the people who lost someone to suicide including combat veterans.

I was expecting this post when I first read the op. It shows that you know nothing of depression and a big part of the stigma surrounding it.

There seems to be a big portion of society that think depression = being sad. Although sadness is one common symptom of depression, it’s far from the only one.

If I knew nothing of real depression, I think I’d see the op as an overreaction or overly dramatic. He didn’t mention anything life ending so what’s the big deal,right?

Depression can make the most simple of daily tasks, routine or trouble an impossible endeavor. I recently had a couple days that I literally could not get dressed. I needed meds from Walgreens and got them the following day because I couldn’t put on my pants. I know it sounds like bullshite but many in this thread have felt this way. My mind races typically searching for anything I could dwell on to hate myself mixed with rapidly changing thoughts creating confusion. At 1230 I tried again to put on pants but all I would think about were failing so I broke out in cold sweat and shakes.

Depression also doesn’t just go away. The meds are littered with terrible side effects but the pain of such darkness is so great, I deal with the bad shite. I don’t wish this on anyone.

Life sucks for us non-elite poors.
I’ve been watching a lot of old college and NFL games on YouTube to keep my spirits up.
You should dabble into that.

Laying in that hospital bed after the stroke I was wishing I had died
as all of this unfolded I felt sorry for myself thought how will I ever learn to walk again, Will it ever be able to drive again Will I ever be independent and the weight of all those feelings just crushed me I couldn't think of anything else so I was constantly in a state of feeling overwhelmed and like I would survive the next 20 years as a pathetic blob just lying in a rehab bed

And then slowly I had different thoughts I saw all the people on the board that were supporting me my family that loves me began to think about the things I like to do when wanting to do them and then embracing the challenge of walking again talking again The idea of throwing a football right now to me seems like the best thing I can do I want to do that so much that I just fight and even though each day my improvement is minimal sometimes so much so I can't even notice it and sometimes the pain is so severe the whole body hurts from it

but still I remember there are those that believe in me The support from them board the love for my family and friends and I determined to keep going for them

Realize that you have those same people your wife your family your friends and they want you to be better they want you to be happy they want you to win You have a lot to live for

I don’t know why, but my anxiety issues have increased a lot since all of the shutdown/closures started in March. I guess spending so much time at home gives me more time to think about the things that make me anxious. The negative impacts for me have been enormous.

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Do it. There is absolutely no downside.

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Medicine and counseling should always go together in my experience. They both help in separate ways but are most helpful when put together.

Congratulations on the marriage.

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Depression is real, and scary

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Yes & yes.

Thank God for chemicals that get me back to normal.

Sorry to hear this OP. I dealt with a lot of anxiety when I was younger and went to a therapist who helped me a lot get through some tough things. A good therapist can really help, both of you have to connect for sure. My uncle committed suicide around the age of 60, he talked most of his life about doing it and that’s what he finally did. If you ever get to that dark, dark place. Get help, don’t leave your family behind.